Revirginization

[Henia 11]

French Muslim women are getting their hymens re-sewn to pass off as virgins to their prospective spouses.

This 30-minute outpatient procedure, called "hymenoplasty" and costing between 1500 and 3000 euros ($2000-$4000), is increasingly popular among young women of North African descent in France.

No exact figures exist to say how many such operations are done, but the women's surgeon says he gets three to five queries and performs one to three hymenoplasties each week. Demand has been rising for the past three or four years.

Doctor Marc Abecassis, whose office is near the chic Champs Elysees, sees the rise in religion among France's five million Muslims fuelling this trend.

His patients are between 18 and 45-years-old, Muslim, born both in France and in North Africa.

"Many of my patients are caught between two worlds," said Abecassis.

Despite the Islamic prohibition of relationships between the sexes and on fornication, some Muslim women have had boyfriends and sex prior to marriage.

After the break up of the relationship, they find themselves non-virgins, and this poses a huge problem when it comes to marriage and exposure and shame.

A 26-year-old French born Algerian woman had her hymen re-sewn, technically making her a virgin again.

"I'm glad I had it done," said the woman, "I wanted to reconstruct part of my life, to reconstruct myself so that I could feel better about myself."

For this woman, the decision to have the surgery came after she broke up with a boyfriend who had pressured her into having sex.

She felt a hymenoplasty would help put her life back together again.

Another of Abecassis' patients, a 22-year-old Algerian immigrant said most young women had the operation to respect their culture or family tradition, not for religious reasons.

In fact, neither woman is a practising Muslim.

They dress, speak and act like other young Parisians, but are also part of a growing group of women who foolishly try to juggle Islamic and modern French values.

She had also lost her virginity to an ex-boyfriend. She plans to marry soon and her fiancé rightly expects her, as a Muslim, to be a virgin.

So last month, she commuted in from an eastern suburb of Paris, where she lives with her parents, and had the surgery.

Another woman, a 19-year-old Moroccan studying in Paris said: "I dated a boy when I was 15 and I didn't even realise what had happened," she said, referring to her first and only sexual experience. "I didn't understand what I did."

Her parents introduced her to a young man earlier this year, and they plan to wed when she returns to Morocco in June.

But he would not accept a non-virgin, so she needs the operation soon.

She is scraping together the monthly allowance sent by her parents and emptying her savings account to pay for it.

Two friends back home will lend her the remaining 1000 euros.

"If my mother ever found out about this, she would have a mental breakdown," she said. "I don't want to have this surgery, but I don't have any choice."

A leading Muslim spokesman said Islam says bride and groom should be virgins before marriage, but did not take a clear stand for or against hymenoplasties.

"If someone committed a sin, the essential thing is to repent," said Lhaj Thami Breze, head of the Union of French Islamic Organisations.

For many doctors, re-sewing the hymen goes against their ideals of sexual freedom and personal liberty.

"The surgery is an attack on women's dignity," said Professor Jacques Lansac, president of The National College of Gynaecologists and Obstetricians of France. "We will not take part in a market that places value on the quality of a woman - if she's good or not. It is an attack on women's liberty."

He also argued that any doctor who performed these operations at state hospitals violated France's legal separation of church and state.

The church-state issue flared up in 2004 when France passed a law banning religious garb, notably headscarves, from state primary and secondary schools.

Since then, Abecassis said, some Muslims in France have been putting much more emphasis on certain values as a way of expressing their identity. "Today it's the two 'V's' - veil and virginity," he said. "It's a social phenomenon."

Abecassis defended the operations and said he helped patients who could not pay his 2500 euro fee. "This surgery gives them another chance," he said. "It's a rehabilitation.

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[Jenn! 918]

Another woman, a 19-year-old Moroccan studying in Paris said: "I dated a boy when I was 15 and I didn't even realise what had happened," she said, referring to her first and only sexual experience. "I didn't understand what I did."

Oh my.

Education, education, education!

