What's ur job before meeting ur husbie/wife?

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

there were also cases like me.. i was working as an executive assistant of the CEO abroad but i need to TEMPORARILY give up my job until we will be together again (as per my husbie's request)...

That's quite an interesting statement!

i bet it is "interesting"...

i love my job but i love my husbie more..

May I ask why you were forced to choose?

My husbie doesn't want me to work abroad again.. He knows how I work when we met.. And he is quite afraid that I would sink myself into work out of sadness being far away from each other.. He always reminds me that when we are already together again "I could not and must not take office work with me at home"....

Besides there are time conflicts now that he is working on a night shift.. It means that we would seldom talk (time and sched difference).. We both have this "broken marriage" of parents syndrome so we would like to keep and take good care of what we have now.. i know it may sound pathetic but that's the case...

So you're sat there, half the world away from each other, but you're not allowed to work? Can you really call yourself a B.I.T.C.H.?

I have to agree, you cant really call yourself a B.I.T.C.H when you let your husband/fiance tell you if you are not allowed to work, even though your not together yet.

My husband didn't TELL me (as he knows i do not want to be dominated). He REQUESTED if I could (means it would still be my DECISION).. We talked about the possibilities, consequences, etc.. But of course I know what he would feel if I will say NO..

B.I.T.C.H makes her decision and sticks to it.. So I DECIDED and I am STICKING with that decision..

Anyway, I do respect your views...

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

As I said.. the situation now is TEMPORARY.. I may not work "as in work" as of the moment but I am doing valuable things myself..

I am into tutorials of kids for the meantime but it is not really "work" for me. Besides being a B.I.T.C.H also stands for making own decisions.

It is my decision to agree with my husband's request (he could not force me if i do not want to follow but that would harm our relationship).

I do STAND by that decision and I do not REGRET choosing my husbie than my career this time..

Oh sorry, I think I'm getting confused. I read where you said not working was hard because you usually are quite busy, I read where you said that you would usually work through your sadness by keeping yourself thrown into work, and all the 'my husband knows this and is afraid of that and reminds me of this' so I assumed you wouldn't have chosen to give up your job if he didn't request you to do so.

But it's not really temporary though, is it? You won't work til after you're here...so your career in your home country as you knew it is over?

I know I've gotten personal here, but since you brought it all up, I had to comment. It pains me a great deal to see vibrant people have to choose between two things they love, which could easily coexist in some manner together.

I hope your relationship works out to be everything you want it to be .

Thanks a lot.. I do hope so as this relationship means so much to me.. It was like I have finally found my lair after a long and restless journey.. I must admit that it was so hard for me but this is just temporary..

[jom 4]

A nurse for 8 years, a legal secretary to my Mom for 4 years ( while studying law) then a lawyer for 4 years. I miss working

[Mags 112]

Duplicate topics have been merged.

[VisaJourneyLady 33]

is the implication that we have given up work now that we're married?

I earn more than my husband, and I work in the film industry. B)

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm film industry.....

not THAT film industry. They don't use film's anyway, only crappy video

[Amby 490]

this thread scares me

[Ban Hammer 13,346]

is the implication that we have given up work now that we're married?

I earn more than my husband, and I work in the film industry. B)

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm film industry.....

not THAT film industry. They don't use film's anyway, only crappy video

you was about to be one of my favorite persons on vj.

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

this thread scares me

may i ask why?

[Amby 490]

this thread scares me

may i ask why?

people giving up their careers because their SO doesn't want them working anymore

[KarenCee 3]

My career was and is the same....I teach elementary school, supportive instruction. The addition of my husband didn't change that one bit.

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

this thread scares me

may i ask why?

people giving up their careers because their SO doesn't want them working anymore

I see.. Guess that is when the word "compromise" comes in..

My career was and is the same....I teach elementary school, supportive instruction. The addition of my husband didn't change that one bit.

I am happy for you...

[Sinergy 3]

this thread scares me

may i ask why?

people giving up their careers because their SO doesn't want them working anymore

I see.. Guess that is when the word "compromise" comes in..

My career was and is the same....I teach elementary school, supportive instruction. The addition of my husband didn't change that one bit.

I am happy for you...

Compromise is when you say " sure i dont mind you working until you get here, and once you are here we can discuss things further, without uhm consequenses (still dont understand why there are any if you work)

But to request you not to work while your apart, is not a compromise, its a control issue.

Also i want to add, and then im out of this thread

I wouldnt go around announcing yourself as a B.I.T.C.H....There are not many meanings to it, but the one you gave on that thread is not one of them, and its kinda degrading especially when you say it about yourself.

Edited June 24, 2008 by Sinergy

[chri'stina 190]

I was working part time at a Chrysler car dealership in the warranty dept and did some cashiering for the service dept when I met Sujeet. I was also getting my BA in Sociology at USF. I stayed at that job for awhile, then left it to complete some classes that interfered with my work schedule. After coming back from India in 2003(also after graduating) I worked briefly at an adoption agency/law office, again temporarily at the same car dealership, and then worked at a private school with preschoolers when Sujeet moved here and we got married. I stayed at that job that school year while he started working and I eventually left it to be a homemaker and now stay at home mom, which is what I really wanted to do.

[Marilyn. 340]

this thread scares me

may i ask why?

people giving up their careers because their SO doesn't want them working anymore

I see.. Guess that is when the word "compromise" comes in..

My career was and is the same....I teach elementary school, supportive instruction. The addition of my husband didn't change that one bit.

I am happy for you...

Compromise is when you say " sure i dont mind you working until you get here, and once you are here we can discuss things further, without uhm consequenses (still dont understand why there are any if you work)

But to request you not to work while your apart, is not a compromise, its a control issue.

Also i want to add, and then im out of this thread

I wouldnt go around announcing yourself as a B.I.T.C.H....There are not many meanings to it, but the one you gave on that thread is not one of them, and its kinda degrading especially when you say it about yourself.

compromise works differently in each relationship... *shrugs*

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

this thread scares me

may i ask why?

people giving up their careers because their SO doesn't want them working anymore

I see.. Guess that is when the word "compromise" comes in..

My career was and is the same....I teach elementary school, supportive instruction. The addition of my husband didn't change that one bit.

I am happy for you...

Compromise is when you say " sure i dont mind you working until you get here, and once you are here we can discuss things further, without uhm consequenses (still dont understand why there are any if you work)

But to request you not to work while your apart, is not a compromise, its a control issue.

Also i want to add, and then im out of this thread

I wouldnt go around announcing yourself as a B.I.T.C.H....There are not many meanings to it, but the one you gave on that thread is not one of them, and its kinda degrading especially when you say it about yourself.

Compromise (between me and my husbie) is when i told my husband "ok.. I would give in to your request but I would go back to working once I am already there with you" and he agreed...

The title was B.I.T.C.H and in that thread we are using such word because the topic came out of the book entitled "why men marry bitches"..

In the start of the thread it was CLEARLY stated that the word was used as an ACRONYM.. not the literal ######.... because if I am a "B..CH" in the real sense of the word (literally), the why would I post and tell the whole wide world about it?

Edited June 24, 2008 by CaNdiD wiTcH