What's ur job before meeting ur husbie/wife?

[natty bumppo 297]

sometimes the pump can get a fuller release and help with the milk production ... also helps if there is an infant that just doesn't want to do their part for whatever reason

Those pesky infants! I bet they are acting up cuz their Mom is working!

that or geting lazy and don't want to work for it ... only wanting to "hit the bottle"

[no name 1]

sometimes the pump can get a fuller release and help with the milk production ... also helps if there is an infant that just doesn't want to do their part for whatever reason

Those pesky infants! I bet they are acting up cuz their Mom is working!

that or geting lazy and don't want to work for it ... only wanting to "hit the bottle"

[Fandango 1,439]

I have read the thread...

and I didn't see that at all...

Then you didn't read the first page

[Marilyn. 340]

I have read the thread...

and I didn't see that at all...

Then you didn't read the first page

I read the whole darn thread

she never said anything about suffering the consequences.. she said they talked about the consequences and the possibilities etc.... like if she didn't quit her job, they wouldn't be able to spend as much time together....

I think you are reading far more into her statements that what is actually there....

[Fandango 1,439]

I have read the thread...

and I didn't see that at all...

Then you didn't read the first page

I read the whole darn thread

she never said anything about suffering the consequences.. she said they talked about the consequences and the possibilities etc.... like if she didn't quit her job, they wouldn't be able to spend as much time together....

I think you are reading far more into her statements that what is actually there....

She said her not quitting would harm the relationship.

She said she loves working. She says not working is hard. She says they discussed consequences of her continuing to work. She says she doesn't want to be a ''PLAIN housewife.' And she's said and also shown that the only way this was less hard on her was the notion that he has compromised to let her work once she gets here. Which of course, remains to be seen.

That is a far cry from 'hey! i get to quit my job and I spend all day with hubby!'

If a woman is happy to give up her career...MORE POWER TO HER...if she is kinda forced into chosing?

"i love my job, but I love my husband more"

total bollox.

Well spoken highly intelligent women giving up careers on the say so of their husbands for no other reason than to be laying in wait for darling husband to Skype them is such a shame. The OP wasn't the only one with this story....

Those careers weren't a problem before a ring was placed on those women's fingers. Now it is. Go figure.

You think I'm reading too much into it, yet I think you're reading from your own perspective, and not one of someone who may not have been as happy giving up a career. I'm not bashing you whatsoever, Marilyn....if you were happy to give up your job...more power to you! But this scenario doesn't look the same from where I'm seein it

[Marilyn. 340]

ok.. we can agree to disagree then

[mawilson 2,133]

Moral grandstanding aside, I'd really like to know how most couples here who are both working and have careers plan to juggle those careers while raising a family. There's no right or wrong answer here, but it seems that setting aside one's career to be with their spouse is somehow less noble than doing so to raise children?

Gee, I don't know. Most people somehow manage to work and raise children, it's not rocket science.

LOL...speaking from experience, Mark?

Sure.

Did you want to say something to me, Punk?

[Fandango 1,439]

Mark, have I told you today how much you rock?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Moral grandstanding aside, I'd really like to know how most couples here who are both working and have careers plan to juggle those careers while raising a family. There's no right or wrong answer here, but it seems that setting aside one's career to be with their spouse is somehow less noble than doing so to raise children?

Gee, I don't know. Most people somehow manage to work and raise children, it's not rocket science.

LOL...speaking from experience, Mark?

Sure.

Did you want to say something to me, Punk?

I wasn't picking a fight ...but I thought I remember saying you and your wife don't have any children nor do you have any plans to have any. So I'm wondering just what kind of experience do you have with raising kids?

[CaNdiD wiTcH 0]

I have read the thread...

and I didn't see that at all...

Then you didn't read the first page

I read the whole darn thread

she never said anything about suffering the consequences.. she said they talked about the consequences and the possibilities etc.... like if she didn't quit her job, they wouldn't be able to spend as much time together....

I think you are reading far more into her statements that what is actually there....

She said her not quitting would harm the relationship.

She said she loves working. She says not working is hard. She says they discussed consequences of her continuing to work. She says she doesn't want to be a ''PLAIN housewife.' And she's said and also shown that the only way this was less hard on her was the notion that he has compromised to let her work once she gets here. Which of course, remains to be seen.

That is a far cry from 'hey! i get to quit my job and I spend all day with hubby!'

If a woman is happy to give up her career...MORE POWER TO HER...if she is kinda forced into chosing?

"i love my job, but I love my husband more"

total bollox.

Well spoken highly intelligent women giving up careers on the say so of their husbands for no other reason than to be laying in wait for darling husband to Skype them is such a shame. The OP wasn't the only one with this story....

Those careers weren't a problem before a ring was placed on those women's fingers. Now it is. Go figure.

You think I'm reading too much into it, yet I think you're reading from your own perspective, and not one of someone who may not have been as happy giving up a career. I'm not bashing you whatsoever, Marilyn....if you were happy to give up your job...more power to you! But this scenario doesn't look the same from where I'm seein it

Thanks Happy Bunny...

I do appreciate constructive criticism... This post was created for people to share a bit of their life (work before and after the marriage). I never intended this to become a venue of degrading any nationality or make fun of each and every little thing they said. We should realize that there is a big difference with every culture. Every person has their own different situation and differs in the way they handle it.

To everybody who participated with "healthy and constructive critism", thanks to all of you (guess it is obvious who you are).. Upon reading the whole thread over again, I realized that there were people who instead of giving "INPUT WITH SENSE" have done nothing but to "SCREW SOME PEOPLE WHO PARTICIPATED AND SHARED WHAT KIND OF JOB THEY HAVE BEFORE AND AFTER".

Being so CRITICAL differs from being NASTY (we need to RESPECT the way other view things not to DESPISE whatever decisions they made).

I maybe the one who started this topic but I will be out of this thread after this..

To those people who AIMS TO STOP THIS THREAD or HAVING AN AIM TO ANNOY PARTICULAR SET OF PEOPLE THROUGH THIS, I am not gonna say CONGRATS and YOU WON... It is just so tiring to keep on answering and reading SENSELESS COMMENTS AIMING TO RIDICULE SOMEBODY..

I just hope you will learn the meaning WORD RESPECT.. ATTACKING OTHER PEOPLE CANNOT MAKE YOU A BETTER PERSON...

Always remember this "IF YOU CANNOT SAY ANYTHING GOOD TO YOUR FELLOW, JUST KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!"...

Have a great day everyone.. Good luck in our life's journey...

[Ban Hammer 13,342]

well said candid

[bora bora 1]

I was a college student who worked part time at a liquor store before I met my husband. I became a teacher after I graduated (we met while I was teaching in his country).

[Sinergy 3]

omg

[marizzacdo 4]

I am a Internal Auditor in a private company...

[mrsartis 10]

Compromise is when you say " sure i dont mind you working until you get here, and once you are here we can discuss things further, without uhm consequenses (still dont understand why there are any if you work)

Im an accountant here in at Financial Times Ltd and used to be a part time barista in starbucks., i just filed my resignation letter to my boss last tuesday, its not a matter of choice though.. I want to be with my fiance and he is in the US and im here in the PI, we cant save for him to travel 7,000 miles every 3 months just like we always do, so now that my visa arrived already. I decided to live with him and his family in the US and stay out of work for a couple of months until i get my SSN. but would still remain an accountant.. i guess and a barista or maybe just a coffee enthusiast.