July '08 filers

[Ev&Saya 0]

Chelle i am so sorry to read what happened to you today. You cant go this far with him giving up on you i am sure he must be blowing off some steam. You are in my prayers.

I do have another question, my lawyer said i need a joint sponser if i dont have enough income on my 2007 tax return. I do not have enough income on there because i only worked at my new job since August in 2007 but i do make well over the 17,500 dollars. Cant i just show my pay stub with a letter from my employer saying i do make sufficient income which is very true and i can comfirm that on my pay stub? I do have a joint sponser who is my sister but i only want to use her in worst case senario. What should i do?

[Aubrey 10]

Chelle i am so sorry to read what happened to you today. You cant go this far with him giving up on you i am sure he must be blowing off some steam. You are in my prayers.

I do have another question, my lawyer said i need a joint sponser if i dont have enough income on my 2007 tax return. I do not have enough income on there because i only worked at my new job since August in 2007 but i do make well over the 17,500 dollars. Cant i just show my pay stub with a letter from my employer saying i do make sufficient income which is very true and i can comfirm that on my pay stub? I do have a joint sponser who is my sister but i only want to use her in worst case senario. What should i do?

What I've understood is that you only need to presently meet the requirement. I would add a letter explaining what you just did to us, and possible add your assets. You shouldn't need a cosponsor.

[PB&JAM 1]

I saw 5 September filers got approved thursday. i'm actually getting pretty mad. Do you guys think it would be a bad idea if i drove down there to CSC? Say, i dont get my noa2 still by January? I hate doing things over the phone. I only live about a half hour away from CSC. Unless any others still waiting want to come down with me and protest?

:protest:

[panterchen 1]

PB &Jam,

I wish there was something we could do.

Look at us June filers. Still waiting, and the past month we have almost exclusively seen July and August being approved. Even though two June filers got in there last week.

Don't know if VSC knows what an 'ORDER' is.

[Cham 3]

Its over, Keith left me tonight. He said he cant do this anymore, its doing his head in. He is tired of immigration , he is tired of people saying they will help us and then changing there minds. OMG he said Goodbye Chelle and disapeared, I begged him , I begged him but he just said no no more.

I am broken

are you serious????????????? I am in total shock and crying so hard for you tonight. Had he planned to leave?? I mean your busting your butt and he runs..sorry I think that is bullsh*t Chelle. I realize he is fustrated but give me a break hunny. He ran when you needed him most. If he loved you he would be busting his butt with you to help you find a way.

to me that is being a coward.

Sorry if that hurts babygirl..BUT you been through hell and back and I know he is hurting but that is #######.

I hope he will consider the hell YOU been through because it is you both not just him.

Maybe if you have to girl..take on a part time job that will equal the 17,500 for the 125% I went ahead and took that job anyway (save up for a wedding) its only 3 days a week BUT it puts us at 26,130 with my SSI payments from the car accident that is owed to me for 10 more years PLUS that job and my current job...

so maybe think about that..I know it might wear you down..BUT if he is truly worth it..then do it. If he tells you NO tell him IF you love me you will stand by my damn side and stick this out. Let me do this for US.

stand firm girl! Will pray lots for you and him and I know he is fustrated but he cant run..thats silly

I was reading your back post on some issues you all had and I am going to quote them.

I see some red flags about you both and I do not mean to make you upset..just some things to consider.

Coria,

I have been in this same situation. Alot know my story but I am going to tell you it. My guy came to america from England to be with me in august of 07. We got a lawyer and decided to go with the marriage and then file the paperwork needed. We was told that he could stay with me in the states while the process was being done as long as he didnt leave the country. The plans was to be married on may3,08.

