how you met your sweetheart :)

[David-and-Mae 15]

Question for onliners - How did people react to you telling them you met online? Did you actually start dating before having met in person, or did that part wait 'till you met? How long was it between the online meeting and RL meeting for the first time?

In my country, having met the love of your life through the internet is not unusual anymore. When I first met my husband, we were just friends (talked and wrote letters like friends) because he was already with someone at the time. After a couple of months, things started to change between us. We were both professing affection to one another and then I just found out that he's free to start a relationship with me. A month after admitting that we love each other, he'd decided to go see me in my country. But it took another trip back to my home for us to really decide that we are ready for marriage. The rest is history.

[Lili 3]

My husband and I were playing the MMORPG FFXI (Final Fantasy 11). I played a little red-headed Taru named Leilu and my husband played a hume named Nazoom! We started out as friends and became super close and then it went to the next level. We met July or August of 2005 online and we met in person here in the US in July 2006, we got married March 2007 and are now expecting our first baby in less than 9 weeks. He and I never imagined in a million years we would ever date, let alone marry someone we met online and well... we did! He is AMAZING! I miss him so much and hope this whole immigration journey is over quickly and we don't have to be 2000 miles apart any longer!

We met through an online game called Guild Wars. He was my best friend and my rock while I suffered through a bad marriage and the subsequent divorce. He was the light at the end of my dark tunnel.

Our story is similar to this.

We also met playing MMORPG and he was there for me after my 4 yr relationship ended. He felt for me much more than I did for him in the beginning, but in time I felt the same. I think I'm truly blessed for having met him.

Same thing here ! His screen name was ima gurl and was the leader of my guild. I always thought he was a woman till later lol.

So many of us gamers here! We could start our own little club! Sometimes it would seem I was the only girl gamer in the USA, but you're making me feel less of an anomaly!

Ivy411, are you willing to admit to which MMO you were playing at the time?

Lili, what guild(s) were/are you in? I don't play anymore (waiting on GW2 beta), but I still keep in touch with my guildies from Moa Birds and Legion of Losers. Either of those ring a bell? I played way too much for awhile and competitively.

I am drawing a blank but it wasn't a famous guild. My hubby created it with all of his real life friends. I also don't play anymore, it is hard to keep up with all of the expansions, last i played was GWEN. You?

[Sinergy 3]

Wadi and I met at a discoteca in Genova, Italy. We danced together, and the rest is history!

Tara, I love your new pic in your sig. Shonna is so pretty! Though I am partial to dark-haired beauties with glasses!

hahahha thanks...yea it took her almost 2 hours to pick out the glasses of her hearts content, and when she found them, i was so happy

I also love this pic bc she never wants her pic taken, but she had no choice that day

Edited June 23, 2008 by Sinergy

[shiri 0]

Question for onliners - How did people react to you telling them you met online? Did you actually start dating before having met in person, or did that part wait 'till you met? How long was it between the online meeting and RL meeting for the first time?

How did people react to you telling them you met online? For me it varied. One close friend thought he was a serialkiller, but I knew different. Later she was like he is amazing!

Did you actually start dating before having met in person, or did that part wait 'till you met?Yes.

How long was it between the online meeting and RL meeting for the first time?A year. I met him on FFXI July 2005 and he came to visit us here in July 2006.

[Cassie 8]

we met online in a Christian chat room. he said "Nova Scotia? Isn't that near Germany?". I said "ah yes, another Yankee who didn't pay attention in Geography class LOL"

We've been together ever since.

lol, are you serious? That is too funny!!!

Completely serious! We were in the chatroom portion of the website (he had just joined the site about a week before our conversation) and the group of us were talking about how fun it would be to go on a world tour and visit everyone -- first we would start in Paris, France to see our friend AJ, then to London, England to see our friend Tim, than on to Nova Scotia to see me, and on and on. That's when Jerry piped up with "Nova Scotia? Isn't that near Germany?" and then I piped up with my smart remark We all had a good laugh over it and moved on with the conversation. Soon after Jerry PM'ed me wanting to apologize for offending me (if he had) -- I told him that I should apologize for calling him a dumb yankee!......and I think we chatted for five hours that day. We literally were together from that point on.

Question for onliners - How did people react to you telling them you met online? Did you actually start dating before having met in person, or did that part wait 'till you met? How long was it between the online meeting and RL meeting for the first time?

My parents were pretty cool with it. I had been dating people I had met online for a couple of years before that point and they had met some of them in person and realized that I had decent taste. The two people that had the most skepticism when they first heard was my brother and Jerry's sister, but they were soon were ok with it. When people ask us now how we met, I say "we're one of those wacky internet couples you've heard about" and most people react favourably. We considered ourselves together before we met in person, but it was a certainty after we saw each other. We met online the end of January 2004, met in person the first two weeks in April 2004, met again in mid-May 2004, during which time we were engaged.

