I've Been Duped!

[Shemmy 4]

I finally got a human from the NCSC and the representative told me I would need to request in writing to cancel the AOS. She told me to mail two letters one to the National Benefits Center and my local USCIS office. I'm all on it at this moment. She said seeing that it in the pending phase it a good possiblity that it will be cancelled.

I see God working on this situation already. Lift me up in your prayers.

I'll keep you in my prayers. Unfortuntely, I've heard this story too many times .

[Gallowglass 0]

Very rough situation. I hope it works out the way you want it to.

[Zee Bee 61]

My heart goes out to you. Stay strong

[forchika 4]

Sorry......Hope you are able to resolve the situation soon. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Robin

[Sylvia_n_Joseph 3]

It is this kind of behavior on the part of the visa recipient that makes you wonder if the embassy interview shouldn't resemble the TV show "Moment of Truth" . It is terrible when anyone gets used in this manner. Hopefully he will end up with a lifetime ban.

Good luck WestmorelandLove You deserve so much better.

[yogib37 3]

Some people was given green card without AOS interview. How about notifying the service center about you filing for divorce?

maybe remove conditions without an interview, but for th4e initial AOS an interview is required.

No marriage, no AOS.

deleted my commenet

He did not know..

Edited June 26, 2008 by yogib37

[maya62 7]

I finally got a human from the NCSC and the representative told me I would need to request in writing to cancel the AOS. She told me to mail two letters one to the National Benefits Center and my local USCIS office. I'm all on it at this moment. She said seeing that it in the pending phase it a good possiblity that it will be cancelled.

I see God working on this situation already. Lift me up in your prayers.

First, I am sorry to hear about this. How heartbreaking.

I am a little concerned about the lack of clarity in what the USCIS employee told you. Gee, how surprising. The AOS application is not your application, it is your husband's. I do not believe you have the authority to cancel it, nor can a USCIS employee cancel it on your say-so, unfortunately. I think what you need to document clearly for them is your withdrawal of the Affidavit of Support (I-864), which you signed. Of course, as part of that letter, you can also state that your support of his efforts to adjust status are officially terminated, but I think the US Govt is, frankly, more interested in whether this guy will become a public charge or not than any other aspect of the situation (unless perhaps you have a good case of visa fraud to show them). Be sure to send these letters registered mail and keep a copy in a safe place.

I still think an Infopass appointment at your local office is still a very good idea... I just wouldn't trust that combination of USCIS and USPS.

I agree with Jomo's Girl, too... excellent advice. Be very wary of an abuse claim... he will find out soon enough that that is his last option.

I wish you luck in resolving this quickly and with as little pain as possible so that you can begin to heal and move on.

Maya

[Nutty 2]

This is my story - I meet my SO July 2006 and we corresponded and in August 2007 he proposed. We got married February 2008. My husband is from Jamaica and once he got here he explained to me that he didn't expect me to have as much as did (home and two cars)

It took a couple of months before his work permit was processed so therefore I was providing and paying all bills - without complaint because that's what you do when you're married. But now he has two jobs and figures since I'm his sponsor he doesn't have to pay any bills. So I have file for divorce which here in Texas it takes 60 days to be final.

The straw that broke my back - my husband told me yeserday that he was setting me free and that he was going to do what he had to do - and he was leaving. Then last night a police escorts him to our home - and I was thinking so that he could get his things and go - oh but no. He told the officer that I signed a affidavit of support and that he wasn't going anywhere. The officer told me to contact my attorney and see if I could get a restraining order. He was threatening to go and he was going to set me free - but now he decided he will stay put and cause havoc on health.

20/20 hindsight - too late. I too had red flags but just gave them the old "it's just a culture difference" once he starts adjusting things will be better. And CSC hasn't completed the conditional green card yet - is there any chance I could stop them from completed that process?

Wow, your husband sounds like a real piece of work! He said "he is setting YOU FREE" and then REFUSES TO LEAVE YOUR HOUSE???? LOL!! Sounds pretty arrogant.

Don't tell him anything about what you're doing in cancelling the Affidavit of Support (not even if you are angry and want to let him know you have an ace up your sleeve). Now is the time to have a poker face and do what you can to get out of this mess quickly and quietly.

Make sure to send those letters to stop AOS by CERTIFIED or REGISTERED MAIL so you have a record of sending them in case the USCIS loses the letters.

Good Luck!

[bhajishah 4]

Note to self. dont tell them what the affadavit of support is

[WestmorelandLove 0]

I finally got a human from the NCSC and the representative told me I would need to request in writing to cancel the AOS. She told me to mail two letters one to the National Benefits Center and my local USCIS office. I'm all on it at this moment. She said seeing that it in the pending phase it a good possiblity that it will be cancelled.

I see God working on this situation already. Lift me up in your prayers.

First, I am sorry to hear about this. How heartbreaking.

I am a little concerned about the lack of clarity in what the USCIS employee told you. Gee, how surprising. The AOS application is not your application, it is your husband's. I do not believe you have the authority to cancel it, nor can a USCIS employee cancel it on your say-so, unfortunately. I think what you need to document clearly for them is your withdrawal of the Affidavit of Support (I-864), which you signed. Of course, as part of that letter, you can also state that your support of his efforts to adjust status are officially terminated, but I think the US Govt is, frankly, more interested in whether this guy will become a public charge or not than any other aspect of the situation (unless perhaps you have a good case of visa fraud to show them). Be sure to send these letters registered mail and keep a copy in a safe place.