On May 2 , he was to meet me in the city for my birthday celebration with my girls. I waited for him for 5 hours, calling his cell phone every 5 minutes, it was shut off. Finally after phoning all the hospitals in the area, thinking he had been in a car accident it hit me that something was really bad. I went to the bus station to see if my car was there , thinking maybe he had left but it wasnt. I went to the airport to see if my car was there, my daughter tried his cell one last time and he picked up, he told her he was out of the country, she knew he wasnt as he was on a tracfone which doesnt work out of the country but what he had meant was that he was in customs. He got scared, cold feet what ever you want to call it and just jumped on a plane without any notice, note or anything. As he was considered a over stay at this point there was no turning back. My heart broke, I crashed big time. I fell to the ground and my girls had to pick me up, I ran through the airport screaming his name, thinking he was still there but in reality he was already in boston at this time.

The next day I went to our wedding, hoping that he had just rented a car and was driving around, thinking that he had cold feet and would really show up and sweep me off my feet and take all the pain away. He didnt show of course as he was already back in England. When I returned home my phone was ringing and it was him. I cried so hard when I heard his voice and so did he. He knew what he had done but didnt understand why he had done it. He said he lost all train of thought and reason and just walked away. There was a couple of times that he turned back before he actually got to customs, and he actually went back to the car and was going to come to the place to meet me but when he got there he remembered that he had locked the keys inside of the car and there was no way out , his thoughts was that he couldnt call me because I would know what his plans were so he ran. He was selfish yes and he hurt me very deeply with his choices.

He ran once hunny..from you from your wedding.

then this one sweetie

Our plans are all on hold yet again. I return to Maine on the 1st of December and need to get back to work and find a place to live. Seeing as we dont know when this will get done and we will have the visa , we have decided not to make any future plans as I cant take let downs again.

Two weeks ago Keith tells me that even if the visa is here in December he isnt coming home to me because he owes his parents money for helping us out while here. His parents paid for the 6 months so that we could have a place. Keith went back to work at the place he use to work at but having stayed with me for so long in Maine he had gone through all of his savings. I am really upset that yet again he is putting our lives on hold.. I know some of you will say.. understand what he is feeling owing his family money etc and yes I do but at the same time there is always something in the way. I love him and I will wait forever for him but that doesnt mean I have to like it .

My hopes for plans are that he will miss me so much that by the time the visa comes he will tell me he is on his way and we will beable to continue on with the plans from the beginning. I have already told him if he does this then I will help him to pay them back in full. He knows I will do this so I am going to stay positive, focused and yes the big P word I will work really hard to be Patient

I guess I am just down as I cant imagine xmas without him there. I know most of you have been apart for so long and probally feel that I am being silly. I do treasure the time we have been able to spend together and I will survive the holidays but what is hard for me is this... I know that on xmas day, he will be surrounded by his family, his son, and his EX WIFE as his mother considers her family still. So I sit home all alone on xmas day , knowing that they are celebrating the holiday together , just hurts alot. I do trust him but still its the point. He says , I dont understand that things are different and he also says her being there is NO big deal... He doesnt love her and hasnt for a long time and that he loves me so I have nothing to worry about. Worry, isnt the problem , sharing that special day without him is the problem .. sorry I am rambling again... I just will be glad when this is finished and we can all relax and just be happy.

It sounds to me he is filled with every excuse in the book. He hopped on a plane leaving you and you thinking you were getting married. Then he makes the excuse he wont be coming home UNTIL he pays of his mommy and daddy...WHEN in fact he could do that with you in the states.

I think you both need to sit down and discuss this before you make HUGE plans like getting married. He sounds as if he does not know what he really wants and maybe trying to find an excuse to get out of it. He sounds scared. I am NOT saying he is or that he is thinking this hun. BUT your past history with him is not really that good with him running everytime there is a booboo.

I hope i did not hurt you..I just care deeply for you. I think your an amazing gal and a good friend and a sister to us here and to me. I hate seeing any of you hurt. I feel like a mother lion protecting her flock LOL

HUGS!!!!!!! PLEASE email me here if you just need to vent ANYTIME!!

Meri

PS we got the NVC letter in the mail today as well..THAT was fast!!

I saw 5 September filers got approved thursday. i'm actually getting pretty mad. Do you guys think it would be a bad idea if i drove down there to CSC? Say, i dont get my noa2 still by January? I hate doing things over the phone. I only live about a half hour away from CSC. Unless any others still waiting want to come down with me and protest?