[chri'stina 190]

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Question for onliners - How did people react to you telling them you met online? Did you actually start dating before having met in person, or did that part wait 'till you met? How long was it between the online meeting and RL meeting for the first time?

My parents were pretty cool with it. I had been dating people I had met online for a couple of years before that point and they had met some of them in person and realized that I had decent taste. The two people that had the most skepticism when they first heard was my brother and Jerry's sister, but they were soon were ok with it. When people ask us now how we met, I say "we're one of those wacky internet couples you've heard about" and most people react favourably. We considered ourselves together before we met in person, but it was a certainty after we saw each other. We met online the end of January 2004, met in person the first two weeks in April 2004, met again in mid-May 2004, during which time we were engaged.

Well, people have said "wow, that is amazing" when we tell them how we met. When people ask how did we meet, we go "wellllll....." and kind of give each other that look of hmm here we go.

Since we couldn't meet til 2 years after we started talking, I'd say my heart was already his within a couple months of talking and vice versa, and I wouldn't call it dating more like being in love but just separated. I was in denial at first. I was afraid to admit the situation to anyone. But then my own friends started hinting to me like,"hey who is this guy you are talking about...in India right?" I'd say oh just a friend and pretend it was nothing.

One day a friend saw him chatting to me and he said something very nice to me and she said "you should marry him!" I just laughed and said, No he is all the way in India!!! You're crazy. But inside I was like YES. So by the time I came out with it, I felt my friends would be supportive overall. My parents at first thought it wasn't anything so important. Then I told them one day about it. And they said something like "You love who you love, and if you believe this is what you are supposed to do then we trust you. All we want to know is that he is a good guy that will treat you wonderfully." Co-workers and such at that time, I didn't tell them. I was leaving that job to finish college so I didn't bother. They would prob be judgmental about it anyway.

When I started working again and was engaged, me and my dad has gone to India, and I obviously had to tell co-workers the situation since I was wearing an engagement ring. I wasn't thrilled about telling them and I got mixed reactions. One guy was not happy about it because he said his wife left him for someone she met on the internet and so he hated the internet with a passion and chatting and said "once a chatter, always a chatter" meaning Sujeet would cheat on me in the future with someone online. And I also got scolded by a co-worker who had known me for years about how Indian men are demanding and mean.

I think my friends did a good job of supporting me. I mean if I was in their shoes and heard a friend was falling in love with someone online from a far away country, I'd be a little skeptical myself!! So I am grateful that at least to my face they were very supportive (and hopefully behind my back they were supportive hehe). They all helped me in planning our wedding even before they met Sujeet. And after Sujeet moved here and they got to meet him, I am sure it helped them know how good he really was. And everyone loves him!

[Aubrey 10]

I am drawing a blank but it wasn't a famous guild. My hubby created it with all of his real life friends. I also don't play anymore, it is hard to keep up with all of the expansions, last i played was GWEN. You?

Yeah, same. I PVE'd GWEN and it was fun. I quit GvG before that, although I have done a couple HA runs and a few random GvGs, but basically I just log on now to say hi and see if I have new birthday presents. lol

[Ivy. 113]

My parents were pretty cool with it.

That's awesome! Mine kept saying how "I'm living in a world that's not real", "Why don't you go out and meet real people a bit", "You're talking to a picture on the computer" and "You don't really know him".

They seemed really happy when A. and I broke up and I had a "RL boyfriend" for a short while.. but that relationship was just so ... not it. After that I realized I really honestly believe that A. is who I'm supposed to be and trying to ignore it didn't do me any good. Not at all.

My parents don't know about that yet. I just don't have enough strength to deal with them again.

I'm a student and I don't work and my parents told me I could go to USA, but not to meet A. They said I don't know him, and he's a stranger and I can't stay at his house... yada yada yada. I'm 22 so what they think doesn't matter too much, but I'm also unemployed and without them buying me a plane ticket, I can't go. So, I found myself a job, and I'll save up money to pay for my plane ticket. When I told my mother about that she said "You know we told you if you do well at the university, we'll let you travel wherever you want, you don't need to work to travel" so I reminded her they said no to going to San Antonio and that's where I want to go, so I got a job to save up and go there and she just said "Oh fine then".

Since we couldn't meet til 2 years after we started talking, I'd say my heart was already his within a couple months of talking and vice versa, and I wouldn't call it dating more like being in love but just separated. I was in denial at first. I was afraid to admit the situation to anyone. But then my own friends started hinting to me like,"hey who is this guy you are talking about...in India right?" I'd say oh just a friend and pretend it was nothing.

