Morbid question

[Ta Ta 1]

The bicycle thing is fun, but it is kind of a running joke I have with my SO, I want to be barried in Uganda, but i absolutly DO NOT want my body put on the back of a bicycle or motorcycle. I even joke if we can't afford to transport me just bury me where I die lol.

Yep, you hit one speed bump and it's all over with.

[Ta Ta 1]

My Dad is Nigerian and one day my sister asked him where he wants to be buried.

My father wants to be buried in Nigeria. I asked him why and he said..." He was afraid that if he was buried here in the USA no one would come to feed him"

One of there burial traditions in his village is you bring food to the death.

It might sound strange and silly to some of us ...but to him it was important.

So I will make sure that that happens.

When I was in S/L I saw the cooks take food and set a plate out for ancestors every day, right by the house.

I think in the end the dogs got it, allthough they were shooed away.

[reeses16 8]

My husband wants to be buried in Ethiopia. Where, which church, what he wants to wear etc. I have no clue. He said just to call his family, take his body and let them make all the arrangements. As his wife, if he died before me I would like some say in the matter or control over the situation, but I suspect it doesn't matter since I wouldn't be in a good state of mind and would be charged "ferunji waga" foreigners price for everything anyway. We got life insurance a few months ago, and it will be more than enough to cover his burial costs.

I'm not entirely sure what I want to be done for myself. I don't really like the thought of being buried in Ethiopia, I love it there, but its not my home.My parents have a built a mosuleum thats big enough to include me, hubby, and kids (when we decide to have them). But I want to be with my hubby. So far the best I can come up with is cremation and 1/2 with my family in the US and my hubby can bury 1/2 in EThiopia. Similarly, I told him just to call my parents. Truly though, I'm undecided.

Still more troubling scenario is if we died together. In which case, I've told my parents to do what ever is best. I need to give them the phone numbers for my in-laws so they can call them. We made my folks the 2nd beneficiaries on our insurance policies so they should be able to make any arrangements without spending their money. I've also discussed with them that the full amount of my hubby's policy should be sent to his family. Of course this will all be revised when we have kids!

Have any of you discussed what will happen if the USC dies first? I've asked my hubby if he would stay in the US or go back home. Earlier he said he would go back home. More recently though, he said he would stay especially if we had children. We live far a way from my family and My parents told me that if I died first they'd be happy to take my hubby in and help him raise our kids. Or help him with stuff as needed if he doesn't move.