:protest:

if you do not have it on that 6 month date CALL your congressman because that is BS hun!! Its fustrating me to see all my VJ sisters and brothers suffering because they do not have you all approved yet!! Why get sept when july is still in hold!! I can call the Sopranos..YOOOOOOO VINNY!!!! MUAHAHAH

[Cham 3]

wow everything is moving fast I found out that the Sydney consulate HAS received his visa info on the 19th ( our 18th)

so that was heck fast!!! Some guy named Aaron signed for it

Im shaking sooooo bad...so much to do..

QUESTION...since i met the 125% and I have the info from bank (print out from website account) can I just use that...everyone is saying because i meet the guidelines anyway I really do not need the bank stuff

I also have to write a letter explaining why I had a low tax return and I also included letters from family friends that are in support I also found out in feb I am getting a raise SOOO that would put me at 18300 without my ssi..

GOD im freaking out now...I hope it is all I need

Im drawing BLANKS!!!!!!

helppppppppppppp

[Chelle62 0]

This will be my final post. It can be deleted moved , I dont care but you are all the only family I have now and I want you to know my story because its all about to end.

When I was 9 years old my parents got divorced, my dad left and I was lost without him, he was the best father there was. My mom was angry and she took it out on me , the abuse started and continued for years. When I was 12 to the age of 16 my mothers boyfriend sexually abused me , my mom didnt care , finally I ran away and went and lived with my father. I was married to a abusive man for many years and I had given up any hope of finding someone who would be nice and gentle with me and then Keith came along and showed me how a woman should be treated. He was gentle and kind and when he touched me it was love. He never raised his hand to me in anger and when he held me in his arms I felt safe for the first time in my life.

My father died when I was 25 years old, he was 46 the same age that I am now. I have struggled with this pain all these years as I was a daddys girl and dammit I need him now.

What kind of a man can leave me on my birthday, what kind of a man can leave me a week before xmas, what kind of a man can hurt me so deeply and just disapear off the face of the earth and not give a #### , what kind of a man can do this?????

Christmas eve is so hard for me as that is the time I would spend with my dad and I miss him so much. Last year Keith sat and held me in his arms the entire night and told me he loved me and that he would be with me for always. LIES LIES LIES

This Christmas Eve I give myself a present and it will be the best present in the world and I wont be lonely anymore, No man will ever break my heart again, no man will ever hurt me again no man will ever mess me up ever again NO MORE

I say goodbye to all of you and I wish you all the best and all the luck with yur loves. Hold them tight , dont take them for granted and tell them you love them everyday and never ever give up because its horrible.

I love you all and I am sorry that I am not strong engough to do this anymore. I am sitting here listening to our son... you light up my life when I sent this to him 2 years ago today he cried and told me this is OUR song.. more lies?

on xcmas eve I will listen to this song, I will light my candle and I will drink a glass of wine, I will be all alone and never will I be again

Goodbye everyone and god bless you all

Hugsss

Chelle

[Naglfar 0]

wow everything is moving fast I found out that the Sydney consulate HAS received his visa info on the 19th ( our 18th)

so that was heck fast!!! Some guy named Aaron signed for it

Im shaking sooooo bad...so much to do..

How did you guys and gals find out when the embassy received your case? Did you get a DHL tracking number from NVC? I never asked, but I might if that's the case, although I'm much more interested in interview date than the arrival to the embassy date. Barring some extraordinary circumstances, it should get there OK.

[panterchen 1]

This will be my final post. It can be deleted moved , I dont care but you are all the only family I have now and I want you to know my story because its all about to end.

When I was 9 years old my parents got divorced, my dad left and I was lost without him, he was the best father there was. My mom was angry and she took it out on me , the abuse started and continued for years. When I was 12 to the age of 16 my mothers boyfriend sexually abused me , my mom didnt care , finally I ran away and went and lived with my father. I was married to a abusive man for many years and I had given up any hope of finding someone who would be nice and gentle with me and then Keith came along and showed me how a woman should be treated. He was gentle and kind and when he touched me it was love. He never raised his hand to me in anger and when he held me in his arms I felt safe for the first time in my life.

