What's ur job before meeting ur husbie/wife?

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

this thread scares me

may i ask why?

people giving up their careers because their SO doesn't want them working anymore

I see.. Guess that is when the word "compromise" comes in..

My career was and is the same....I teach elementary school, supportive instruction. The addition of my husband didn't change that one bit.

I am happy for you...

Compromise is when you say " sure i dont mind you working until you get here, and once you are here we can discuss things further, without uhm consequenses (still dont understand why there are any if you work)

But to request you not to work while your apart, is not a compromise, its a control issue.

Also i want to add, and then im out of this thread

I wouldnt go around announcing yourself as a B.I.T.C.H....There are not many meanings to it, but the one you gave on that thread is not one of them, and its kinda degrading especially when you say it about yourself.

compromise works differently in each relationship... *shrugs*

I totally agree...

Edited June 24, 2008 by CaNdiD wiTcH

[Sister Fracas 5]

Let's see....before marriage, I was a web site administrator/coordinator and he was a math teacher for kids with special needs

After marriage, I'm a web site administrator/coordinator and he is a math teacher for kids with special needs...

[Cassie 8]

Let's see, before I moved to the US I had a satisfying and successful but not necessarily lucrative career working in the heritage preservation field.

After I moved to the US, I have worked in credit collections, home healthcare administration, and retail. I now am a housewife.

It's one of the reasons I don't feel 100% at home here.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

I had about 20+jobs before meeting my Husband. Been working since I could babysit. The most immediate though would have been a clinical secretary/occupational rehabilitation assisstant, and I had a few paper routes.

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

Let's see, before I moved to the US I had a satisfying and successful but not necessarily lucrative career working in the heritage preservation field.

After I moved to the US, I have worked in credit collections, home healthcare administration, and retail. I now am a housewife.

It's one of the reasons I don't feel 100% at home here.

Being a wife and a mom is the greatest job according to some people.. Keeping your family happy and organizing things for them is a tough job because there are no specific "office rules" for that.. Besides, the responsibility to mold her children into a good person is not an easy job.. I salute you girl!

[tom&tata 2]

Let's see, before I moved to the US I had a satisfying and successful but not necessarily lucrative career working in the heritage preservation field.

After I moved to the US, I have worked in credit collections, home healthcare administration, and retail. I now am a housewife.

It's one of the reasons I don't feel 100% at home here.

Is it because of where you live or is it because the field simply almost does not exist in US - I am just curious. My field is easy - corporate finance. It's the same almost everywhere - I even work with the same software in Indonesia & in US.

[morocco4ever 63]

When I met my husband he wasn't working. It was convenient for me because he could stay up late at night to talk to me after work. He had an opportunity to start a job in a city where he wouldn't have easy access to the internet and he would have to be asleep by the time I got off work. Initially I was freaked out because that would mean very limited time together. After my initial freak out I realized how his life is. I have a job and fill my time with busy work. Then I had my nights with him. My life was pretty full. He, on the other hand, had nothing to do day after day after day but to wait for me. His days drag by while mine flew. Long story short I realized just how selfish it was of me to expect him to be there for me 24/7 so I had it all, but he had nothing but empy days. Shame on me for my selfish thoughts!

In the end I told him to take the job, and we would figure out a way to find time together. I agreed to him working for his sake, he ended up declining the job for me. That is what I call compromise.

Oh yes, I was an accountant before, and I am still an accountant.

[~krakatoa~ 27]

I worked as a chemist, analyst and the last one was as a territory manager.

[Cassie 8]

Let's see, before I moved to the US I had a satisfying and successful but not necessarily lucrative career working in the heritage preservation field.

After I moved to the US, I have worked in credit collections, home healthcare administration, and retail. I now am a housewife.

It's one of the reasons I don't feel 100% at home here.

Being a wife and a mom is the greatest job according to some people.. Keeping your family happy and organizing things for them is a tough job because there are no specific "office rules" for that.. Besides, the responsibility to mold her children into a good person is not an easy job.. I salute you girl!

