my hubby is having a hard day

[nunyab 0]

OK... here's the plan..

1. Tell him to look at the moon (yeah 8 hrs time difference makes it hard)

2.listen and be positive

3. Send "pics" lol

4. tell him to go smoke

5. tell him to move on....

I really like the knot on the end of the rope statement..... Thanks. I feel so helpless, I know what he is going through I have bad days too just try not to show him. we're only moving onto 2 months apart. Does it get eaiser???

[MrsCat 6]

Sounds like a plan Rajaa - time and space doesn't get easier, but in my opinion it shouldn't. You should miss being with your loved one. Finding distractions and keeping busy is one way to make the time pass as quickly as possible.

Its been 3+ months since I've seen my SO, but I get to see him on Tuesday.

[Aubrey 10]

My fiancé is always doing the cheering up on me. It always helps when he finds something to take my mind off the situation. We usually find some kind of game online to play together or find some silly YouTube videos to share so we can get back to laughing. If the game idea suits you, there's plenty of free sites like Yahoo games or our favorite The Settlers of Catan.

[jundp 191]

It's true that you will both have times where it feels unbearable. I know in our case we have been lucky that I would miss him like crazy and he'd be the supportive one, and then he'd miss me like crazy and I'd be the supportive one and so on. There have only been a couple of times where we've both been down at the same time.

It help that we are both incredibly busy and our lives our full outside of our relationship. There are times when we'd get bummed because we'd like to be sharing these things but it wasn't something to be changed. So we'd take pictures and send them with detailed emails.

We have a pact that I will always send him an email before I go to sleep (so he has it when he wakes up) and he'll send me one before I wake up (we have a 9 hour time difference). It may seem silly, but no matter what, we have that to look forward to. Sometimes one or the other, or both of us, are so busy that we don't get to talk to each other until very very late in the day, but we always try to talk every day. We also never hang up the phone without saying "I love you" even if we're annoyed with each other.

We're going on 4 1/2 months apart (the longest thus far) and honestly we're only 16 days away from being reunited and this is the worst time for us.

Hang in there. Tell him to hang in there. Good luck!

[nunyab 0]

It's true that you will both have times where it feels unbearable. I know in our case we have been lucky that I would miss him like crazy and he'd be the supportive one, and then he'd miss me like crazy and I'd be the supportive one and so on. There have only been a couple of times where we've both been down at the same time.

It help that we are both incredibly busy and our lives our full outside of our relationship. There are times when we'd get bummed because we'd like to be sharing these things but it wasn't something to be changed. So we'd take pictures and send them with detailed emails.

We have a pact that I will always send him an email before I go to sleep (so he has it when he wakes up) and he'll send me one before I wake up (we have a 9 hour time difference). It may seem silly, but no matter what, we have that to look forward to. Sometimes one or the other, or both of us, are so busy that we don't get to talk to each other until very very late in the day, but we always try to talk every day. We also never hang up the phone without saying "I love you" even if we're annoyed with each other.

We're going on 4 1/2 months apart (the longest thus far) and honestly we're only 16 days away from being reunited and this is the worst time for us.

Hang in there. Tell him to hang in there. Good luck!

I really like the games on line too!!! great idea i'll check it out before our next "chat"

I also really like the email thing... I always send him one when I get home from work or even a quick note on msn messenger but doesn't get reciprocated...

I noticed you're in Seattle Jundp??

[Sassy1natl 0]

I took a peek at your timeline...do you plan on going to Morocco this summer?

[nunyab 0]

I took a peek at your timeline...do you plan on going to Morocco this summer?

I was hoping to go back for the last week in Ramadan.. .... but haven't made plans yet. We really need to start planning something as a way to look forward to being together with a set date.... and please.. peak away we had a touch june 16th but i think it was linking the two together...i recieved my NAO1 for the I129F the same day.

[Sassy1natl 0]

I took a peek at your timeline...do you plan on going to Morocco this summer?

I was hoping to go back for the last week in Ramadan.. .... but haven't made plans yet. We really need to start planning something as a way to look forward to being together with a set date.... and please.. peak away we had a touch june 16th but i think it was linking the two together...i recieved my NAO1 for the I129F the same day.

Not much longer, in the scheme of things. Easy for me to say, but sometimes you have to step back and look at the whole picture. No?

[*Maureen* 0]

is it possible for you to plan a trip in the near future? I wish things speed up for the both of you.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

OK... here's the plan..

1. Tell him to look at the moon (yeah 8 hrs time difference makes it hard)

2.listen and be positive

3. Send "pics" lol

4. tell him to go smoke

5. tell him to move on....

I really like the knot on the end of the rope statement..... Thanks. I feel so helpless, I know what he is going through I have bad days too just try not to show him. we're only moving onto 2 months apart. Does it get eaiser???

try 2 years, let us know when u get there

[mybackpages 0]

Sometimes the best thing to do is just let your partner have the bad moment. I know you want to "fix" things and it's hard to see someone you love sad, but it is all part of te process. Be supportive, upbeat, keep things light until it passes. This process is difficult for most of us. The trick to take turns being depressed. Nothing is worse than when both partners are having bad days.

[chri'stina 190]

I don't think it gets easier but it might feel more routine soon...we were apart 11 months. I had the harder time because I was newly graduated from college and trying to find a decent job and had more extra time to think about being apart. I went out with friends, lived with my family, always was around people, but still never felt busy enough to not miss him soooo much.

When we got to the visa interview stage, I had more hope knowing it would be over soon. Our situation might be different since he was from India, we used the K1 visa, and were approved right away at his interview. So then we knew it was only a matter of when to buy the ticket and move here( 1 1/2 months later). Now he's been here almost 4 years! I can't believe it.

[DairyFarmer 1]

"And even though I know how very far apart we are, it helps to think we might be wishing on the same bright star. And when the night wind starts to sing that lonesome lullaby, it helps to think we're sleeping underneath the same big sky."

I love that song

[DairyFarmer 1]

"And even though I know how very far apart we are, it helps to think we might be wishing on the same bright star. And when the night wind starts to sing that lonesome lullaby, it helps to think we're sleeping underneath the same big sky."

I love that song

But on another note, I completely empathise. It feels like John and I are going through the stages of mourning lately. We are now at anger so we have lots of little disagreements. At the core of everything, is that we are apart, missing eachother.

He has had lots of the sad times lately and whilst my attitude is generally half full, after a while it does get you down. So we end up snipping at each other.

My sister got engaged on the weekend and don't get me wrong I am happy for her but at the same time I am incredibly jealous b/c they are from the same country (both Australian's) they can do as they like. They will be married within 6 months I'm sure. And here we all are, waiting.

[Sinergy 3]

Wow you ladies are way nicer than I am!

hahaha I still use the "aww suck it up" on ed ALOT when he whines bout stuff

We missed eachother but there was no point whining to eachother about it, what good does it do? nada so im with you Amber!