I've Been Duped! - continuation

[DairyFarmer 1]

I don't know where some of you live, that it takes cops 2 hrs to respond to an "emergency". Even in Chicago it doesn't take that long. When you call & tell the 911 dispatcher your SO is just getting his/her things, that may not ring the "emergency needed" bell in their mind, unless you specifically tell them you are in grave danger.

You would call 911 to tell them that you want to pick up some of your things???????

911 is an emergency...yanno, red lights, sirens.....you are in immediate danger, under attack or a terrible accident with injured people, or a house on fire. People who call 911 to go over to pick up some things should be fined!!!!

You would call the non-emergency number and make an 'appointment' to have an uniformed officer meet on their schedule so that you can pick up some of your things.

My husband called the police and by the way they were beating and ringing the doorbell he must have called 911. When they realized that I was waking up from sleeping and my husband was next door at the neighbors home they seemed pissed. I asked the office if my husband had made a report about me - if I was refusing him to leave or arguing with him and they said no. They said that he had requested an escort to avoid any confrontation/arguments.

I guess he thought I was going to confront him about clothing and shoes - he's clueless. It's covered in the divorce petition along with paying my attorney fees

Well done. I hope it runs smoothly for you and true love finds you.

[Beautiful_years 0]

Good morning VJer's,

First, I would like to thank God for today and those of you that have sent support and advice. I wanted to share with you what prayer can do.

After everything went down last week - I did seek counsel and filed for a divorce and temp orders. I then went to the local Lowe's and purchased some deadbolt locks for my bedroom and my daughters bedroom. I had the house phone turned off - (my daughter and I both have cell phones), I went to the fuse box and turn all the electric access to the room my husband was staying in, I turned the electric access to the washer, stove, and microwave off. He came home and I knew he was hot as fish grease - but he wasn't/didn't ask me why things wasn't working.

Well - Saturday morning I hear a loud banging on the front door and the doorbell ringing. I jump from my bed and go to see what and who is behind the ruckus. At the door I am greeted by two of our local police officer stating that my "boyfriend" had contacted the police department to have an escort so that he could avoid any confrontations. I said my "boyfriend" maybe you mean my husband - by this time my husband comes from a neighbor's house and proceeds to the room to get his clothing (which I bought - he thought I would care) and then packed his little groceries he had purchased from our local Dollar Tree. I personally know both of the officers and they just shook their heads. I told them both that I was glad they were there and I would be coming down to the station to get a copy of the report.

I asked the officers if I could change the front locks for my safety since he was leaving on his own free will and the officer stated "well you would have to contact the property management" - I said I am the property management - I own this home - the officers again shook their head.

The neighbor lady two houses down is who came with her vehicle and helped him gather his belongings - she couldn't/wouldn't even look me in my face - I'm not mad at her - she's being scammed as well. And the way I see it she just helped me get rid of my trash.

I'm sorry this is so long - I prayed for God to help me - get this man out of my home. I thought I would have to wait until the temp orders or divorce was final to get some sense of peace - oh but God said - today your breakthrough is here. Claim it and I did. Keep me in your prayers and thanks for letting me vent and give an update of how things are going.

Hey glad the ordeal is over for you and it didnt get physical and for the lady who took your trash? That was funny!!!

Well life goes on and congrats again on the promotion... and good riddance to bad rubbish!

Be careful next time..

[wifetobe 2]

Restraining orders are just papers, do not count on that for protection, if the temper is that bad, arm yourself for anyone breaking into your house

They are not just papers, they are powerful. The cops will come and drag his ### out and arrest him if he comes near her. Will the papers stop him? Of course not, but they are enforceable and the OP should get them.

I'm not sure what you mean by "arming yourself" but most armed people get hurt by whomever it is entering against their will with that armed weapon.

The papers are powerless when (God forbid) he has his hands round her throat squeezing the life out of her and the cops are never nearby when someone needs help. I have to agree with brnidokiegurl. You can defend yourself inside your home by using any means necessary. Baseball may be safer...bad tempered people don't mess about and you have to be ready for it.

[sereia 0]

The papers are not powerless at all. Yeah they can't defend you if he's attacking you. But its worth getting. If he comes around and you have that restraining order you can call the police and they might even be connected to immigration and they will turn him over and hopefully deport his sorry azz.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

True do always file the papers and have, just dont sit there and think you can say, you cant come in i have papers as these are alot of times the famous last words alot can happen in the time you call and if you can call and the time someone actually gets there. 9 out of 10 times if they are told its a domestic they dont even hurry, when u call say someone is breaking in and you dont know who it is.

[sasha414 0]

well handled ! you are a strong woman, may you be blessed all your life.

[mrsladyd 0]

I'm not sure what you mean by "arming yourself" but most armed people get hurt by whomever it is entering against their will with that armed weapon.

Not if you shoot the SOB, when he breaks down the front door with the intent of doing injury, and you fear for your life.

Get a 12 guage with a scatter pattern of four feet wide at 15 feet.

DWL....

