I've Been Duped!

[WestmorelandLove 0]

I concur with the advice already offered, to withdraw the Affidavit of Support and your endorsement of any accompanying applications, BUT please indicate in your request that the marriage has not been viable for X number of months and that you have reason to believe your husband entered into the marriage for immigrant benefit alone in your correspondence, and give as much evidence in terms of timeline and situations as you can. If by chance the approved AOS notification and the correspondence of your request to withdraw crosses in the mail, it just could prevent an automatic approval from sticking.

Thank you - I noted this in the letter.

[pushbrk 13,073]

I concur with the advice already offered, to withdraw the Affidavit of Support and your endorsement of any accompanying applications, BUT please indicate in your request that the marriage has not been viable for X number of months and that you have reason to believe your husband entered into the marriage for immigrant benefit alone in your correspondence, and give as much evidence in terms of timeline and situations as you can. If by chance the approved AOS notification and the correspondence of your request to withdraw crosses in the mail, it just could prevent an automatic approval from sticking.

Thank you - I noted this in the letter.

Your husband's critical mistake was thinking either the I-134 or the I-864 before AOS approval were binding in any way. They are not. I assume you were also smart enough to cut him off from any access to your funds.

[stevi1123 0]

I am so sorry for your current situation after such a "visa journey." I will keep you in prayer.

[sus 70]

Westmorelandlove, so sorry to hear -

In addition to your letter, copy the letters to ICE (Immigrations and Customs Enforcement). When you actually file the divorce, most states alllow for pendente lite orders, which means you can ask for immediate alimony from him - let him see that he isn't going to live in your house rent free and bank his paycheck - The judge can order payments.

[WestmorelandLove 0]

I concur with the advice already offered, to withdraw the Affidavit of Support and your endorsement of any accompanying applications, BUT please indicate in your request that the marriage has not been viable for X number of months and that you have reason to believe your husband entered into the marriage for immigrant benefit alone in your correspondence, and give as much evidence in terms of timeline and situations as you can. If by chance the approved AOS notification and the correspondence of your request to withdraw crosses in the mail, it just could prevent an automatic approval from sticking.

Thank you - I noted this in the letter.

Your husband's critical mistake was thinking either the I-134 or the I-864 before AOS approval were binding in any way. They are not. I assume you were also smart enough to cut him off from any access to your funds.

I have been married before - so no transactions - (adding him) on any accounts had been made. He just started working - now that he's getting money - he doesn't have any plans to give me any at all.

[Nutty 2]

So on top of your husband "setting you free" and then "refusing to leave your house", he expects you to continue catering to his need for transportation to and from places?

Does he know the Affidavit of Support is can be cancelled???? I hope not. It would be nice to see him go and try to adjust status and thenm only then, find out that he can't. And also to find out the Affidavit has been rendered null/void and that the USCIS is now cancelling his visa based on marriage fraud.

Don't forget, CERTIFIED/REGISTERED mail for sending your letters....You don't want a bureacratic snaffu to happen based on "lost/not received" mail.

[DanielParul 50]

Praying for you... Can't wait to see what happens to the $cumbag!!!

All the best girl... You deserve a lot better

[xuemei 0]

This is a great way to dupe people. They utilize confusion with the cultural differences. I dated someone here in america who already had his GC, but had some seriouse mental issues. I chalked them up to Cultural differences, which took me a year to figure out. As I kept trying to leave him, his issues got worst. I look back and think..."what were you thinking"... OH yeah I wasn't.

20/20 hindsight - too late. I too had red flags but just gave them the old "it's just a culture difference" once he starts adjusting things will be better.

I say report this immedialety to ICE, The OmSbudsman, The FBI, your congressman, Senator And even the U.S. Attorney General, Thuis way you will have documentation.

I was duped by someone... and they used me.

[jawi876 2]

Soooo sorry to hear this Westmoreland. PM me if you need a shoulder. Man, I feel like it happened to me.

[sara..... 371]

im so sorry this has happened to u i will pray for u.........

men like that should be put on an island so they can ever attempt anything like this again hurting someone is never right for what ever reason they think they may have

[*JG* 2]

Westmoreland......how is this progressing?