My father died when I was 25 years old, he was 46 the same age that I am now. I have struggled with this pain all these years as I was a daddys girl and dammit I need him now.

What kind of a man can leave me on my birthday, what kind of a man can leave me a week before xmas, what kind of a man can hurt me so deeply and just disapear off the face of the earth and not give a #### , what kind of a man can do this?????

Christmas eve is so hard for me as that is the time I would spend with my dad and I miss him so much. Last year Keith sat and held me in his arms the entire night and told me he loved me and that he would be with me for always. LIES LIES LIES

This Christmas Eve I give myself a present and it will be the best present in the world and I wont be lonely anymore, No man will ever break my heart again, no man will ever hurt me again no man will ever mess me up ever again NO MORE

I say goodbye to all of you and I wish you all the best and all the luck with yur loves. Hold them tight , dont take them for granted and tell them you love them everyday and never ever give up because its horrible.

I love you all and I am sorry that I am not strong engough to do this anymore. I am sitting here listening to our son... you light up my life when I sent this to him 2 years ago today he cried and told me this is OUR song.. more lies?

on xcmas eve I will listen to this song, I will light my candle and I will drink a glass of wine, I will be all alone and never will I be again

Goodbye everyone and god bless you all

Hugsss

Chelle

Chelle, I do not find any words to express my sadness when I read your post nor do I know how to help you in this situation because I am afraid you can only help yourself!!!

Please be careful and take care of yourself. Try to be with friends that can help you and where you can stay so you don't have to be alone. Giving up is never a real solution. You deserve so much better than what you had. If Keith isn't wlling to give it to you then I am sure he didn't see what a strong woman you were in the past and still are right now.

Please, take care of yourself!!!

[Cham 3]

wow everything is moving fast I found out that the Sydney consulate HAS received his visa info on the 19th ( our 18th)

so that was heck fast!!! Some guy named Aaron signed for it

Im shaking sooooo bad...so much to do..

How did you guys and gals find out when the embassy received your case? Did you get a DHL tracking number from NVC? I never asked, but I might if that's the case, although I'm much more interested in interview date than the arrival to the embassy date. Barring some extraordinary circumstances, it should get there OK.

well I saw something from dhl I called nvc back and they said dhl picked it up on the 15th but sent out ready to ship on the 13th. SO i called the Embassy and embassy said yes it was there..very nice laid back folks there in Sydney..SO FAR SO GOOD

CHELLE take a break..BUT please come back to say hi..pretty please. I worry about you love and you mean so much to us here! I understand your heartache me sweet friend. BIG HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Koakland 0]

This will be my final post. It can be deleted moved , I dont care but you are all the only family I have now and I want you to know my story because its all about to end.

When I was 9 years old my parents got divorced, my dad left and I was lost without him, he was the best father there was. My mom was angry and she took it out on me , the abuse started and continued for years. When I was 12 to the age of 16 my mothers boyfriend sexually abused me , my mom didnt care , finally I ran away and went and lived with my father. I was married to a abusive man for many years and I had given up any hope of finding someone who would be nice and gentle with me and then Keith came along and showed me how a woman should be treated. He was gentle and kind and when he touched me it was love. He never raised his hand to me in anger and when he held me in his arms I felt safe for the first time in my life.

My father died when I was 25 years old, he was 46 the same age that I am now. I have struggled with this pain all these years as I was a daddys girl and dammit I need him now.

What kind of a man can leave me on my birthday, what kind of a man can leave me a week before xmas, what kind of a man can hurt me so deeply and just disapear off the face of the earth and not give a #### , what kind of a man can do this?????