I appreciate the kind words, but I am not a mom. I enjoy being a wife, there's no question about it, but being by myself all day can be wearing on a person.

Let's see, before I moved to the US I had a satisfying and successful but not necessarily lucrative career working in the heritage preservation field.

After I moved to the US, I have worked in credit collections, home healthcare administration, and retail. I now am a housewife.

It's one of the reasons I don't feel 100% at home here.

Is it because of where you live or is it because the field simply almost does not exist in US - I am just curious. My field is easy - corporate finance. It's the same almost everywhere - I even work with the same software in Indonesia & in US.

It exists -- there are museums here, and I have applied to all three in my local area. I have had no luck -- they prefer to hire those whom they "know".

Edited June 24, 2008 by Cassie

[KarenCee 3]

Let's see, before I moved to the US I had a satisfying and successful but not necessarily lucrative career working in the heritage preservation field.

After I moved to the US, I have worked in credit collections, home healthcare administration, and retail. I now am a housewife.

It's one of the reasons I don't feel 100% at home here.

Being a wife and a mom is the greatest job according to some people.. Keeping your family happy and organizing things for them is a tough job because there are no specific "office rules" for that.. Besides, the responsibility to mold her children into a good person is not an easy job.. I salute you girl!

I appreciate the kind words, but I am not a mom. I enjoy being a wife, there's no question about it, but being by myself all day can be wearing on a person.

Let's see, before I moved to the US I had a satisfying and successful but not necessarily lucrative career working in the heritage preservation field.

After I moved to the US, I have worked in credit collections, home healthcare administration, and retail. I now am a housewife.

It's one of the reasons I don't feel 100% at home here.

Is it because of where you live or is it because the field simply almost does not exist in US - I am just curious. My field is easy - corporate finance. It's the same almost everywhere - I even work with the same software in Indonesia & in US.

It exists -- there are museums here, and I have applied to all three in my local area. I have had no luck -- they prefer to hire those whom they "know".

Ah yes...that exists here where we live too...the school district where I teach likes to hire "their own" meaning those that were born, raised, graduated HS, and have family that have lived here dating back to the beginning of time. Anyone else, despite how qualified they are has a snowballs's chance in Hades of getting hired. The reason they hired me is they couldn't find anyone that would *willingly* take on a particular child with Aspergers. I guess I lucked out.

[tom&tata 2]

Let's see, before I moved to the US I had a satisfying and successful but not necessarily lucrative career working in the heritage preservation field.

After I moved to the US, I have worked in credit collections, home healthcare administration, and retail. I now am a housewife.

It's one of the reasons I don't feel 100% at home here.

Being a wife and a mom is the greatest job according to some people.. Keeping your family happy and organizing things for them is a tough job because there are no specific "office rules" for that.. Besides, the responsibility to mold her children into a good person is not an easy job.. I salute you girl!

I appreciate the kind words, but I am not a mom. I enjoy being a wife, there's no question about it, but being by myself all day can be wearing on a person.

Let's see, before I moved to the US I had a satisfying and successful but not necessarily lucrative career working in the heritage preservation field.

After I moved to the US, I have worked in credit collections, home healthcare administration, and retail. I now am a housewife.

It's one of the reasons I don't feel 100% at home here.

Is it because of where you live or is it because the field simply almost does not exist in US - I am just curious. My field is easy - corporate finance. It's the same almost everywhere - I even work with the same software in Indonesia & in US.

It exists -- there are museums here, and I have applied to all three in my local area. I have had no luck -- they prefer to hire those whom they "know".

Understand - it's almost like everybody wants to hire experienced person - but then how do you start to have experience if nobody will hire you.

Good luck to you. If I was not able to get a job that I like enough to wake up every morning, adjusting to life in US would have been a lot harder.

[Cassie 8]

It exists -- there are museums here, and I have applied to all three in my local area. I have had no luck -- they prefer to hire those whom they "know".