[Gaby&Talbert 1]

Isn't this lying to their new husbands? what does it teach, it is only wrong if you get caught?

[Henia 11]

Another woman, a 19-year-old Moroccan studying in Paris said: "I dated a boy when I was 15 and I didn't even realise what had happened," she said, referring to her first and only sexual experience. "I didn't understand what I did."

Oh my.

Education, education, education!

Ye really! Somehow any person living in France, not knowing about sex ... just does not compute for me!

Gaby&Talbert: Yes, it is lying. Stupid to me to start a relationship off with lie. Yet, I guess such a small price to pay to cover up a sin ---> that otherwise will come out. But nothing compared to what will happened in the Hereafter. ipsmenu.register( "post-member-1911813", '', 'popmenubutton-new', 'popmenubutton-new-out' );

Edited June 9, 2008 by Henia

[SaadBell 0]

EDUCATION

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

This is also happening in the US and is being coined as "designer #######'s".

I remember watching this show on the same channel you can watch Dr. 90210 on. It was following three women before, during, and after having plastic surgery on their vaginal region. One of the women was have reconstruction on the left lip of her ####### minora because it tore during child birth and interfered with her sexual life with her husband. Another woman was newly married and had this psychological thing going. She wanted to be tighter and have the hymenoplasty done. So the female doctor sewed her up an inch tighter and reattached the hymen. After being revirginized the wife made her husband wait six months before allowing him to break her re-virginity. It was completely psychological for them and they said it created a stronger bond for them. The last women I remember thought that her inner lips pertruded further than her outer lips and she wanted them small as well as her ####### tighten up and her hymen reattached to be revirginized. She was done having all her children and she said this was like her tune up. I remember the doctor explaining that when women come in they often bring a picture from a playboy magazine of what they want their outer lips to look like. All of this was such a trip to me & these were western women wanting to do this.

I remember thinking to myself about the mother who wanted to be a virgin again, "The jig is up honey."

[sara..... 371]

while i understand the religious and culture danger of not being pure ...............kind of puts the rest of us that waited in a bad light i think

[doodlebugg 10]

Just do yr kegels and you'll be fine.

[Gaby&Talbert 1]

I don't think the majority of these women need sex education. Most of them were in a relationship with their boyfriends having sex and then things didn't work out. Drs just gave them a way to cover up their lies and say they are a virgin. Maybe a small percentage of girls didn't know what was going on but I would be most knew.

[Alhamdulillah 0]

Darn French and their Female Genital Mutilation!!!

Isn't this lying to their new husbands? what does it teach, it is only wrong if you get caught?

There is nothing in Islam that says a woman must tell anyone, including her husband, about her sins.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

while i understand the religious and culture danger of not being pure ...............kind of puts the rest of us that waited in a bad light i think

in a "bad light" with who...........where it counts, it will shine brightly that you were faithful and honest.

This is wierd, but most plastic surgery seems wierd to me. I personally wouldn't go to the extremes of surgery for my appearance. But I've never been so extremely unhappy with myself. I've always felt comfortable with my decisions and I thank God for that.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

Darn French and their Female Genital Mutilation!!!

Isn't this lying to their new husbands? what does it teach, it is only wrong if you get caught?

There is nothing in Islam that says a woman must tell anyone, including her husband, about her sins.

Isn't there a difference between not admitting to your sins, and going to extreme lengths to "hide" the results of your sins?

At any rate, the women aren't really doing it for their religion, they are doing it for their families.

[Alhamdulillah 0]

Darn French and their Female Genital Mutilation!!!

Isn't this lying to their new husbands? what does it teach, it is only wrong if you get caught?

There is nothing in Islam that says a woman must tell anyone, including her husband, about her sins.

Isn't there a difference between not admitting to your sins, and going to extreme lengths to "hide" the results of your sins?

At any rate, the women aren't really doing it for their religion, they are doing it for their families.

