Should Men Clean?

[almaty 19]

i knew you did..and i also, knew brother c'master..would not have a clue regarding your little joke...

[Alhamdulillah 0]

I guess it depends on each family and what they're comfortable with. I wouldn't think it's fair if I'm working as much as my husband and paying bills equally yet expected to take care of domestic duties on my own while he sits on the couch drinking beer..... Thankfully, my hubby doesn't think that's fair either and he doesn't drink

Also, when a woman stays home to raise their children, some men think all that consists of is sitting on the couch, watching Oprah, eating bon-bons and it doesn't.... it's a full time job as well so I don't see why the man can't help her out with a few of the household chorse when he comes home in the evening.

I've always considered certain things to be "mens jobs" around the house anyway, like cutting the grass, taking out the trash, maintaining the cars, etc.

[~krakatoa~ 27]

My husband and I both work and get home tired. But we share the responsibilities, cleaning like there's no tomorrow and sometimes being lazy.

[Alex & Rachel 78]

Also, when a woman stays home to raise their children, some men think all that consists of is sitting on the couch, watching Oprah, eating bon-bons and it doesn't.... it's a full time job as well

My mother has been a stay at home mother ever since she has had children and she works extremely hard! Walking the dogs, cooking all meals from scratch, ferrying people to after-school activities and continually cleaning the house, amongst other things. When she had preschoolers she would prepare a picnic every day and take us to the parks so we always had plenty of exercise.

Barring any unforeseen circumstances Alex will probably be the parent to stay at home when we have children. I'd still expect to do all the cleaning, though, as we have slightly different levels of cleanliness. It's whatever works best for each couple, really.

[nin 1]

We both live in this house so we both do domestic stuff, it's that simple.

He goes to work and gets a break from the kids, get to go to the bathroom alone, gets to have lunch without being interrupted to take someone to the bathroom, and is only being nagged by people above the age of 21.

I take care of the trolls and if I happen to throw in a load of laundry during the day that's nice but if I don't have time, simply don't feel like it or have other things to do there's always time later and someone to do the boring stuff _with_. It's amazing how much less boring it can be to fold laundry (is there anything more boring?!?) if you have someone to goof off with while doing it.

It may seem like we're living in a very traditional and conservative way, the husband going to work and the wife staying home with the offspring. The truth is that we're probably more equal than most when it comes to shared responsibility for our shared life.

I take it for granted that as a grown up, intelligent person he can do whatever I can do and THAT HE DOES IT when it's needed. He's doing a great job starting a cleaning session and gets everyone involved in it, just as he's great at changing diapers and kissing bo-bo's to make them better. Same thing for me, I change the oil in the mower and I use powertools and dig trenches. I actually like doing these things more than he does and so I do them more often than he does, though he is asked to help if there's something I can't reach or if I'm not strong enough. Then he feels all special and extra manly

Some people seem to think that men are retarded, usually they're just slow

Why would it be trickier to figure out how the washer works than to figure out a TV setup?

[Marilyn. 340]

men pretend to not know how to do things or how to do them properly so they can get out of doing them

[Leafgal 3]

men pretend to not know how to do things or how to do them properly so they can get out of doing them

Absolutely lol.

[Ban Hammer 13,345]

yay, a popcorn thread.

Now for the ridiculous title of this thread, it should be ''should the spouse that works also do housecleaning?'' But I don't blame you for asking that about only the man, since obviously you expect the man to be the provider and the woman to be the maid like it used to be 200 years ago and like you expect your life to be.

WHA- CHING!

see what happens when women are not busy in the kitchen?

[DeadPoolX 9]

Ideally, the housework should be split up evenly, but we all know that isn't the case. Different situations come into play, such as... are both working or only one person? As other have said, if one spouse is performing full-time work and the other isn't employed or even part-time, then perhaps it is that spouse's place to do the majority of housework.

I think the reason so many women have trouble getting their husbands (or in some cases, live-in boyfriends) to housework is due to mindset. Many women believe their method of cleaning is the "one and only" way and if there's any deviation, it's wrong. So if a woman's partner does attempt to help and he does things differently than she would, she'll most likely call him on it. She might even complain or even be angry, since the process wasn't done "right" (which is essentially code for "my way") and that'll send a message to the husband/boyfriend that his efforts weren't appreciated in the least. In other words, he won't bother next time, since he'll feel like that even if he does change this aspect of cleaning to suit his wife/girlfriend, he'll inevitably mess something else up and he doesn't want to deal with that. Of course, the problem now is that since he won't do housework, his wife/girlfriend is even more annoyed ("I'm not his mother or his maid!") and will take out her frustration on him.

The best thing for a woman to do, regarding housework and men, is to praise us. Even if our methods are different from your own, so long as the place gets clean, some work is taken off your back, and nothing gets broken in the process, who really cares? If the point of the entire exercise was to get your husband/boyfriend to clean, then handing him a 500-page manual stating "this is how I do it and you will too" and then yelling at him when he doesn't follow that exactly won't get you your desired results.

[Levi_Heather 0]

I think whatever is agreed upon on how to split the chores..... There should be some give and take there.

[pedroh 21]

yes, specially if they're super cleaners like me

*runs and hides*

Edited June 12, 2008 by pedroh

[Sister Fracas 5]

yay, a popcorn thread.

Now for the ridiculous title of this thread, it should be ''should the spouse that works also do housecleaning?'' But I don't blame you for asking that about only the man, since obviously you expect the man to be the provider and the woman to be the maid like it used to be 200 years ago and like you expect your life to be.

WHA- CHING!

see what happens when women are not busy in the kitchen?

I'm waiting for the response...

[Ban Hammer 13,345]

yay, a popcorn thread.

Now for the ridiculous title of this thread, it should be ''should the spouse that works also do housecleaning?'' But I don't blame you for asking that about only the man, since obviously you expect the man to be the provider and the woman to be the maid like it used to be 200 years ago and like you expect your life to be.

WHA- CHING!

see what happens when women are not busy in the kitchen?

I'm waiting for the response...

they are all too busy in the kitchen, except for you of course.

[Leafgal 3]

yay, a popcorn thread.

Now for the ridiculous title of this thread, it should be ''should the spouse that works also do housecleaning?'' But I don't blame you for asking that about only the man, since obviously you expect the man to be the provider and the woman to be the maid like it used to be 200 years ago and like you expect your life to be.

WHA- CHING!

see what happens when women are not busy in the kitchen?

I'm waiting for the response...

they are all too busy in the kitchen, except for you of course.

So you would prefer your women busy in the kitchen, hmmm

[Ms. Squirrel 11]

yes, specially if they're super cleaners like me

*runs and hides*

We will have to hire a cleaner. And hire someone to close all the cabinet doors after you.

Does this look familiar to you?