CR1 Divorce in Future - Help Needed

[dmartmar 1]

NevadaJoe,

Have a consultation with that "Immigration Family Law Attorney" you mentioned a few posts back, although I'm a bit confused as to what an Immigration Family Law Attorney is, since they are two areas of the law quite different from each other. I doubt there are many who do both and are good at it.

Yodrak

I totally agree with Yodrak on this one NJ. I also retained an Immigration Family Law atty. when going through your same situation with my immigrant ex-wife.

[Looking4Wife 0]

NevadaJoe:

Sorry to hear about your situation. My prayers are with you.

It may be that it looks hopeless now, but your situation my be easily correctable. It really may be that you guys need to learn about each other "now" since you didn't spend enough time doing it "before". It may be that the adjustment was a bit much for her, and she doesn't cope with (drastic) change very well. Or it may be that she's a visa scammer, but either way you owe it to yourself to find out what's really going on before you just throw in the towel.

Unfortunately, living with your mother probably isn't doing "wonders" for your marriage either... even if your wife was expecting it, it just isn't the ideal scenario for bonding between husband and wife.

Check out www.MarriageBuilders.com, and look at the section on "Most Important Emotional Needs". After you check it out, then print out the Emotional Needs Questionnaire and go over it with your wife.

This way, you will find out INSTANTANEOUSLY what it will take for you to please her (if anything), and she will know what she needs to do to please you.

This simple exercise should reveal whether or not your wife is really in love with you or not.

If you think you and/or your wife may have been in love with each other at SOME point, then your marriage is likely salvageable. Check out the "Counseling" link at the same website. Don't be shocked, it is expensive ($185/hr.), but I GUARANTEE you that your divorce, and subsequently supporting a woman who is no longer your wife, or that you are separated from is FAR MORE EXPENSIVE.

The ironic thing about divorce is that you actually end up paying for TWO divorce attorneys... so if your attorney is $150/hr. (which is cheap) and hers is $150/hr., now you're up to $300/hr...

A friend of mine who is divorcing an AW had to pay for his attorney ($300/hr.), his wife's attorney, and a psychiatrist for his wife, and a psychiatrist for his children while his divorce was going on... can you say OUCH!

[NevadaJoe 0]

NevadaJoe:

Sorry to hear about your situation. My prayers are with you.

It may be that it looks hopeless now, but your situation my be easily correctable. It really may be that you guys need to learn about each other "now" since you didn't spend enough time doing it "before". It may be that the adjustment was a bit much for her, and she doesn't cope with (drastic) change very well. Or it may be that she's a visa scammer, but either way you owe it to yourself to find out what's really going on before you just throw in the towel.

Unfortunately, living with your mother probably isn't doing "wonders" for your marriage either... even if your wife was expecting it, it just isn't the ideal scenario for bonding between husband and wife.

Check out www.MarriageBuilders.com, and look at the section on "Most Important Emotional Needs". After you check it out, then print out the Emotional Needs Questionnaire and go over it with your wife.

This way, you will find out INSTANTANEOUSLY what it will take for you to please her (if anything), and she will know what she needs to do to please you.

This simple exercise should reveal whether or not your wife is really in love with you or not.

If you think you and/or your wife may have been in love with each other at SOME point, then your marriage is likely salvageable. Check out the "Counseling" link at the same website. Don't be shocked, it is expensive ($185/hr.), but I GUARANTEE you that your divorce, and subsequently supporting a woman who is no longer your wife, or that you are separated from is FAR MORE EXPENSIVE.

The ironic thing about divorce is that you actually end up paying for TWO divorce attorneys... so if your attorney is $150/hr. (which is cheap) and hers is $150/hr., now you're up to $300/hr...

A friend of mine who is divorcing an AW had to pay for his attorney ($300/hr.), his wife's attorney, and a psychiatrist for his wife, and a psychiatrist for his children while his divorce was going on... can you say OUCH!

Ya, maybe after all that touchy, feely stuff we can get naked together, hold hands, and sing "Kum Ba Ya". It's a little difficult for counseling since she is currently in Europe visiting, hopefully it will be a permenant visit.....I agree that living at home is difficult - you are right and I must be fair and admit that, and I do. I wish I can afford living on my own......I am in awe that you value money (divorce attorney prices) over sanity.....I mean is $5 or 10K worth more to you than the next 20-30 years of stress and going totally bonkers? WOW I'd rather live in a shack and have peace of mind than in a house that I dread coming home to.....but that is just me.

p.s. are you still looking for a wife? take mine

[Artegal 1]

Does she have money for a return ticket ????

No, but she could probably scrap up enough......oh she does not have her green card with her or welcome letter - all that is here at home. Another interesting thing - she left the country using her Bosnia passport but her Visa stamp is in her Croatia passport. If and when she trys to re-enter I am asuming she will use the Croatia passport since it has the U.S. Visa stamp but when they run it through the reader - will it show that she has not left the U.S.? she might have some explaning to do why she was using a different passport....I don't know....she is very clever but she makes mistakes.....any comments folks?

It does not matter about the passport--since you do not clear immigration as you leave the USA.