[WestmorelandLove 0]

Good morning VJer's,

First, I would like to thank God for today and those of you that have sent support and advice. I wanted to share with you what prayer can do.

After everything went down last week - I did seek counsel and filed for a divorce and temp orders. I then went to the local Lowe's and purchased some deadbolt locks for my bedroom and my daughters bedroom. I had the house phone turned off - (my daughter and I both have cell phones), I went to the fuse box and turn all the electric access to the room my husband was staying in, I turned the electric access to the washer, stove, and microwave off. He came home and I knew he was hot as fish grease - but he wasn't/didn't ask me why things wasn't working.

Well - Saturday morning I hear a loud banging on the front door and the doorbell ringing. I jump from my bed and go to see what and who is behind the ruckus. At the door I am greeted by two of our local police officer stating that my "boyfriend" had contacted the police department to have an escort so that he could avoid any confrontations. I said my "boyfriend" maybe you mean my husband - by this time my husband comes from a neighbor's house and proceeds to the room to get his clothing (which I bought - he thought I would care) and then packed his little groceries he had purchased from our local Dollar Tree. I personally know both of the officers and they just shook their heads. I told them both that I was glad they were there and I would be coming down to the station to get a copy of the report.

I asked the officers if I could change the front locks for my safety since he was leaving on his own free will and the officer stated "well you would have to contact the property management" - I said I am the property management - I own this home - the officers again shook their head.

The neighbor lady two houses down is who came with her vehicle and helped him gather his belongings - she couldn't/wouldn't even look me in my face - I'm not mad at her - she's being scammed as well. And the way I see it she just helped me get rid of my trash.

I'm sorry this is so long - I prayed for God to help me - get this man out of my home. I thought I would have to wait until the temp orders or divorce was final to get some sense of peace - oh but God said - today your breakthrough is here. Claim it and I did. Keep me in your prayers and thanks for letting me vent and give an update of how things are going.

Hey glad the ordeal is over for you and it didnt get physical and for the lady who took your trash? That was funny!!!

Well life goes on and congrats again on the promotion... and good riddance to bad rubbish!

Be careful next time..

Beautiful_years

This was my third marriage - there will be no next time. It took so much hassle to get my divorce done. The money spent filing paperwork, tickets traveling to/from Jamaica for visits, phone bills - hell I could have paid off my students loans - no lie.

Years ago a co-worker once said "A bought lesson is a taught lesson". She didn't lie about that.

Pam

[maliciant 7]

This was my third marriage - there will be no next time.

Famous last words... mwuahahaha. If you take up polygamy after saying that, you are required to let us know!

[WestmorelandLove 0]

This was my third marriage - there will be no next time.

Famous last words... mwuahahaha. If you take up polygamy after saying that, you are required to let us know!

No funny business for me. After going to court and hearing my ex trying to claim my one of my vehicles (didn't pay one damn dime on it) - I know I won't get married again. For the life of me - I can't understand why some people think that they can marry you, then divorce you and then take you to the cleaners.

[Jon&Lindsey 0]

I'm so sorry to hear your story and what this guy did to you. We both wish you all the best for the future.

[Ban Hammer 13,443]

For the life of me - I can't understand why some people think that they can marry you, then divorce you and then take you to the cleaners.

maybe my ex wife has been talking........

[Beautiful_years 0]

Beautiful_years

This was my third marriage - there will be no next time. It took so much hassle to get my divorce done. The money spent filing paperwork, tickets traveling to/from Jamaica for visits, phone bills - hell I could have paid off my students loans - no lie.

Years ago a co-worker once said "A bought lesson is a taught lesson". She didn't lie about that.

Pam

Hey, its your decision and it might be right for you, your not officially getting married again does not mean you can date or be in love with one sometime soon.

Love is a funny thing, we always want more.

I you ever do sign a prenup with him forfeiing everything he has to you, haha, so he can leave penniless and completely broke.

So he wanted to claim a car? wow like an inheritance or what? He must have felt very smart.

[himher 634]

most armed people get hurt by whomever it is entering against their will with that armed weapon.

Only in fake statistics the source of which can never be found and normally issued or repeated by morons who don't know what they are talking about while ignoring the thousands of cases of successful self-defense that take place every year......and the thousands of battered, bruised, and dead victims who are found after-the-fact holding their bloody restraining orders.

It would be good to arm yourself, take a good shooting class, and then use the restraining order for a practice target - that's all the piece of paper is good for. If he REALLY wants to hurt you you're done way before the cops get there......

Restraining orders are just papers, do not count on that for protection, if the temper is that bad, arm yourself for anyone breaking into your house

They are not just papers, they are powerful. The cops will come and drag his ### out and arrest him if he comes near her. Will the papers stop him? Of course not, but they are enforceable and the OP should get them.

I'm not sure what you mean by "arming yourself" but most armed people get hurt by whomever it is entering against their will with that armed weapon.

[Dwarf_Ogress 0]

I read your posts and I must say we have A LOT in common. Sorry to hear of your situation as it is VERY similar to mine.