[Beautiful_years 0]

This is my story - I meet my SO July 2006 and we corresponded and in August 2007 he proposed. We got married February 2008. My husband is from Jamaica and once he got here he explained to me that he didn't expect me to have as much as did (home and two cars)

It took a couple of months before his work permit was processed so therefore I was providing and paying all bills - without complaint because that's what you do when you're married. But now he has two jobs and figures since I'm his sponsor he doesn't have to pay any bills. So I have file for divorce which here in Texas it takes 60 days to be final.

The straw that broke my back - my husband told me yeserday that he was setting me free and that he was going to do what he had to do - and he was leaving. Then last night a police escorts him to our home - and I was thinking so that he could get his things and go - oh but no. He told the officer that I signed a affidavit of support and that he wasn't going anywhere. The officer told me to contact my attorney and see if I could get a restraining order. He was threatening to go and he was going to set me free - but now he decided he will stay put and cause havoc on health.

20/20 hindsight - too late. I too had red flags but just gave them the old "it's just a culture difference" once he starts adjusting things will be better. And CSC hasn't completed the conditional green card yet - is there any chance I could stop them from completed that process?

Its so sad when things dont work out or to finally realize you have been taken advantage of...

Well, your best bet now is to seek an attorney.

He might get Aos without interview and with your affidavit of support binds you to him for atleast 10yrs and from the way he sounds about wanting to stay put and wreck Havoc, he ll want you to keep paying, so see an attorney and find a way of withdrawing your affidavit of support.

He can stay in America if he wants but not on your paycheck!

[himher 634]

You can cancel the affidavit of support in writing up until the time they approve the AOS petition (assuming your husband entered on a K-visa.

You cannot withdraw the affidavit on an IR/CR visa unless the applicant withdraws the application

From the USCIS Adjudicator's field manual:

(h) Withdrawal of an affidavit of support or Form I-864A . A person who has signed a Form I-864, I-864EZ or I-864A may withdraw the Form. If the person does so, USCIS will adjudicate the application for adjustment of status as if the withdrawn Form I-864, I-864A or I-864EZ had never been filed. In an adjustment of status case, a withdrawal of the Form I-864, I-864EZ or I-864A is not effective unless it is in writing and USCIS actually receives the withdrawal before the final decision on the adjustment application. In an immigrant visa case, once a consular office r has issued an immigrant visa, no Form I-864, I-864EZ or I-864A may be withdrawn unless the visa petitioner also withdraws the visa petition.

This is my story - I meet my SO July 2006 and we corresponded and in August 2007 he proposed. We got married February 2008. My husband is from Jamaica and once he got here he explained to me that he didn't expect me to have as much as did (home and two cars)

It took a couple of months before his work permit was processed so therefore I was providing and paying all bills - without complaint because that's what you do when you're married. But now he has two jobs and figures since I'm his sponsor he doesn't have to pay any bills. So I have file for divorce which here in Texas it takes 60 days to be final.

The straw that broke my back - my husband told me yeserday that he was setting me free and that he was going to do what he had to do - and he was leaving. Then last night a police escorts him to our home - and I was thinking so that he could get his things and go - oh but no. He told the officer that I signed a affidavit of support and that he wasn't going anywhere. The officer told me to contact my attorney and see if I could get a restraining order. He was threatening to go and he was going to set me free - but now he decided he will stay put and cause havoc on health.

20/20 hindsight - too late. I too had red flags but just gave them the old "it's just a culture difference" once he starts adjusting things will be better. And CSC hasn't completed the conditional green card yet - is there any chance I could stop them from completed that process?

[himher 634]

In Texas you know exactly what steps you can take to protect yourself.......

I would contact: a lawyer first and foremost. I did my own divorce; but in this case, I would not recommend that.

Have them draw up a seperation agreement immediately. This may be one way to get him out of the house.

Learn to play the game now: whatever bills you pay for him, stop. Cell phone? Car payment? Clothes? Food? Whatever. If he wants to be his own big man, let him. If this was me, I would also start taking steps to protect myself. Lock up anything really valuable and not replacable.

Be safe and like someone else said don't give him anything to use against you.

I'm sorry, girl. It is heartbreaking and I feel for you.

[ForeverAmen 0]

Westmoreland......how is this progressing?

I was wondering the same thing.

Westmoreland, hope you are doing well.