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My baby is having a hard day of missing his wife... you all know how it feels to be without our s/o. He's really down. Any suggestions?? I hate being so far, I called him and we talked for 4 hours on web cam. But he is so sad.... help???? :crying:

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I used to tell my husband to suck it up. Stop trying to bring me down with you just because you're sad doesn't mean I can't be happy. Then, I'd say not much longer until we're together so stop your whining. He got over it. Eventually the whining stopped. :thumbs:

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explain that feeling bad will not change the situation and life must go on..then tell him hopefully soon things will be better and life does not stop with this....(hard maybe but cant let this bring everyone down, the wait maybe longer than u plan, never know) let it bring u down and it will

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It's hokey, but tell him to go outside and look at the moon, then you go outside and look at the moon (if time zones allow this), and tell him you are both together right now, looking at the same moon, connected in your thoughts and your heart, even though your bodies are apart. As I said, it is hokey but surprisingly, it really does seem to work. Somehow you don't seem so far apart knowing you are both looking at the same object in the sky at the same time. Feeling that link of connection helps make you feel closer. You may not be able to change your circumstances right now, but you can change how you feel about them. Hope this helps. Another thing that helped was just 'thinking forward' to a year from right now and knowing that all of what you are experiencing right now is over and done with and in the past and you have already dealt with it and that you made it:-). (Sometimes the only thing that keeps you from sliding off that rope is the knot tied on the end of it!).

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I feel like that a lot lately. Especially when after we hit our one year wedding anniversary and more special times pass without being together. It isn't easy, yet there is nothing that can be done about it. I let myself skulk (sp?) around for a day and then I make myself move on and get over it. Being sad doesn't change anything or make the time go faster. If anything it makes it drag out slower. Just be there for him and talk to him in a positive way. Let him know you love him and that you are waiting for him no matter what it takes. Reassurance helps a lot.

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It's hokey, but tell him to go outside and look at the moon, then you go outside and look at the moon (if time zones allow this), and tell him you are both together right now, looking at the same moon, connected in your thoughts and your heart, even though your bodies are apart. As I said, it is hokey but surprisingly, it really does seem to work. Somehow you don't seem so far apart knowing you are both looking at the same object in the sky at the same time. Feeling that link of connection helps make you feel closer. You may not be able to change your circumstances right now, but you can change how you feel about them. Hope this helps. Another thing that helped was just 'thinking forward' to a year from right now and knowing that all of what you are experiencing right now is over and done with and in the past and you have already dealt with it and that you made it:-). (Sometimes the only thing that keeps you from sliding off that rope is the knot tied on the end of it!).

Awwww. That was sooo sweet. Rajaa Reda... I pray that you and your husband soon will be together. Be strong. :)

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We have the same case. Being separated from your other half is really hard. Just tell your hubby to be strong for both of you. When the you are talking, just try talk about happy things and never let sadness occupy you as well. Everything will be fine and you will be together in no time. The separation is just temporary but after the process has been done then you have a lifetime to share together.

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If what Kathryn suggests doesn't work (which is extraordinarily sweet) - send nudie pictures - he'll forget what he's sad about. :devil:

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We have the same case. Being separated from your other half is really hard. Just tell your hubby to be strong for both of you. When you are talking, just try to talk about happy things and never let sadness occupy you as well. Everything will be fine and you will be together in no time. The separation is just temporary but after the process has been done then you have a lifetime to share together.

I promise to love you in good times and in bad, with all I have to give and all that I am, in the only way I know how -- completely and forever......

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It's hokey, but tell him to go outside and look at the moon, then you go outside and look at the moon (if time zones allow this), and tell him you are both together right now, looking at the same moon, connected in your thoughts and your heart, even though your bodies are apart. As I said, it is hokey but surprisingly, it really does seem to work. Somehow you don't seem so far apart knowing you are both looking at the same object in the sky at the same time. Feeling that link of connection helps make you feel closer.

"And even though I know how very far apart we are, it helps to think we might be wishing on the same bright star. And when the night wind starts to sing that lonesome lullaby, it helps to think we're sleeping underneath the same big sky." :luv:

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When we were separated, I would feel that way a lot of the time. I know some people act like it wasn't a big deal to be separated, but I found it to be so horrible. The only thing that helped was knowing that every day was one day closer to being together again(even though we weren't sure when that would be). When you are separated for long amounts of time saying "get over it", etc doesn't help. At least it didn't help me. I was the one who needed more encouragement from Sujeet during the separation, he was stronger about it.The separation will end one day even if you don't know when, it will. The looking at the moon idea, I don't think would have worked for us since it'd be night here while day in India. :P

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i would tell him to take a long walk, and take a puff or two.. after that he will be tired and hungry and his mind will be elsewhere,.. at least for a short time... works for me !!!

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If what Kathryn suggests doesn't work (which is extraordinarily sweet) - send nudie pictures - he'll forget what he's sad about. :devil:

works great everytime! :whistle::jest:

and I thought we had the exclusive on that...LOL

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