CR1 Divorce in Future - Help Needed

[NevadaJoe 0]

Well here is my story - I am a USC, got married 3 months ago overseas. The wife came here a month ago and has a CR1 visa and has her 2 year GC. She has totally changed since she has arrived, far different from the gal I knew and fell in love with. Her constant nagging is driving me up the wall. She became extremley upset when I refused to start paperwork to sponser her younger brother to visit us (I have a feeling that he would overstay and never leave). I'm a regular working guy and really can't afford any more financial responsibility. I have done everything I can to make her happy - put in a satellite TV so she can watch her programs from back home, got a good long distance company so she can call home more often, we go out to nice places, this summer she will be starting English language classes, gave her a generous allowance so she can buy what she wants, I encourage her to find a job if she desires, I told her I would buy her a nice home next year (still saving), we currently live at my moms. She wants to know what my life savings is - how much and where? if I don't tell her then I don't trust her and it will never work. I continue to refuse to say. She has told me 2x already that if I wanted to divorce "her" that would be fine with her. Everyday I bang my head against the wall trying to figure out what i am doing wrong? and why I can't please her? My fear is that if I try to divorce her, she will lie and cry "abuse" and how do I get her out of my moms place?

Is there someone I can talk to? someone I can report this to?

Nevada Joe

[zyggy 9]

Well here is my story - I am a USC, got married 3 months ago overseas. The wife came here a month ago and has a CR1 visa and has her 2 year GC. She has totally changed since she has arrived, far different from the gal I knew and fell in love with. Her constant nagging is driving me up the wall. She became extremley upset when I refused to start paperwork to sponser her younger brother to visit us (I have a feeling that he would overstay and never leave). I'm a regular working guy and really can't afford any more financial responsibility. I have done everything I can to make her happy - put in a satellite TV so she can watch her programs from back home, got a good long distance company so she can call home more often, we go out to nice places, this summer she will be starting English language classes, gave her a generous allowance so she can buy what she wants, I encourage her to find a job if she desires, I told her I would buy her a nice home next year (still saving), we currently live at my moms. She wants to know what my life savings is - how much and where? if I don't tell her then I don't trust her and it will never work. I continue to refuse to say. She has told me 2x already that if I wanted to divorce "her" that would be fine with her. Everyday I bang my head against the wall trying to figure out what i am doing wrong? and why I can't please her? My fear is that if I try to divorce her, she will lie and cry "abuse" and how do I get her out of my moms place?

Is there someone I can talk to? someone I can report this to?

Nevada Joe

If you want to divorce her.. talk to a divorce attorney... they will guide you on what to do...

[desert_fox 32]

Gee.....Lemme guess what country.

[PalestineMyHeart 1,897]

Well here is my story - I am a USC, got married 3 months ago overseas. The wife came here a month ago and has a CR1 visa and has her 2 year GC.

Let me get this straight. You got married only 3 months ago ? And then right afterwards you filed for a CR-1, and you got through the service center and the NVC and the consulate in that small amount of time, and she's already here and got her green card ? Seems hard to believe, even in the best of circumstances.

Has anyone else heard of a CR-1 moving that fast ?

[john_and_marlene 162]

Well here is my story - I am a USC, got married 3 months ago overseas. The wife came here a month ago and has a CR1 visa and has her 2 year GC.

Let me get this straight. You got married only 3 months ago ? And then right afterwards you filed for a CR-1, and you got through the service center and the NVC and the consulate in that small amount of time, and she's already here and got her green card ? Seems hard to believe, even in the best of circumstances.

Has anyone else heard of a CR-1 moving that fast ?

There was a recent DCF in Sweden that was shorter than that.

[TracyTN 237]

Never heard of that quick of a CR1. Then again it would help to know what consulate.

Edited May 11, 2006 by TracyTN

[meauxna 15]

Well here is my story - I am a USC, got married 3 months ago overseas. The wife came here a month ago and has a CR1 visa and has her 2 year GC.

Let me get this straight. You got married only 3 months ago ? And then right afterwards you filed for a CR-1, and you got through the service center and the NVC and the consulate in that small amount of time, and she's already here and got her green card ? Seems hard to believe, even in the best of circumstances.

Has anyone else heard of a CR-1 moving that fast ?

Mine took 33 days.

If you file through the Consulate abroad, the cases go very quickly.

[NevadaJoe 0]

Never heard of that quick of a CR1. Then again it would help to know what consulate.

It was a DCF and it was processed very quickly. She is here now. It was done in Croatia. Hope that helps.

[PalestineMyHeart 1,897]

Aha.... a DCF. Now the timeframe makes more sense.

As far as your problem goes.... do you want a divorce, or do you want to try to save your marriage ? If you think your relationship is salvageable, you may want to consider marriage counseling as a first step. If that doesn't help or if she refuses, then you might consider seeking a legal opinion about your options, and especially before taking any action as to divorce or separation. Your situation is complicated, and you need expert advice.

I'm sorry to hear things are not going well.... wishing you the best.

[TracyTN 237]

Never heard of that quick of a CR1. Then again it would help to know what consulate.

It was a DCF and it was processed very quickly. She is here now. It was done in Croatia. Hope that helps.

Yes, thanks for the clarification!

[Yodrak 7]

NevadaJoe,

Just out of curiosity, how long had you known her before you married her? And how much time had you spent with her in Croatia?

You can talk to a divorce attorney, as zyggy suggested.

Yodrak

Well here is my story - I am a USC, got married 3 months ago overseas. The wife came here a month ago and has a CR1 visa and has her 2 year GC. ...

Is there someone I can talk to? someone I can report this to?

Nevada Joe

Edited May 11, 2006 by Yodrak

[discoman 0]

Never heard of that quick of a CR1. Then again it would help to know what consulate.

It was a DCF and it was processed very quickly. She is here now. It was done in Croatia. Hope that helps.

Yes, thanks for the clarification!

Joe,

Sorry to hear about your troubles, I'm sure you are not the 1st something like this has happened to. DO NOT give her any account numbers or passwords. She will milk you dry and cry poverty in the end. Being from that region myself I know what the wrong women from there are like - Be careful. Talk to an attorney and call INS and report this - they probably come across this type of stuff. I don't know what the # is, if I did I would share. If you are going to leave her - move into an apt. somewhere and spare your Mom the grief...also it would avoid any squatting rights. Don't know how much support you would have to pay her under I-864 but it will be for 10 years.....Best of Luck

[NevadaJoe 0]

Never heard of that quick of a CR1. Then again it would help to know what consulate.

It was a DCF and it was processed very quickly. She is here now. It was done in Croatia. Hope that helps.

Yes, thanks for the clarification!

Joe,

Sorry to hear about your troubles, I'm sure you are not the 1st something like this has happened to. DO NOT give her any account numbers or passwords. She will milk you dry and cry poverty in the end. Being from that region myself I know what the wrong women from there are like - Be careful. Talk to an attorney and call INS and report this - they probably come across this type of stuff. I don't know what the # is, if I did I would share. If you are going to leave her - move into an apt. somewhere and spare your Mom the grief...also it would avoid any squatting rights. Don't know how much support you would have to pay her under I-864 but it will be for 10 years.....Best of Luck

I have known her for a month prior to getting married (spent 2 weeks with her), I know a stupid mistake but it's done now.

[Yodrak 7]

wife_of_mahmoud,

Wasn't it obvious?

Yodrak

Aha.... a DCF. Now the timeframe makes more sense.

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[giraffemd 0]

so sorry to hear this....there seems to be a lot of this happening lately....hope you can get it resolved and move forward....but as suggested, a lawyer seems to be a good start.