That's pretty much the way it was with us. We met nearly 2 years ago and we STILL didn't manage meeting for real. We were together for like a year, then I broke down and we broke up, then we ended back together again.. and we finally have a plan and means to see each other, but only in 6 months. Some of my friends I told about us after a while, some never found out. Just a few know we're back together now. I use term "friends" loosely as "people I hang out with and am friendly with" - those that do know/did know about the situation are my real friends but it took a lot to tell them "Yeah, listen, I fell head over heals for this guy I actually never saw for real".

I am aware how crazy it sounds to other people saying "I'm madly in love with a person I never met" so I hardly ever say it. I had to explain to one girl last week that no, I'm not afraid to meet A., and no, it's not like "I don't really know him" because I do. And he knows me. He knows how I feel when he hears my voice, he knows what I think sometimes and he responds to a sentence I have yet to say, he feels when I'm crying even though I'm totally silent, or I'm controlling my voice. When we're talking (God bless Google Talk and voice chats, we both had HUGE phone bills before he finally got a headset with a microphone) and I answer the phone, he can pretty much guess who I was talking to without actually understanding what I'm saying. One time my ex called and we talked a bit, and I never called my ex by his name and A. never heard me talking to him.. but when we hung up he said "That was T., wasn't it?" - he knew by the sound of my voice what my relationship to the person on the other line was.

I have such a hard time explaining people how even though we never met in person, we really do know each other and how he knows me way better than anyone else. I have a hard time explaining myself how I react to him so strongly and how his voice can change my mood in a second. I still don't understand what happened that made me feel like I have to spend the rest of my life with a person I never ever touched.. But I feel like that. Idk. Weird. :/

My friends warned me my bubble might burst and I might feel nothing to him when we finally meet for real. Idk. Maybe. Worth a risk, no?

[babykim 0]

we meet in cherryblossoms online

[kk_mine 0]

Great story! It is taking me a long time to get to my SO as well but all in due time! We met through a childhood friend of mine. I have known her since I was in the 8th grade. My mom talked to her best friend and found out her daughter was remarried. Then she explnd her son in law was from Africa. So her husbands brother who is still in Africa introduced us. My fiance was worried if he should have a relationship with an American girl b/c he said at the time we divorce too much. He said he wanted his marriage to be forever. He had all my info (pics, where I worked etc). He prayed about it and talked to his parents and he felt it was the right decision to make.

The first time we talked it was online and we had an eight hour chat. I set up the chatroom (private and there was a passcode that he needed so it was only a chat between us and no one else could enter). Then I set him up with an email account (that same nite) and we ended our chat under yahoo im. We both hated to have it come to an end!! I told him when we talked that he was under no obligation and we would just talk no strings attached. After I needed to drive home as I was using my brothers computer and I called him but he could not understand me very well as he said that I talked too fast. lol From there the relationship has grown so much!! We just had our 7 month anniversary the 21st of this month. I look forward to seeing him face to face in the near future! I love him with all of me! I look forward to spending our life together!!

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Question for onliners - How did people react to you telling them you met online? Did you actually start dating before having met in person, or did that part wait 'till you met? How long was it between the online meeting and RL meeting for the first time?

My parents were pretty cool with it. I had been dating people I had met online for a couple of years before that point and they had met some of them in person and realized that I had decent taste. The two people that had the most skepticism when they first heard was my brother and Jerry's sister, but they were soon were ok with it. When people ask us now how we met, I say "we're one of those wacky internet couples you've heard about" and most people react favourably. We considered ourselves together before we met in person, but it was a certainty after we saw each other. We met online the end of January 2004, met in person the first two weeks in April 2004, met again in mid-May 2004, during which time we were engaged.

Well, people have said "wow, that is amazing" when we tell them how we met. When people ask how did we meet, we go "wellllll....." and kind of give each other that look of hmm here we go.

Since we couldn't meet til 2 years after we started talking, I'd say my heart was already his within a couple months of talking and vice versa, and I wouldn't call it dating more like being in love but just separated. I was in denial at first. I was afraid to admit the situation to anyone. But then my own friends started hinting to me like,"hey who is this guy you are talking about...in India right?" I'd say oh just a friend and pretend it was nothing.

One day a friend saw him chatting to me and he said something very nice to me and she said "you should marry him!" I just laughed and said, No he is all the way in India!!! You're crazy. But inside I was like YES. So by the time I came out with it, I felt my friends would be supportive overall. My parents at first thought it wasn't anything so important. Then I told them one day about it. And they said something like "You love who you love, and if you believe this is what you are supposed to do then we trust you. All we want to know is that he is a good guy that will treat you wonderfully." Co-workers and such at that time, I didn't tell them. I was leaving that job to finish college so I didn't bother. They would prob be judgmental about it anyway.