I'm not advocating the surgery. In fact, I would be of the opinion this surgery is haraam for other reasons, including you're letting a stanger (drs, nurses, staff) see your private part when there is no real need to do so. I'm just saying a woman doesn't have to tell her man she's not a virgin if she doesn't want to. In fact, I wouldn't necessarily give any woman the advice to tell her husband everything from her past.... most likely that will be thrown up to her the first moment he gets angry with her for something else and for the rest of her life.

[zqt3344 21]

Allah Akbar! What a messed up religion.

French Muslim women are getting their hymens re-sewn to pass off as virgins to their prospective spouses.

This 30-minute outpatient procedure, called "hymenoplasty" and costing between 1500 and 3000 euros ($2000-$4000), is increasingly popular among young women of North African descent in France.

No exact figures exist to say how many such operations are done, but the women's surgeon says he gets three to five queries and performs one to three hymenoplasties each week. Demand has been rising for the past three or four years.

Doctor Marc Abecassis, whose office is near the chic Champs Elysees, sees the rise in religion among France's five million Muslims fuelling this trend.

His patients are between 18 and 45-years-old, Muslim, born both in France and in North Africa.

"Many of my patients are caught between two worlds," said Abecassis.

Despite the Islamic prohibition of relationships between the sexes and on fornication, some Muslim women have had boyfriends and sex prior to marriage.

After the break up of the relationship, they find themselves non-virgins, and this poses a huge problem when it comes to marriage and exposure and shame.

A 26-year-old French born Algerian woman had her hymen re-sewn, technically making her a virgin again.

"I'm glad I had it done," said the woman, "I wanted to reconstruct part of my life, to reconstruct myself so that I could feel better about myself."

For this woman, the decision to have the surgery came after she broke up with a boyfriend who had pressured her into having sex.

She felt a hymenoplasty would help put her life back together again.

Another of Abecassis' patients, a 22-year-old Algerian immigrant said most young women had the operation to respect their culture or family tradition, not for religious reasons.

In fact, neither woman is a practising Muslim.

They dress, speak and act like other young Parisians, but are also part of a growing group of women who foolishly try to juggle Islamic and modern French values.

She had also lost her virginity to an ex-boyfriend. She plans to marry soon and her fiancé rightly expects her, as a Muslim, to be a virgin.

So last month, she commuted in from an eastern suburb of Paris, where she lives with her parents, and had the surgery.

Another woman, a 19-year-old Moroccan studying in Paris said: "I dated a boy when I was 15 and I didn't even realise what had happened," she said, referring to her first and only sexual experience. "I didn't understand what I did."

Her parents introduced her to a young man earlier this year, and they plan to wed when she returns to Morocco in June.

But he would not accept a non-virgin, so she needs the operation soon.

She is scraping together the monthly allowance sent by her parents and emptying her savings account to pay for it.

Two friends back home will lend her the remaining 1000 euros.

"If my mother ever found out about this, she would have a mental breakdown," she said. "I don't want to have this surgery, but I don't have any choice."

A leading Muslim spokesman said Islam says bride and groom should be virgins before marriage, but did not take a clear stand for or against hymenoplasties.

"If someone committed a sin, the essential thing is to repent," said Lhaj Thami Breze, head of the Union of French Islamic Organisations.

For many doctors, re-sewing the hymen goes against their ideals of sexual freedom and personal liberty.

"The surgery is an attack on women's dignity," said Professor Jacques Lansac, president of The National College of Gynaecologists and Obstetricians of France. "We will not take part in a market that places value on the quality of a woman - if she's good or not. It is an attack on women's liberty."

He also argued that any doctor who performed these operations at state hospitals violated France's legal separation of church and state.

The church-state issue flared up in 2004 when France passed a law banning religious garb, notably headscarves, from state primary and secondary schools.

Since then, Abecassis said, some Muslims in France have been putting much more emphasis on certain values as a way of expressing their identity. "Today it's the two 'V's' - veil and virginity," he said. "It's a social phenomenon."

Abecassis defended the operations and said he helped patients who could not pay his 2500 euro fee. "This surgery gives them another chance," he said. "It's a rehabilitation.

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