Ah yes...that exists here where we live too...the school district where I teach likes to hire "their own" meaning those that were born, raised, graduated HS, and have family that have lived here dating back to the beginning of time. Anyone else, despite how qualified they are has a snowballs's chance in Hades of getting hired. The reason they hired me is they couldn't find anyone that would *willingly* take on a particular child with Aspergers. I guess I lucked out.

When I first moved here (about 9 months or so after I got here), a small community museum 15 minutes from my house was looking for a curator. I have 5 years experience in running a similar sized-museum (from creating the exhibits, to fundraising, to co-ordinating events, etc etc) as an assistant curator, plus oodles of experience working in a provincial museum, university archives, and a national historic site. They ended up persuading a very reluctant part time employee to take the job. I have tried applying at other places, and I know this is unfair to think this, but I don't think I'll ever get a chance to break in because I am not a born and bred Okie.

Edited June 24, 2008 by Cassie

[jundp 191]

Ah, Cassie, that sucks. You would think the small town mentality would not exist in 2008, yet it does

Well, I'm the USC and my job is the same now and will be the same when I'm married. P's job will be in the same field. Well, we hope.

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

It exists -- there are museums here, and I have applied to all three in my local area. I have had no luck -- they prefer to hire those whom they "know".

Ah yes...that exists here where we live too...the school district where I teach likes to hire "their own" meaning those that were born, raised, graduated HS, and have family that have lived here dating back to the beginning of time. Anyone else, despite how qualified they are has a snowballs's chance in Hades of getting hired. The reason they hired me is they couldn't find anyone that would *willingly* take on a particular child with Aspergers. I guess I lucked out.

When I first moved here (about 9 months or so after I got here), a small community museum 15 minutes from my house was looking for a curator. I have 5 years experience in running a similar sized-museum (from creating the exhibits, to fundraising, to co-ordinating events, etc etc) as an assistant curator, plus oodles of experience working in a provincial museum, university archives, and a national historic site. They ended up persuading a very reluctant part time employee to take the job. I have tried applying at other places, and I know this is unfair to think this, but I don't think I'll ever get a chance to break in because I am not a born and bred Okie.

Oh..Sad to hear that.. Sometimes they said it is the case "IT IS NOT WHAT YOU KNOW BUT WHOM YOU KNOW" that could make you easily find a job ( makes me feel nervous of what might happen to me career wise when I reached there).. I just hope that you would find a suitable work for you at the soonest.. Wish you luck..

Edited June 24, 2008 by CaNdiD wiTcH

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

It exists -- there are museums here, and I have applied to all three in my local area. I have had no luck -- they prefer to hire those whom they "know".

Ah yes...that exists here where we live too...the school district where I teach likes to hire "their own" meaning those that were born, raised, graduated HS, and have family that have lived here dating back to the beginning of time. Anyone else, despite how qualified they are has a snowballs's chance in Hades of getting hired. The reason they hired me is they couldn't find anyone that would *willingly* take on a particular child with Aspergers. I guess I lucked out.

When I first moved here (about 9 months or so after I got here), a small community museum 15 minutes from my house was looking for a curator. I have 5 years experience in running a similar sized-museum (from creating the exhibits, to fundraising, to co-ordinating events, etc etc) as an assistant curator, plus oodles of experience working in a provincial museum, university archives, and a national historic site. They ended up persuading a very reluctant part time employee to take the job. I have tried applying at other places, and I know this is unfair to think this, but I don't think I'll ever get a chance to break in because I am not a born and bred Okie.

Oh..Sad to hear that.. Sometimes they said it is the case "IT IS NOT WHAT YOU KNOW BUT WHOM YOU KNOW" that could make you easily find a job ( makes me feel nervous of what might happen to my (had a mistake "me" but cannot edit my post twice) career wise when I reached there).. I just hope that you would find a suitable work for you at the soonest.. Wish you luck..