I've Been Duped!

[WestmorelandLove 0]

This is my story - I meet my SO July 2006 and we corresponded and in August 2007 he proposed. We got married February 2008. My husband is from Jamaica and once he got here he explained to me that he didn't expect me to have as much as did (home and two cars)

It took a couple of months before his work permit was processed so therefore I was providing and paying all bills - without complaint because that's what you do when you're married. But now he has two jobs and figures since I'm his sponsor he doesn't have to pay any bills. So I have file for divorce which here in Texas it takes 60 days to be final.

The straw that broke my back - my husband told me yeserday that he was setting me free and that he was going to do what he had to do - and he was leaving. Then last night a police escorts him to our home - and I was thinking so that he could get his things and go - oh but no. He told the officer that I signed a affidavit of support and that he wasn't going anywhere. The officer told me to contact my attorney and see if I could get a restraining order. He was threatening to go and he was going to set me free - but now he decided he will stay put and cause havoc on health.

20/20 hindsight - too late. I too had red flags but just gave them the old "it's just a culture difference" once he starts adjusting things will be better. And CSC hasn't completed the conditional green card yet - is there any chance I could stop them from completed that process?

[desert_fox 32]

I'm sure Texas is the same as many states...it is his home also and you can't just throw him out. I dont understand why the cop was necessary, but do as he sez....see a lawyer, like today, and file for divorce. Ask for a temp order to get him out f there since he can support himself. Don't even worry about the aff. of support at this stage, it is meaningless unless he asks for free govt services.

He will have to return to his home country if there is no marriage when he shows up at his AOS interview....just dont set yourself up where he can claim abuse.

[tom&tata 2]

I'm sure Texas is the same as many states...it is his home also and you can't just throw him out. I dont understand why the cop was necessary, but do as he sez....see a lawyer, like today, and file for divorce. Ask for a temp order to get him out f there since he can support himself. Don't even worry about the aff. of support at this stage, it is meaningless unless he asks for free govt services.

He will have to return to his home country if there is no marriage when he shows up at his AOS interview....just dont set yourself up where he can claim abuse.

Some people was given green card without AOS interview. How about notifying the service center about you filing for divorce?

[desert_fox 32]

Some people was given green card without AOS interview. How about notifying the service center about you filing for divorce?

maybe remove conditions without an interview, but for th4e initial AOS an interview is required.

No marriage, no AOS.

[Islandwoman 0]

This is my story - I meet my SO July 2006 and we corresponded and in August 2007 he proposed. We got married February 2008. My husband is from Jamaica and once he got here he explained to me that he didn't expect me to have as much as did (home and two cars)

It took a couple of months before his work permit was processed so therefore I was providing and paying all bills - without complaint because that's what you do when you're married. But now he has two jobs and figures since I'm his sponsor he doesn't have to pay any bills. So I have file for divorce which here in Texas it takes 60 days to be final.

The straw that broke my back - my husband told me yeserday that he was setting me free and that he was going to do what he had to do - and he was leaving. Then last night a police escorts him to our home - and I was thinking so that he could get his things and go - oh but no. He told the officer that I signed a affidavit of support and that he wasn't going anywhere. The officer told me to contact my attorney and see if I could get a restraining order. He was threatening to go and he was going to set me free - but now he decided he will stay put and cause havoc on health.

20/20 hindsight - too late. I too had red flags but just gave them the old "it's just a culture difference" once he starts adjusting things will be better. And CSC hasn't completed the conditional green card yet - is there any chance I could stop them from completed that process?

I'm so sorry things have worked out this way for you. Heartbreaking after all the mountains you climbed to be together.

[mybackpages 0]

Some people was given green card without AOS interview. How about notifying the service center about you filing for divorce?

maybe remove conditions without an interview, but for th4e initial AOS an interview is required.

No marriage, no AOS.

I think tom&tata are referring to those of us who had our AOS petition transfered to CSC. No interview is required. According to the timeline of the OP, there is no way to know if the petition is going to the local office or wil be transfered. I agree that she might want to notify USCIS once she is sure she wants to proceed with the divorce and cancel AOS.

[*JG* 2]

Some people was given green card without AOS interview. How about notifying the service center about you filing for divorce?

maybe remove conditions without an interview, but for th4e initial AOS an interview is required.

No marriage, no AOS.

Not necessarily. We were approved without interview.

[BarbSami 32]

This is my story - I meet my SO July 2006 and we corresponded and in August 2007 he proposed. We got married February 2008. My husband is from Jamaica and once he got here he explained to me that he didn't expect me to have as much as did (home and two cars)

It took a couple of months before his work permit was processed so therefore I was providing and paying all bills - without complaint because that's what you do when you're married. But now he has two jobs and figures since I'm his sponsor he doesn't have to pay any bills. So I have file for divorce which here in Texas it takes 60 days to be final.