Christmas eve is so hard for me as that is the time I would spend with my dad and I miss him so much. Last year Keith sat and held me in his arms the entire night and told me he loved me and that he would be with me for always. LIES LIES LIES

This Christmas Eve I give myself a present and it will be the best present in the world and I wont be lonely anymore, No man will ever break my heart again, no man will ever hurt me again no man will ever mess me up ever again NO MORE

I say goodbye to all of you and I wish you all the best and all the luck with yur loves. Hold them tight , dont take them for granted and tell them you love them everyday and never ever give up because its horrible.

I love you all and I am sorry that I am not strong engough to do this anymore. I am sitting here listening to our son... you light up my life when I sent this to him 2 years ago today he cried and told me this is OUR song.. more lies?

on xcmas eve I will listen to this song, I will light my candle and I will drink a glass of wine, I will be all alone and never will I be again

Goodbye everyone and god bless you all

Hugsss

Chelle

Chelle, I am very concerned about you. I know that you've had a rough life and that things are not going well for you right now but you can always turn things around. Please don't do anything drastic. There is help out there. I'm sure there is someone in your area that can help you through this difficult time.

[maliciant 7]

This will be my final post. It can be deleted moved , I dont care but you are all the only family I have now and I want you to know my story because its all about to end.

When I was 9 years old my parents got divorced, my dad left and I was lost without him, he was the best father there was. My mom was angry and she took it out on me , the abuse started and continued for years. When I was 12 to the age of 16 my mothers boyfriend sexually abused me , my mom didnt care , finally I ran away and went and lived with my father. I was married to a abusive man for many years and I had given up any hope of finding someone who would be nice and gentle with me and then Keith came along and showed me how a woman should be treated. He was gentle and kind and when he touched me it was love. He never raised his hand to me in anger and when he held me in his arms I felt safe for the first time in my life.

My father died when I was 25 years old, he was 46 the same age that I am now. I have struggled with this pain all these years as I was a daddys girl and dammit I need him now.

What kind of a man can leave me on my birthday, what kind of a man can leave me a week before xmas, what kind of a man can hurt me so deeply and just disapear off the face of the earth and not give a #### , what kind of a man can do this?????

Christmas eve is so hard for me as that is the time I would spend with my dad and I miss him so much. Last year Keith sat and held me in his arms the entire night and told me he loved me and that he would be with me for always. LIES LIES LIES

This Christmas Eve I give myself a present and it will be the best present in the world and I wont be lonely anymore, No man will ever break my heart again, no man will ever hurt me again no man will ever mess me up ever again NO MORE

I say goodbye to all of you and I wish you all the best and all the luck with yur loves. Hold them tight , dont take them for granted and tell them you love them everyday and never ever give up because its horrible.

I love you all and I am sorry that I am not strong engough to do this anymore. I am sitting here listening to our son... you light up my life when I sent this to him 2 years ago today he cried and told me this is OUR song.. more lies?

on xcmas eve I will listen to this song, I will light my candle and I will drink a glass of wine, I will be all alone and never will I be again

Goodbye everyone and god bless you all

Hugsss

Chelle

Um, is this a suicide note? I seriously hope not. Your life has been cruel, and I hope I'm reading way too much into this, but remember you have children, don't be cruel to them. I seriously hope that's not what I'm reading here.

[Cham 3]

This will be my final post. It can be deleted moved , I dont care but you are all the only family I have now and I want you to know my story because its all about to end.

When I was 9 years old my parents got divorced, my dad left and I was lost without him, he was the best father there was. My mom was angry and she took it out on me , the abuse started and continued for years. When I was 12 to the age of 16 my mothers boyfriend sexually abused me , my mom didnt care , finally I ran away and went and lived with my father. I was married to a abusive man for many years and I had given up any hope of finding someone who would be nice and gentle with me and then Keith came along and showed me how a woman should be treated. He was gentle and kind and when he touched me it was love. He never raised his hand to me in anger and when he held me in his arms I felt safe for the first time in my life.

My father died when I was 25 years old, he was 46 the same age that I am now. I have struggled with this pain all these years as I was a daddys girl and dammit I need him now.

What kind of a man can leave me on my birthday, what kind of a man can leave me a week before xmas, what kind of a man can hurt me so deeply and just disapear off the face of the earth and not give a #### , what kind of a man can do this?????

