Ano ang Iyong Gagawin???

[sushijin 0]

hmmmm...a tough question! BUT! it's harder if you've been in that situation..and hardest if that happens to you not but once but twice! that happened to me. but not with my fiance. i had not so good past relationships. i had more than my fair share. here it goes:

1st bf: we were together for 6 years, we're both med students that time. then he met a pretty med student a batch younger than us. they hit it off. sad to say he dumped me.

2nd bf: we were steady for 3 years. he's a fellow doctor, with good looks. so who wouldnt fall for him? he's a real player. during the time we're an item he would date females from all walks of life. young, old, pretty, not-so-pretty, doctor, nurse, medtechs, students..i guess he dated every single gril in our hospital. stupid as i am..i didnt give up on him. he would always promise me he'd stop womanizing. then i would forgive him..then the cycle begins and repeats itself. then one day, i found out he got 2 of his gf's pregnant. that was the end of it.

3rd bf: he's a divorcee with 3 kids from 3 different moms, 9 years my senior. so you'd say, what i was thinking by sticking with him for 2 1/2 years. i kept telling myself that i love him. then he did it again! he got another girl pregnant. hayyy.

thank God..He answered my prayer. he gave chris to me. chris taught me how to trust someone again enough to commit my future with him. i hope and pray he'll not give me heartaches anymore.. what i had was more than enough.

oo nga ang tapang mo girl, saludo ako sayo,...mahirap i share yung sakin kaya wag nalng, at nabubuwisit ako pag naalala ko yung ginawa nya at paminsan minsan yan ang dahilan bakit minsan kami nagaaway kasi mahilg ako magatnong yung nakaraan nya...nga pala advice nyo sakin di ba maganda pagnatatanong tungkol sa nakaraan nya?

[chris-lei 1]

oo nga ang tapang mo girl, saludo ako sayo,...mahirap i share yung sakin kaya wag nalng, at nabubuwisit ako pag naalala ko yung ginawa nya at paminsan minsan yan ang dahilan bakit minsan kami nagaaway kasi mahilg ako magatnong yung nakaraan nya...nga pala advice nyo sakin di ba maganda pagnatatanong tungkol sa nakaraan nya?

depende kasi yan sa ugali ng fiance mo eh..kung accomodating ba siya sa mga questions mo or hindi. dun sa mga past bf's ko para silang sinisilihan kapg tinatanong ko ang mga escapades nila. magagalit sila kapag may na-hit kang no-no button..i mean kapag may tinatago sila uunahan ka nila ng galit! style nila talaga bulok. pero siguro din kung right timing..sasagot naman sila ng maayos. since ikaw ang nakakakilala ng finace mo..you'll know when/what/how to ask questions na hindi siya magagalit. pero alam kong mahirap talaga.. kaya mo yan! [/size]

[RyaNRiza 1]

oo nga ang tapang mo girl, saludo ako sayo,...mahirap i share yung sakin kaya wag nalng, at nabubuwisit ako pag naalala ko yung ginawa nya at paminsan minsan yan ang dahilan bakit minsan kami nagaaway kasi mahilg ako magatnong yung nakaraan nya...nga pala advice nyo sakin di ba maganda pagnatatanong tungkol sa nakaraan nya?

No'ng maaga pa kami sa relationship I asked a few questions. Di talaga maiwasan yon. We shared our past relationship experiences and what we learned from it para ma-apply sa relationship namin. Pero hanggang do'n na lang yon, we shared about it to learn the lessons and not to dig unpleasant things that might affect the present relationship. We're almost 2 years now, and we no longer talk about past relationship. Our focus right now is "us" "the present and the future."

Btw sushijin? What's your motivation ba in asking his past? Depende kasi 'yan. Kung nakakatulong to make your relationship grow ok lang, pero kung hindi, h'wag na.