The straw that broke my back - my husband told me yeserday that he was setting me free and that he was going to do what he had to do - and he was leaving. Then last night a police escorts him to our home - and I was thinking so that he could get his things and go - oh but no. He told the officer that I signed a affidavit of support and that he wasn't going anywhere. The officer told me to contact my attorney and see if I could get a restraining order. He was threatening to go and he was going to set me free - but now he decided he will stay put and cause havoc on health.

20/20 hindsight - too late. I too had red flags but just gave them the old "it's just a culture difference" once he starts adjusting things will be better. And CSC hasn't completed the conditional green card yet - is there any chance I could stop them from completed that process?

Im so sorry you are going through this. My heart and prayers goes out to you.

Barb

[*JG* 2]

I would contact: a lawyer first and foremost. I did my own divorce; but in this case, I would not recommend that.

Have them draw up a seperation agreement immediately. This may be one way to get him out of the house.

Learn to play the game now: whatever bills you pay for him, stop. Cell phone? Car payment? Clothes? Food? Whatever. If he wants to be his own big man, let him. If this was me, I would also start taking steps to protect myself. Lock up anything really valuable and not replacable.

Be safe and like someone else said don't give him anything to use against you.

I'm sorry, girl. It is heartbreaking and I feel for you.

[*JG* 2]

Sorry, I missed that you filed.

I would call, e-mail, and write everyone I could think of till I stopped his AOS. It looks like a pretty clear cut case of visa fraud since it's happening so soon.

Maybe visit your local office and talk to someone face to face.

[WestmorelandLove 0]

I'm sure Texas is the same as many states...it is his home also and you can't just throw him out. I dont understand why the cop was necessary, but do as he sez....see a lawyer, like today, and file for divorce. Ask for a temp order to get him out f there since he can support himself. Don't even worry about the aff. of support at this stage, it is meaningless unless he asks for free govt services.

He will have to return to his home country if there is no marriage when he shows up at his AOS interview....just dont set yourself up where he can claim abuse.

Thanks for the advice - I've got two appointments today so with the grace of God I will get some temporary orders.

[WestmorelandLove 0]

I thank each and everyone for the advice and support. This too shall pass. My breakthrough is here - today in Jesus name.

[totes 0]

I would contact: a lawyer first and foremost. I did my own divorce; but in this case, I would not recommend that.

Have them draw up a seperation agreement immediately. This may be one way to get him out of the house.

Learn to play the game now: whatever bills you pay for him, stop. Cell phone? Car payment? Clothes? Food? Whatever. If he wants to be his own big man, let him. If this was me, I would also start taking steps to protect myself. Lock up anything really valuable and not replacable.

Be safe and like someone else said don't give him anything to use against you.

I'm sorry, girl. It is heartbreaking and I feel for you.

Great advice! I totally agree! So sorry this is happening, hang in there!

Edited June 26, 2008 by tony and tess

[Enlighten one :) 5]

So sorry to hear your story, but thank you for having the courage to share. I think it is more important to share the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Be very careful of his games. He might be trying to get you for abuse, which will give him automatic residential status. I know there are several post in regards to this.

Every journey will happen for a reason. He will never find true happiness in America for the simple reason of what he has done to get here. Use this fact to keep you strong and focused on you and not him. Let God handle him, while you handle you.

Take care & God Bless

Mr. Jibowu

This is my story - I meet my SO July 2006 and we corresponded and in August 2007 he proposed. We got married February 2008. My husband is from Jamaica and once he got here he explained to me that he didn't expect me to have as much as did (home and two cars)

It took a couple of months before his work permit was processed so therefore I was providing and paying all bills - without complaint because that's what you do when you're married. But now he has two jobs and figures since I'm his sponsor he doesn't have to pay any bills. So I have file for divorce which here in Texas it takes 60 days to be final.

The straw that broke my back - my husband told me yeserday that he was setting me free and that he was going to do what he had to do - and he was leaving. Then last night a police escorts him to our home - and I was thinking so that he could get his things and go - oh but no. He told the officer that I signed a affidavit of support and that he wasn't going anywhere. The officer told me to contact my attorney and see if I could get a restraining order. He was threatening to go and he was going to set me free - but now he decided he will stay put and cause havoc on health.

20/20 hindsight - too late. I too had red flags but just gave them the old "it's just a culture difference" once he starts adjusting things will be better. And CSC hasn't completed the conditional green card yet - is there any chance I could stop them from completed that process?

AMEN

I thank each and everyone for the advice and support. This too shall pass. My breakthrough is here - today in Jesus name.

[Enlighten one :) 5]

This is a great way to dupe people. They utilize confusion with the cultural differences. I dated someone here in america who already had his GC, but had some seriouse mental issues. I chalked them up to Cultural differences, which took me a year to figure out. As I kept trying to leave him, his issues got worst. I look back and think..."what were you thinking"... OH yeah I wasn't.

20/20 hindsight - too late. I too had red flags but just gave them the old "it's just a culture difference" once he starts adjusting things will be better.