I've Been Duped! - continuation

[WestmorelandLove 0]

Good morning VJer's,

First, I would like to thank God for today and those of you that have sent support and advice. I wanted to share with you what prayer can do.

After everything went down last week - I did seek counsel and filed for a divorce and temp orders. I then went to the local Lowe's and purchased some deadbolt locks for my bedroom and my daughters bedroom. I had the house phone turned off - (my daughter and I both have cell phones), I went to the fuse box and turn all the electric access to the room my husband was staying in, I turned the electric access to the washer, stove, and microwave off. He came home and I knew he was hot as fish grease - but he wasn't/didn't ask me why things wasn't working.

Well - Saturday morning I hear a loud banging on the front door and the doorbell ringing. I jump from my bed and go to see what and who is behind the ruckus. At the door I am greeted by two of our local police officer stating that my "boyfriend" had contacted the police department to have an escort so that he could avoid any confrontations. I said my "boyfriend" maybe you mean my husband - by this time my husband comes from a neighbor's house and proceeds to the room to get his clothing (which I bought - he thought I would care) and then packed his little groceries he had purchased from our local Dollar Tree. I personally know both of the officers and they just shook their heads. I told them both that I was glad they were there and I would be coming down to the station to get a copy of the report.

I asked the officers if I could change the front locks for my safety since he was leaving on his own free will and the officer stated "well you would have to contact the property management" - I said I am the property management - I own this home - the officers again shook their head.

The neighbor lady two houses down is who came with her vehicle and helped him gather his belongings - she couldn't/wouldn't even look me in my face - I'm not mad at her - she's being scammed as well. And the way I see it she just helped me get rid of my trash.

I'm sorry this is so long - I prayed for God to help me - get this man out of my home. I thought I would have to wait until the temp orders or divorce was final to get some sense of peace - oh but God said - today your breakthrough is here. Claim it and I did. Keep me in your prayers and thanks for letting me vent and give an update of how things are going.

[ManilaIdaho 2]

I wish you the best of everything.and may you get the peace of mind that you deserve.God bless you and your daughter.

you're in my prayers

[DairyFarmer 1]

I read your first thread last week and my heart went out to you. I didn't want to be cynical so I refrained from posting. Having said that I am so glad to hear the steps you have taken to protect yourself.

My thoughts are for you.

Edited June 30, 2008 by DairyFarmer

[Zee Bee 61]

Good for you.

We will keep you in our prayers.

[Sylvia_n_Joseph 3]

Not knowing how his temper runs if he is just down the street you may want to get those little screw type window locks in case he doesn't like being locked out. I had a man I dated not like being locked out and he came through a window. Very scary experience.

Take care and good luck.

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

I was reading your previous thread, and I'm happy to hear that he's out by himself, and you can now have piece. Go change the locks, and if I were you, I'd file a restraining order so he can't come back.

[*JG* 2]

I've been there in a past relationship...........I know you are relieved.

Yes, change the locks. Also, continue on with the restraining order. My ex actually came back and broke into my apartment. I needed the restraining order.

I wish you all the best in settling this.

[Nutty 2]

I am happy you handled it well with a calm demeanor and did not have to wait long for some relief.

It is a sad situation and I know your heart is hurting from having your trust broken. But you are a strong and beautiful woman (saw your photos ) and you will find the right man who will love you and treat you right.

Nutty

[LovinLiberia 0]

I read through your other thread and I want to say I am so proud that you are taking charge of this situation. There was a ton of good advice given to you and I'm glad that you seem to be following those steps. I'm sorry that you had to go through this whole visa journey experience only to have it end in the manner. Best wishes to you.

[morocco4ever 63]

I bow to the master!

I am glad to see that you are taking steps to not only get rid of the garbage but to take charge of your entire life. I am sorry this happened to you and I hope and pray that you can find the happiness you so obviously deserve.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Restraining orders are just papers, do not count on that for protection, if the temper is that bad, arm yourself for anyone breaking into your house

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

Restraining orders are just papers, do not count on that for protection, if the temper is that bad, arm yourself for anyone breaking into your house

They are not just papers, they are powerful. The cops will come and drag his ### out and arrest him if he comes near her. Will the papers stop him? Of course not, but they are enforceable and the OP should get them.

I'm not sure what you mean by "arming yourself" but most armed people get hurt by whomever it is entering against their will with that armed weapon.

[desert_fox 32]

I'm not sure what you mean by "arming yourself" but most armed people get hurt by whomever it is entering against their will with that armed weapon.

Not if you shoot the SOB, when he breaks down the front door with the intent of doing injury, and you fear for your life.

Get a 12 guage with a scatter pattern of four feet wide at 15 feet.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

most law enforcement will not HURRY if they find it is domestic related, when they reach a certain point no threat of a paper will detour, threats are just words, you have to take care of yourself first. I work in law enforcement many a case had a order to restrain are now dead, serious facts.

Also once back in my Younger day, i to was in a similar situation, and he was trying to get in, when i called i had to tell them i didnt know who was trying break in (and i did have a gun)

[Ivy. 113]

I'm happy to see the situation is changing to better for you.

Stay strong and soon this will all be behind you! Good luck!