Has your S.O physically abused you?

[KarenCee 3]

Believe me, "abused" is not something that one sets out to be. And I definitely did not ask for it. I have 2 brothers. And we were raised privileged. So stereotypes do not apply.

Mine started out verbally. He was constantly telling me how fat I was or how no one wanted me, not even my family. Every time I would try to leave, he would block the door, take the phone, or take my keys. I can't tell you how many times I cried myself to sleep. I really felt like he was all I had. My family lived in California and we were in Minneapolis. I tried to call my mom. Basically, I made my bed. I had to lay in it. Within the next week he split my lip and blackened my eye. If it weren't for a coworker that pulled me aside and talked to me and took me in, I may not be here right now. Only God knows.

This was when I was 17 years old. Thought he was the one. What a laugh. O well. I now have the man of my dreams. The kindest, sweetest, most giving man in the world.

No, you do NOT sound pissy. This is exactly what I was saying before...unless you've been there, you can't know what this does to a person's state of mind. You can't and you don't. So this is why I was saying that those passing judgment, shouldn't. They have NO CLUE.

I'm glad you're so happy too. I too have an awesome man as my husband...he loves me regardless.

[SuccessfulK1,Married 0]

I know this may be an odd question to ask. I was talking to a woman about a year ago on here and she told me that she went to visit her boyfriend in his country and he twisted her _____ in an argument. When she returned home she got x-rays of her ____ and it showed that she had a hairline fracture. Anyway, she told me that it was her fault for getting him upset and apologized. I couldn't believe my ears. She said she would still petitioned for him for he did not mean to do what he did. I am wondering now if there is anybody that has the same issues as this person did and is still willing to go on with this process. Just very curious.

You forget the other part of the question - did anyone suffer abuse - physical, verbal or otherwise after arriving in and marrying their USC spouse?

I am about to divorce my abusive USC spouse, jsut after our 4th anniversary (came as K-1).

[Nessa 23]

i handcuffed hubby once and lost the key. does that count?

[Ban Hammer 13,334]

i handcuffed hubby once and lost the key. does that count?

[HappyDancer 7]

twist my anything and you'll get all that I learned in martial arts 3rd degree.

[Laura+Tom 2]

No and if he ever did we would be finished.

[Big Papa Zone 93]

'Er indoors once hurled kitchen utensils and crockery at me, whilst screaming at me to "get the #### out of my house" - does that count?

[tmma 467]

NO. The first instance would be the ONLY instance. It would be over and done with.

Years ago-way before Mark....It happened once...I walked and didn't look back. It was either walk away and end it or lay the mofo out. I figured he was not worth a criminal record, so I walked...Not looked back since.

[Mrs.J06 4]

I think a lot of the times it comes on so gradually that the "I'll never let it happen" argument isn't really valid.

Good for the people who see it coming and immediately get out - not always easy, I'm sure.

I have no experience with abuse, physical or emotional, but I feel very much for the people who had to endure it.

[Gemmie 142]

Never, and the man tells me he would rather die than hurt me.

[sus 70]

I think a lot of the times it comes on so gradually that the "I'll never let it happen" argument isn't really valid.

Good for the people who see it coming and immediately get out - not always easy, I'm sure.

I have no experience with abuse, physical or emotional, but I feel very much for the people who had to endure it.

Exactly, Mrs - I was in an abusive relationship in my past - It did not start out physically abusive, but as I look back on it now, I can see the mental abuse and the signs that it was starting - being in it, you can't see it - Unless it is an unexpected full out burst of violence, it's hard to recognize because it starts small and continues to grow - By the time the physical violence starts, you are so mentally drained that it almost feels like it was deserved or it was your fault - Unless you have been there, it's hard to fully understand it.

It's not an easy cycle to break out of - All you can do for someone who is in that situation is be honest with them, tell them what you see, but let them know that you love and support them regardless - Eventually, they will hit a wall and the best thing you can do is to let them know that you will be there for them to turn to for support -

[JSVP08 3]

I wasn't passing judgment, but saying that I feel sad that it's such a problem.

I've never been physically abused, but I did deal with mental abuse, which is just as bad, IMO.

I know...and it wasn't really you that I was indirectly referring to. You wouldn't believe the crass comments I've had made to me personally from women who thought I was "asking for it" or was "pretty dumb" for "allowing" it to happen. I'm just saying if ya haven't been there...don't pass judgment. I dealt with mental and emotional...the day he decided to step it up a notch and physically abuse me, in front of my child, that's what gave me the strength and the courage (yes, abused women don't have a lot of courage) to leave.

Mental abuse, IMHO, is worse than physical. Physical scars can heal...mental scars take far longer. Believe me. *sigh*

i agree with this. i voted No on the physical abused but ive been mentally and emotionally drained... for so long. getting out of a rotten abusive partner isn't easy eventhou ur mind clearly tells and sees whats happening, actually walk out the relationship is another. I admit i didn't have the courage to do so eventhou i wasn't depending anything on my ex except loving him. i couldn't thank myself enough today for not being married to any of my 2 exs.... they really sucked good.

dang over!

iam now blessed with someone who truly knows what partnership and love is all about.

[panamania79 2]

I know this may be an odd question to ask. I was talking to a woman about a year ago on here and she told me that she went to visit her boyfriend in his country and he twisted her _____ in an argument. When she returned home she got x-rays of her ____ and it showed that she had a hairline fracture. Anyway, she told me that it was her fault for getting him upset and apologized. I couldn't believe my ears. She said she would still petitioned for him for he did not mean to do what he did. I am wondering now if there is anybody that has the same issues as this person did and is still willing to go on with this process. Just very curious.

Poor girl must be a masorchist.

[nurse1967 287]

YES, THE LAST TIME WE WERE TOGETHER, SHE ALMOST SEXED ME TO DEATH!!!!

DAYUMN WHAT A WAY TO GO...

TMI

[Mags 112]

My husband abuses me every day. Especially when he's eaten jalapenos, seriously, then it's a case of run for your life!