Has your S.O physically abused you?

[raymaga 25]

Never been physically abused, and would never allow it to happen to me. I would rather live alone for the rest of my life than live with an abusive partner, whether it be physically, emotionally or any other way.

I have way too much respect for myself for that!!!!

[Vipul and Jamie 0]

I've never had it happen to me.

[2ond journey 0]

6 men have been physically abused by there S.O's? Do tell how they abuse you guys. Did they sex you to death like that last poster? Or have woman become more abusive and you like it.

[LoriLawless 0]

No and if someone hit me, he'd get laid out on the floor cause I don't take that #######.

[macutelit 0]

NO!!! and I will never allow that to happen

[Ontarkie 14,535]

I think in most cases it kinda sneaks up on ppl it did for me with my ex. I was real young(16yrs old) and the first real relationship. Then over time (15yrs total) little things would start up. Name calling, and him having to know where i was at all times and who i was with ect. (he used to tell me it was cause he was worried about me). Then bit by bit you start to beleive its normal and think oh its not that bad he doesnt hit me #######. Then bang one day he hits ya. I'm glad I woke up before he got any worse and i was able to find myself in that mess. i should of pressed charges when the police showed up (i figured if they take him in and he wakes up in jail, that will be the last of it. Ya dum but hey had those blinders on still.Only regret is i should not have been so nice in the divorce. I should of told the laywer about the abuse i would of got the divorce faster instead of waiting a year. I had enough police reports to back me up but the fear of pissing him off was so high just from the divorce i didnt want it to get worse. Ya theres a pattern lol. stopping.

Also I would never be so hard on someone in that situation they cant help it its they way they think and the abuser makes sure of that or it would never of happened to begin with. These guys can be so smooth its crazzy. So give them a break offer a shoulder to cry on and be there for them. Cause you may be the only person looking out for them. ok stopping this time for sure but you see what i'm saying.

had to add my now wounderful husband is the sweetest man on earth and i'm so happy to have a good man

Danielle

Edited June 29, 2008 by Ontarkie

[KarenCee 3]

I wholeheartedly agree with Ontarkie. Unless you've been there, you don't have a clue. It's very easy to sit back and pass judgment and say women or men who stay in a relationship like this are asking for it by not getting out. So rather than making such a judgment, have a bit more compassion and at least try to be supportive. You never know, YOUR support and compassion may be just what that person needs to find the strength to LEAVE.

By the way...I've been there. *sigh*

[jundp 191]

I wasn't passing judgment, but saying that I feel sad that it's such a problem.

I've never been physically abused, but I did deal with mental abuse, which is just as bad, IMO.

[Y's_habibitk 2]

lay your hands on me=I kick your *ss and leave

Thank God I dont have any worries.

In all seriousness, I feel bad for anyone who has gone through anything like that and sorrier and frustrated for the women/men who stay in the relationship.

[Sassy1natl 0]

Believe me, "abused" is not something that one sets out to be. And I definitely did not ask for it. I have 2 brothers. And we were raised privileged. So stereotypes do not apply.

Mine started out verbally. He was constantly telling me how fat I was or how no one wanted me, not even my family. Every time I would try to leave, he would block the door, take the phone, or take my keys. I can't tell you how many times I cried myself to sleep. I really felt like he was all I had. My family lived in California and we were in Minneapolis. I tried to call my mom. Basically, I made my bed. I had to lay in it. Within the next week he split my lip and blackened my eye. If it weren't for a coworker that pulled me aside and talked to me and took me in, I may not be here right now. Only God knows.

This was when I was 17 years old. Thought he was the one. What a laugh. O well. I now have the man of my dreams. The kindest, sweetest, most giving man in the world.

[Sassy1natl 0]

Sorry, hope I didn't sound pissy.

[o0pink0o 3]

I am a woman and no this has never happened to me.

I don't think my husband will physically abuse me. I feel sorry for those people who were abused

[~krakatoa~ 27]

No.

[KarenCee 3]

I wasn't passing judgment, but saying that I feel sad that it's such a problem.

I've never been physically abused, but I did deal with mental abuse, which is just as bad, IMO.

I know...and it wasn't really you that I was indirectly referring to. You wouldn't believe the crass comments I've had made to me personally from women who thought I was "asking for it" or was "pretty dumb" for "allowing" it to happen. I'm just saying if ya haven't been there...don't pass judgment. I dealt with mental and emotional...the day he decided to step it up a notch and physically abuse me, in front of my child, that's what gave me the strength and the courage (yes, abused women don't have a lot of courage) to leave.

Mental abuse, IMHO, is worse than physical. Physical scars can heal...mental scars take far longer. Believe me. *sigh*

[LoriLawless 0]

I wasn't passing judgment, but saying that I feel sad that it's such a problem.

I've never been physically abused, but I did deal with mental abuse, which is just as bad, IMO.

I know...and it wasn't really you that I was indirectly referring to. You wouldn't believe the crass comments I've had made to me personally from women who thought I was "asking for it" or was "pretty dumb" for "allowing" it to happen. I'm just saying if ya haven't been there...don't pass judgment. I dealt with mental and emotional...the day he decided to step it up a notch and physically abuse me, in front of my child, that's what gave me the strength and the courage (yes, abused women don't have a lot of courage) to leave.

Mental abuse, IMHO, is worse than physical. Physical scars can heal...mental scars take far longer. Believe me. *sigh*

Sorry to hear you had to go through that.