[envy_me 18]

oo nga ang tapang mo girl, saludo ako sayo,...mahirap i share yung sakin kaya wag nalng, at nabubuwisit ako pag naalala ko yung ginawa nya at paminsan minsan yan ang dahilan bakit minsan kami nagaaway kasi mahilg ako magatnong yung nakaraan nya...nga pala advice nyo sakin di ba maganda pagnatatanong tungkol sa nakaraan nya?

lam mo ako din i love to ask abt pasts..

but a friend told me..

"if ur not ready to hear something that would make you cry..

or like something that would make u doubt that person cos of his past.. DON'T ASK"

and also one thing ive learned if he doesnt wanna tell u, dnt ask again..

let him initiate in tellin u things..

[jego ryu 0]

i suggest dont ask anything nalang about thier past.....kc nakaraan na yun ,,,ikaw na ngayon....ang masakit kung binalikan nya yun nakaraan nya..

Edited June 12, 2008 by jego ryu

[jego ryu 0]

agree ako sa inyo ni envy me....everybody deserve 2nd chance kung si god nagpapatawad tau pa kaya....but forget about that maybe it takes time,,,,,,it happened to me jus last year,,,,7years na kami ng fiance ,,,,i guess pagsubok how strong we are,,mahirap kasi pag un other woman ang naghahabol....i forgive him coz pinagsisihan nya talaga and he kneeled down and asked for forgiveness.... since 1year ago na yun i start to forget about it and moved on my baby kasi kami,,,,i can say na were really happy and more strong na relationship namin now...pero i know my kanya kanya tayong opinyon about that.....

hehe..

ako i got a bf for more than 5yrs before..

7 times ako nagforgive sa kanya before, eh nawili ata..

nakakasawa din, there'll come a point na you'll tell urself enough is enough..

oh well.. kahet humabol pa sha ngayon.. i got a better man in my life na so sorry na lang sha..

PS: hi gtron.. i love u..

7 times w0w....you have a lot of patience and love mo talaga sya before.....im glad finally nakatagpo na u ng totoo...goodluck....cute naman name nya gtron

[jego ryu 0]

When I give my trust it's 101% so therefore trust is a very big issue for me. I don't know if I could trust again once I am betrayed. I have not ever have this kind of issue in my mind, I really don't know what I am going to do. One thing I am so sure of, I will be very very very very very broken down inside.

yes your right ryza

[Gator's Bike 0]

ANO ANG GAGAWIN MO KAPAG NALAMAN MO OR NAHULI MO NA MAY IBANG BABAE ANG FIANCE OR ASAWA MO?(first reaction)......be honest......

a)kakausapin mo sya ng mahinahon bakit nya nagawa yun at patatawarin mo sya kapag humingi ng 2nd chance

b)hihiwalayan mo na sya once na malaman mo

c)hahayaan mo lang sya kasi lilipas din yan(magbulag bulagan ba)

d)aawayin mo sya and yun babae

e)papatayin mo sya

kung nangyari na sa inyo ito you can share it.....

b.)<<<<< before we decided to marry we confronted each other..., that if we really love each other and willing to be stuck forever??? and we both say yes we love each other and we'll be together forever . now, if someone or somebody tempted me or him, a sorry and a word tempted will never be an excuse.

respect to our partner leads to a successful partnership and the temptation got no place in our relationship. God Bless every1!!!

[dora2X 0]

a)kakausapin mo sya ng mahinahon bakit nya nagawa yun at patatawarin mo sya kapag humingi ng 2nd chance

I will talk to him but im not gonna be calm... i want him to know what i feel about this and if we can work things out, then that would be good.

if there's a way to save the relationship and he made effort then chances are good.

but hopefully walang ganito na mangyayari...

[jego ryu 0]

ang babait talaga natin...

