Some one please help me

[trinity06 1]

I recently found out that my husband was on 5 dating sites, Looking for relationship with women, and his pofile says single. I didnt ask him about it because I dont want to argue with him. Though he has been treatning to throw me out, insulting me, calling me names, accusing me. I dont have access to anything in the house, because he locked up all the door, except the bedroom where I and my daughter sleep, the living room and the kitchen, those are the places I have access to.

I have made up my mind to move out, because the marriage is not what I called a marriage. Though my feelings for him has change completely, I dont love him anymore and I cant stand him, because of what he has been doing to me for the past two years. We dont eat together on the table, and he cant stand our daughter whenever she is crying. Infact I cant go into details.

Right now I dont have money, I dont have a job, I have nobody, and I have no where to go. I am a stay home mum and a student. I dont know if there is any help out there I really need it. I am just staying because of my daughter. Everyday I look at her and cry because she dont know what I am going through. I am not happy, and I felt sick most of the time. I live in Fair Oaks in Sacramento county. Please can some one help me.

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

Your post is so sad.

It's sad how a relationship can go from something beautiful to the horror that you have described.

Your husband is treating you like a slave. Keeping you in certain rooms of the house, intolerant of you and your daughter, sneaking around behind your back online, etc. etc.. By your post, there is no relationship there.

Is there anyway you can go back home? Do you have family that can maybe assist in purchasing a plane ticket home for you and your daughter?

I would talk with him and tell him that it's over and that you need to go home...maybe, just maybe he'll find his heart somewhere and pay for a ticket out of his life...so you can find yours again.

I'm so sorry....It's sad that you can't even talk to your husband and tell him how unhappy you are....the way he is treating you is horrible and he should be very ashamed.

I wish you much luck, patience, courage and hope during this difficult time in your life.

[trinity06 1]

I wish I could go back home, but he wont let me take our daughter with me. I have been looking for a job now, but with no success. I have dipla in Banking and Finance, and now I am study Technical Support. Someone I talk to ask me to swallow my pride, and look for a job at Target for the main time to get money, and I am willing to do that. I can not go without our daughter, because I am the only one who know how to take care of her, he doesnt.

[*JG* 2]

I'm sorry. I don't know what to say that won't come across as kind of crass cause this kind of thing angers me to no end.

Perhaps some marriage counseling might be of help to both of you.

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

I recently found out that my husband was on 5 dating sites, Looking for relationship with women, and his pofile says single. I didnt ask him about it because I dont want to argue with him. Though he has been treatning to throw me out, insulting me, calling me names, accusing me. I dont have access to anything in the house, because he locked up all the door, except the bedroom where I and my daughter sleep, the living room and the kitchen, those are the places I have access to.

I have made up my mind to move out, because the marriage is not what I called a marriage. Though my feelings for him has change completely, I dont love him anymore and I cant stand him, because of what he has been doing to me for the past two years. We dont eat together on the table, and he cant stand our daughter whenever she is crying. Infact I cant go into details.

Right now I dont have money, I dont have a job, I have nobody, and I have no where to go. I am a stay home mum and a student. I dont know if there is any help out there I really need it. I am just staying because of my daughter. Everyday I look at her and cry because she dont know what I am going through. I am not happy, and I felt sick most of the time. I live in Fair Oaks in Sacramento county. Please can some one help me.

Hey there...hold your head up. You don't have to listen to me or agree with me but I'VE BEEN THERE and I also have a child.

You need to get out of that house. You need to get out of that house. You need to get out of that house.

It's not going to get better. I don't know anything about Sacramento, but they have services that can help you. I did a lot of volunteer work helping women who needed to start their lives over and eventhough had hands on experience I still ended up in a realationship that so many women warned me about. Just ask someone anyone to help you, police, fire, church, social services, --- someone will help you. It hurts me to read what you've typed because that was me 2 years ago. I chose to LEAVE to make myself happy and to make my son happy. My son knew I was not happy, because he would always see my cry and go get a piece of tissue to wipe mommy's face and that broke my heart. Sometimes we choose to stay because we want to keep the family together or for financial reasons, but trust you have to do what's right for you and your daugther. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

I will pray for that you will be guided in the right direction.

AND HE CAN'T KEEP YOU LOCKED IN THE HOUSE...my friends ex-husband is in jail for that now. He nailed all the windows shut and locked all the doors restricting her only to the kitchen and living room. No, tv, radio, computer, books, NOTHING...that fool even locked the fridge and only left her enough food to feed her and the 3 kids for 18 hours

PM me if you want more info. I'll see if I still have connections in volunteer program I was in. We worked all over the U.S. rescuing women and their children. I know California has programs like that...just under another name. It's not public, so, they can protect the women. You mostly hear about these organization by word of mouth, but they're out there.

May God be with you. Hang in their sis, my heart hurts for you.

[Staashi 371]

I feel for you, too....go to this link: http://www.communitycouncil.org/level-4/In...er_shelters.pdf and also call 211 - they can help you sort this out. Just make sure you have your things ready to go...but do it in a sneaky way so he won't know. Also, make sure you have your greencard and all your papers together. You can do this. Do this for you and for your daughter...he'll get worse over time.

Makes my blood boil when people are A@@holes.

Good luck and God Bless You.

Edited June 14, 2008 by Staashi