When I started working again and was engaged, me and my dad has gone to India, and I obviously had to tell co-workers the situation since I was wearing an engagement ring. I wasn't thrilled about telling them and I got mixed reactions. One guy was not happy about it because he said his wife left him for someone she met on the internet and so he hated the internet with a passion and chatting and said "once a chatter, always a chatter" meaning Sujeet would cheat on me in the future with someone online. And I also got scolded by a co-worker who had known me for years about how Indian men are demanding and mean.

I think my friends did a good job of supporting me. I mean if I was in their shoes and heard a friend was falling in love with someone online from a far away country, I'd be a little skeptical myself!! So I am grateful that at least to my face they were very supportive (and hopefully behind my back they were supportive hehe). They all helped me in planning our wedding even before they met Sujeet. And after Sujeet moved here and they got to meet him, I am sure it helped them know how good he really was. And everyone loves him!

Edited October 23, 2008 by kk_mine

[kk_mine 0]

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I have heard it all from friends and family. Like how could you love him and you have not seen him? Or questions like you have not met him? He was never in the United States? There are scams from his country, hope that he is not going to come over here and leave you. etc.. But I had to do a lot of praying and say that I can't let anyone come in between me and my happiness! But we have had support from friends, family & co-workers. There is a girl I work with and she is from Kenya and she told me others here at the job gossip about my relationship and she defends us. She is very happy for the both of us. But I don't let those things get to me as they did at first.

Great story! It is taking me a long time to get to my SO as well but all in due time! We met through a childhood friend of mine. I have known her since I was in the 8th grade. My mom talked to her best friend and found out her daughter was remarried. Then she explnd her son in law was from Africa. So her husbands brother who is still in Africa introduced us. My fiance was worried if he should have a relationship with an American girl b/c he said at the time we divorce too much. He said he wanted his marriage to be forever. He had all my info (pics, where I worked etc). He prayed about it and talked to his parents and he felt it was the right decision to make.

The first time we talked it was online and we had an eight hour chat. I set up the chatroom (private and there was a passcode that he needed so it was only a chat between us and no one else could enter). Then I set him up with an email account (that same nite) and we ended our chat under yahoo im. We both hated to have it come to an end!! I told him when we talked that he was under no obligation and we would just talk no strings attached. After I needed to drive home as I was using my brothers computer and I called him but he could not understand me very well as he said that I talked too fast. lol From there the relationship has grown so much!! We just had our 7 month anniversary the 21st of this month. I look forward to seeing him face to face in the near future! I love him with all of me! I look forward to spending our life together!!

Edited October 23, 2008 by kk_mine

[Completely 3]

Hello, everybody

While I'm waiting, I'm very very curious and interested to hear stories from you how you met your sweetheart

I met him at the restaurant..

[HappyDancer 7]

Met my SO when I was sent on business trip to the US last year. We work for the same company and I run the department where his department serves as the US counterpart. I was so scared of him at first coz he never smiles and never makes small talk. The kind of guy who appears to be the kind you will go crazy in love with or be scared out of your wits. LOL

On the third week, we finally decided to talk and be at least "nice" to each other and it turned out we became instant best friends. We kept communicating through emails and chat and the relationship had gone deeper then. Little did I know, that the first time he ever saw me, he couldn't get me out of his system. He didn't actually say anything about how he felt until it was time for him to go on business trip to the Philippines, two months after our first meeting.

I told him, I wanted to kick his cute behind for taking so long. I was literally floored when he talked about his feelings. He turned out to be the biggest romantic!

[BermyCat 1]

We're another gamer couple. World of Warcraft this time. I'm always amazed at how many couples I've met on my server that met playing the game. I'm often tempted send Blizzard flowers.

I don't think my parents really knew what to think about me dating a guy I met online. I didn't tell them until after I'd met him in person. They warmed up to him very quickly.

He supported me during my mother's final months of having cancer. The first time he came down to visit, he spent lots of time with her. She was painful to look at, barely more than skin and bones. Despite this, when Dad and I went to work, he'd sit on the bed next to Mom and chat with her all day. He was able to keep her spirits up and mine too. You just don't let a guy like that get away.

~ Catherine

[HappyDancer 7]

That's so sweet... :">

We're another gamer couple. World of Warcraft this time. I'm always amazed at how many couples I've met on my server that met playing the game. I'm often tempted send Blizzard flowers.

I don't think my parents really knew what to think about me dating a guy I met online. I didn't tell them until after I'd met him in person. They warmed up to him very quickly.

He supported me during my mother's final months of having cancer. The first time he came down to visit, he spent lots of time with her. She was painful to look at, barely more than skin and bones. Despite this, when Dad and I went to work, he'd sit on the bed next to Mom and chat with her all day. He was able to keep her spirits up and mine too. You just don't let a guy like that get away.

~ Catherine