[Perfect Couple 4]

ANO ANG GAGAWIN MO KAPAG NALAMAN MO OR NAHULI MO NA MAY IBANG BABAE ANG FIANCE OR ASAWA MO?(first reaction)......be honest......

a)kakausapin mo sya ng mahinahon bakit nya nagawa yun at patatawarin mo sya kapag humingi ng 2nd chance

b)hihiwalayan mo na sya once na malaman mo

c)hahayaan mo lang sya kasi lilipas din yan(magbulag bulagan ba)

d)aawayin mo sya and yun babae

e)papatayin mo sya

kung nangyari na sa inyo ito you can share it....*

What will i do? hmmmm.. syempre 1st reaction is d) aawayin ko siya but i won't make away with the girl coz she's a b*tch (sorry for using that word, kunwari lang galit ako. ), no need to waste time for her. after getting mad, a.kakausapin ko na siya ng mahinahon bakit nya nagawa yun at patatawarin ko siya pag humingi ng 2nd chance, siyempre asawa ko eh. Magmemelt ang heart ko.

[David-and-Mae 15]

oo nga ang tapang mo girl, saludo ako sayo,...mahirap i share yung sakin kaya wag nalng, at nabubuwisit ako pag naalala ko yung ginawa nya at paminsan minsan yan ang dahilan bakit minsan kami nagaaway kasi mahilg ako magatnong yung nakaraan nya...nga pala advice nyo sakin di ba maganda pagnatatanong tungkol sa nakaraan nya?

Like what my husband would always tell me whenever I would start asking questions relating to his past: "If this topic will make you upset, you better not push it." Sometimes, it is better not to talk about the past because it's a "past" and all that matters now is the two of you in the "present". My husband would also say "Why would you waste your time wondering about my past relationships and get upset when I don't want to talk about it? They're all not good for me, otherwise, you won't be here as my wife." Well, technically, he's right so I kind of stopped "bugging" him. I knew all about his previous marriages and the reasons why they ended. I guess that's all I have to know and it's none of my business to find out the "other relationships" when he was single as long as he didn't cheat on me during the course of our courtship and relationship.

I've been to a relationship with a cheater, user, abusive, more user, more cheater, etc. The most painful experience that I had to go through was when my ex-bf for 3 years got into a mess when he slept with a "pokpok". The girl's parents caught them in the act and they demanded that my ex-bf marries the pokpok (pardon my French ) The girl knew about me that's why she and her parents did her best to hook my ex-bf. They set him up. The problem with my ex was he's such a womanizer that he would sleep even with a Meralco post if you'll make it wear a skirt. Anyway, his parents contacted me and told me about it, telling me that my ex is being "pikot" (asked for a shotgun wedding) and that if he wouldn't marry the girl, the parents will send him to jail for rape. I was hurt and betrayed but still, I went there and saw what I can do. I talked to the pokpok (oppsss my French again) and explained to her that my ex-bf is a bum, doesn't work, doesn't have money unless I give him, etc. I also asked the girl if she really wanted to marry my ex knowing that I was the one supporting him financially (yes, I was that dumb) and that he's such a user. I was saying all these in front of the girl, my ex, his parents, the girl's parents, the barangay official and all the witnesses. So imagine the embarassment my ex felt. The girl thought about it for a moment and has decided not to ask for marriage anymore. My ex's parents thanked me so much for saving their son's azz. After that meeting, I just exploded and slapped my ex many times. I was really hurt. We tried to mend things up and work on our relationship and pretended it didn't happen, but it was not doing me any good. I just woke up one morning and realized I didn't want to see his face nor hear his voice ever again. I was even so mad to myself for wasting my wonderful years with an unworthy soul. He pursued me even after he finally settled down but to no avail. I really thought he was the one at the time but after the relationship was over, that's when I realized that he was just using me. He may have loved me but his love was not enough to fight temptations. I also realized that the reason why I stuck with him was because I thought I could save him. I guess I was wrong.

Anyway, it's all in the past now. I am happily married now to a wonderful man who loves me more than anyone else. And the one who wouldn't put anything else in the world above me. I thank God for him!

--Mae