Christmas eve is so hard for me as that is the time I would spend with my dad and I miss him so much. Last year Keith sat and held me in his arms the entire night and told me he loved me and that he would be with me for always. LIES LIES LIES

This Christmas Eve I give myself a present and it will be the best present in the world and I wont be lonely anymore, No man will ever break my heart again, no man will ever hurt me again no man will ever mess me up ever again NO MORE

I say goodbye to all of you and I wish you all the best and all the luck with yur loves. Hold them tight , dont take them for granted and tell them you love them everyday and never ever give up because its horrible.

I love you all and I am sorry that I am not strong engough to do this anymore. I am sitting here listening to our son... you light up my life when I sent this to him 2 years ago today he cried and told me this is OUR song.. more lies?

on xcmas eve I will listen to this song, I will light my candle and I will drink a glass of wine, I will be all alone and never will I be again

Goodbye everyone and god bless you all

Hugsss

Chelle

Um, is this a suicide note? I seriously hope not. Your life has been cruel, and I hope I'm reading way too much into this, but remember you have children, don't be cruel to them. I seriously hope that's not what I'm reading here.

I was thinking the same thing!!

CHELLE hun what YOU need right now is friends so I am sending you my email..PLEASE WRITE ME!!!!!!!!!!!

[Koakland 0]

This will be my final post. It can be deleted moved , I dont care but you are all the only family I have now and I want you to know my story because its all about to end.

When I was 9 years old my parents got divorced, my dad left and I was lost without him, he was the best father there was. My mom was angry and she took it out on me , the abuse started and continued for years. When I was 12 to the age of 16 my mothers boyfriend sexually abused me , my mom didnt care , finally I ran away and went and lived with my father. I was married to a abusive man for many years and I had given up any hope of finding someone who would be nice and gentle with me and then Keith came along and showed me how a woman should be treated. He was gentle and kind and when he touched me it was love. He never raised his hand to me in anger and when he held me in his arms I felt safe for the first time in my life.

My father died when I was 25 years old, he was 46 the same age that I am now. I have struggled with this pain all these years as I was a daddys girl and dammit I need him now.

What kind of a man can leave me on my birthday, what kind of a man can leave me a week before xmas, what kind of a man can hurt me so deeply and just disapear off the face of the earth and not give a #### , what kind of a man can do this?????

Christmas eve is so hard for me as that is the time I would spend with my dad and I miss him so much. Last year Keith sat and held me in his arms the entire night and told me he loved me and that he would be with me for always. LIES LIES LIES

This Christmas Eve I give myself a present and it will be the best present in the world and I wont be lonely anymore, No man will ever break my heart again, no man will ever hurt me again no man will ever mess me up ever again NO MORE

I say goodbye to all of you and I wish you all the best and all the luck with yur loves. Hold them tight , dont take them for granted and tell them you love them everyday and never ever give up because its horrible.

I love you all and I am sorry that I am not strong engough to do this anymore. I am sitting here listening to our son... you light up my life when I sent this to him 2 years ago today he cried and told me this is OUR song.. more lies?

on xcmas eve I will listen to this song, I will light my candle and I will drink a glass of wine, I will be all alone and never will I be again

Goodbye everyone and god bless you all

Hugsss

Chelle

Um, is this a suicide note? I seriously hope not. Your life has been cruel, and I hope I'm reading way too much into this, but remember you have children, don't be cruel to them. I seriously hope that's not what I'm reading here.

I was thinking the same thing!!

CHELLE hun what YOU need right now is friends so I am sending you my email..PLEASE WRITE ME!!!!!!!!!!!

I definitely took it that way and have asked the moderators to contact Chelle or the appropriate people in her area so they can help her. I am very very concerned. I have had several people in my life express feelings like this before and they were definitely suicidal.

[Chelle62 0]

Please dont worry I will be ok guys, I have survived my entire life , right now I feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel and darkness is surrounding me but I am not a quitter and I know this in my heart. I promise I will be ok

Love you guys

Chelle