I still think an Infopass appointment at your local office is still a very good idea... I just wouldn't trust that combination of USCIS and USPS.

I agree with Jomo's Girl, too... excellent advice. Be very wary of an abuse claim... he will find out soon enough that that is his last option.

I wish you luck in resolving this quickly and with as little pain as possible so that you can begin to heal and move on.

Maya

Thanks for the information Maya62. You never know what the correct information is when you call USCIS. I am so greatful for this correction. I will ask to have the Affidavit of Support cancelled and am sending the letters off certified.

[WestmorelandLove 0]

This is my story - I meet my SO July 2006 and we corresponded and in August 2007 he proposed. We got married February 2008. My husband is from Jamaica and once he got here he explained to me that he didn't expect me to have as much as did (home and two cars)

It took a couple of months before his work permit was processed so therefore I was providing and paying all bills - without complaint because that's what you do when you're married. But now he has two jobs and figures since I'm his sponsor he doesn't have to pay any bills. So I have file for divorce which here in Texas it takes 60 days to be final.

The straw that broke my back - my husband told me yeserday that he was setting me free and that he was going to do what he had to do - and he was leaving. Then last night a police escorts him to our home - and I was thinking so that he could get his things and go - oh but no. He told the officer that I signed a affidavit of support and that he wasn't going anywhere. The officer told me to contact my attorney and see if I could get a restraining order. He was threatening to go and he was going to set me free - but now he decided he will stay put and cause havoc on health.

20/20 hindsight - too late. I too had red flags but just gave them the old "it's just a culture difference" once he starts adjusting things will be better. And CSC hasn't completed the conditional green card yet - is there any chance I could stop them from completed that process?

Wow, your husband sounds like a real piece of work! He said "he is setting YOU FREE" and then REFUSES TO LEAVE YOUR HOUSE???? LOL!! Sounds pretty arrogant.

Don't tell him anything about what you're doing in cancelling the Affidavit of Support (not even if you are angry and want to let him know you have an ace up your sleeve). Now is the time to have a poker face and do what you can to get out of this mess quickly and quietly.

Make sure to send those letters to stop AOS by CERTIFIED or REGISTERED MAIL so you have a record of sending them in case the USCIS loses the letters.

Good Luck!

Very arrogant - he's not really to let go of his "cash cow" (he thinks I am a ATM). He commented that he was going to get himself established like I am and do what he has to do. Believe me my poker face is on. Even though he does get to stay here in my home until the temp orders are done (couple of weeks) I don't have to take him no where (work, shopping, etc.) the officer stated last night. He yelled and said "so you're going to spite me" #######

[WestmorelandLove 0]

This is my story - I meet my SO July 2006 and we corresponded and in August 2007 he proposed. We got married February 2008. My husband is from Jamaica and once he got here he explained to me that he didn't expect me to have as much as did (home and two cars)

It took a couple of months before his work permit was processed so therefore I was providing and paying all bills - without complaint because that's what you do when you're married. But now he has two jobs and figures since I'm his sponsor he doesn't have to pay any bills. So I have file for divorce which here in Texas it takes 60 days to be final.

The straw that broke my back - my husband told me yeserday that he was setting me free and that he was going to do what he had to do - and he was leaving. Then last night a police escorts him to our home - and I was thinking so that he could get his things and go - oh but no. He told the officer that I signed a affidavit of support and that he wasn't going anywhere. The officer told me to contact my attorney and see if I could get a restraining order. He was threatening to go and he was going to set me free - but now he decided he will stay put and cause havoc on health.

20/20 hindsight - too late. I too had red flags but just gave them the old "it's just a culture difference" once he starts adjusting things will be better. And CSC hasn't completed the conditional green card yet - is there any chance I could stop them from completed that process?

I stated earlier that I had already filed for divorce (did an intake application with my local legal aid office and was denied services - income level too high) so today I officially file with a local attorney. Just some clarification for everyone.

[emt103c 10]

Sorry, I missed that you filed.

I would call, e-mail, and write everyone I could think of till I stopped his AOS. It looks like a pretty clear cut case of visa fraud since it's happening so soon.

Maybe visit your local office and talk to someone face to face.

My local office is in San Antonio - I trying to get a human on the line to see if it's possible to stop his AOS. Do you have an email address or phone number other than 1-800-375-5283?

Get your Senate or House Rep on the phone. . .they have special email access to the local offices that we cannot get. They WILL help you with this.

[emt103c 10]

Just for clarification of my other post, getting the rep involved also helps keep a paper trail and support, as well as being faster than the speed at which the USCIS office will process your letter alone. You can attach a copy of the letter you sent for reference in the letter your Senate or House representative would send. They can get same day recognition, whereas our letters to a USCIS office get processed slowly like our applications.

This is something that needs quick attention so that you don't get "stuck" with more legal wrangling. . . I wish you luck in this horrible situation.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

I concur with the advice already offered, to withdraw the Affidavit of Support and your endorsement of any accompanying applications, BUT please indicate in your request that the marriage has not been viable for X number of months and that you have reason to believe your husband entered into the marriage for immigrant benefit alone in your correspondence, and give as much evidence in terms of timeline and situations as you can. If by chance the approved AOS notification and the correspondence of your request to withdraw crosses in the mail, it just could prevent an automatic approval from sticking.