God help us!

[lovin_famo 0]

Hello to everyone,

First let me start off by saying, Godspeed to all of us newbies, and to those of you whose journey is near completion, best of luck with your new spouses.

Now i just finished reading threads related to IDOCARE and her "relentlessness", according to others. all I can say is I was very disturbed with the bashing name -calling and so forth. my father taught me one valuable lesson in life, and that was, " if i tell you something once, it is up to you to decide whether or not you will follow my advice. You see, he feels that the only way to teach a child is to let that child "hit the brick wall". Now, i know most will understand what I mean.

On the other hand he also feels that his advice is the only "right advice". When I informed them(parents) of my decision to pursue this relationship, of course they voiced their concerns, but i think they realized that they have reared a strong, independent, focused woman, one who never does things without much thought and prayer.

I say all of this to say, none of us know what God has in store for us, we just have to be prayer-filled vessels, receptive to His word. Ola tells me all the time, "God, sees my heart", and i in turn reply, "Yes, he does, so if you intend on screwing me around, he will exact due justice". Yes, we have disagreements, all the time, because i am the type that asks questions, over and over again, until i am satisfied. He is learning to appreciate that in me.

We are not a perfect race. In the words of one my favorites, "That which does not kill me, can only make me stronger".

I dont pray for failure, I pray for God's blessings to be abundant in my life, and it is my belief that Ola is one of them.

i wont go into details to validate our relationship, because that is between God, Ola, and Dana.

Instead of trying to analyze others and their experience, maybe we should just listen to each other, there is nothing wrong with venting. we all have a choice, no one forces us to read threads, if you dont like it, skip it!

Peace to all, and have a blessed evening!

P.S. Dont forget to say your prayers!

"Mrs. Famodun"

[Queen Jenn 0]

Well said!!

[idocare 3]

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

I think Amy's husband's name is Ola. He's from Nigeria too. Amy where are you?

[lovin_famo 0]

I think Amy's husband's name is Ola. He's from Nigeria too. Amy where are you?

I dont know "Amy", nor her husband, "Ola", not sure of your intention, but I pray that "YOUR" husband is approved when he interviews on the 24TH. Also, in biblical times, the naysayers were always the last to actually "GET IT".

Ola"s "only"

Dana

[LovinLiberia 0]

Just an observation...I don't think she had any intention, it appeared to me that she probably posted in the wrong thread.

[lovin_famo 0]

Just an observation...I don't think she had any intention, it appeared to me that she probably posted in the wrong thread.

Thanks for your observation. Yes, right thread. Hopefully "Amy" can find the humor, I dont.

[LovinLiberia 0]

No problem. I just noticed the Ola name in your OP. moving on...

Edited June 19, 2008 by LovinLiberia

[Zee Bee 61]

I don't think Zainab meant any harm by that.

[LovinLiberia 0]

I don't think Zainab meant any harm by that.

Yes, this is where my inital "observation" was heading.

Edited June 19, 2008 by LovinLiberia

[lovin_famo 0]

No problem. I just noticed the Ola name in your OP. moving on...

I just your noticed your timeline, things were very swift for you, i pray for the same! God bless! Enjoy your hubbie!

[LovinLiberia 0]

Thanks, we happened the file with USCIS when they were moving really fast. Fortunately for us the embassy in Liberia had just re-opened and it's a small country so it took no time for us to get an interview. It would have been faster if they didn't hold us up in a month of investigations.

[lovin_famo 0]

I don't think Zainab meant any harm by that.

No, I dont think she meant any harm, but sometimes people like to make snide remarks at the expense of others, but given the reason for my initial post, ( possible scamming), i just dont find humor in the remark. We are all taking a chance when going through this process, my fiance may be a scammer, or whatever, i just pray for the best not only for myself, but for others as well. another person's pain should never be openly dissected and jabbed with comments made by those who just dont give a damn.

i would never wish that type of betrayal on anyone. So, no harm done. Congrats on your journey!

[Ta Ta 1]

Zainab is one of the kindest people here in this forum and would never insinuate that you are not his only woman. This assumption

is just plain wrong.

She simply made an observation about Amy's husband having the same name and wondered where she is.

You come to this forum as a new comer with guns blazing, tone it down a bit and get to know who you are talking about first before you get your feathers ruffled.

Your post also reflects that you have no background knowledge of a 'recent ' issue' discussed here. Do some research to enlighten yourself with who has a bashing history and who doesn't and calm down a bit.

Peace and welcome to the forum.

[LovinLiberia 0]

Zainab is one of the kindest people here in this forum

Lovin_famo, if it came from Zainab... please trust that she wasn't making a snide remark. I wish you well in your journey, too. It can get tough, but that's why VJ was created.