why do africans use american woman for marriage

[DARUMA07 25]

just wanted to start this topic to get some feedback on this story because it is ongoing everyday and i would like to know what you think of this out here i want to know why so many africans use american women for marriage and then after the 2 year wait then they bring their spouse over here they start a realtionship with these american women and have babies with them and all along they have wives back home and taking care of two wives and it is very unfair to the women peroid i know people that have been through this and i just want to know how do they slip through the cracks of the ins when they divorce one then petition the court to bring thier spouse over here this should be illegal and i really thought it was but this is very common and i just want to know what you think of this because it is very wrong and not right to be happening like this they come here and find a woman pretend to be in love with her and give her babies and then staywith her for 2 years and then dump her for unknown reason just walk away to bring the other woman from their country over here so anyone that would like to debate this question come on and lets chat.

What do you think should be done about this?? Unfortunately, this happens from all over the world. Not just the Africans.........

[uneedme33 0]

I agree with what has been said before, I guess they want out of poverty. Unfortunately it's not just africans that do this and this can make us genuine couples process take even longer

now don't get me wrong their are some that come here and they are looking for a wife to be happy with so i understand where you are coming from i am here just asking a question and some people take it the wrong way i have friends that have been through this and gotten their heart broken so thanks for being nice

[Alex & Rachel 78]

women have married men forever for money or social status and in the US women have all the advantages in the courts. If he comes here and she has children he will be obligated to pay child support for those children.

It's neither about the courts nor about the money - children need more than that; they need two parents to raise them.

Well said.

[LaL 418]

Unfortunately, this happens from all over the world. Not just the Africans.........

[Sylvia_n_Joseph 3]

A man that would use a woman fir a green card is not the type that would be setting a good example for childern. Some people have low morals and this is one example of that. They use whatever means they can to get what they want. They lie and take from others. Unfortunately during the brief courtships many have those bad traits go undiscovered. Maybe the solution would be to change the laws so that if you come here on a marriage based visa you can't get dovirced and use a marriage based visa to bring someone from "back home" for a long time , maybe 20 years. That would slow them down.

[Amby 490]

because they're smart

[000 0]

Why does anyone do it period?? No morals, some people are ok with doing awful things to reach the goals that they have, but my question is..........Why do you only care about the women being used, it happens to plenty of men as well. I think it should be "Why do people use Americans for marriage" . You have pin pointed 1 country and 1 sex when it is many countries and all americans.

[reeses16 8]

Uneedme33,

To address a few things from your post...

1. You're right it is illegal. If a person is married he or she can not marry someone else; let alone get a fiance visa or immigrate to the US as a spouse.

2. What can someone do about it? Get the law involved. Gather evidence of the 1st marriage. Call the local police dept. Call immigration. The legal process in the US is slow. It will probably be a very longtime before anything happens, if it happens.

3. What can be done to prevent this? Women (and men) need to make more informed choices about who they marry. Its impossible to know EVERYTHING about a person. But you also know when there are important things that you didn't even bother to learn or ask about. Its a balance of trusting someone, trusting your intuition, and using common sense. And even after all of that things may not be what they seem. I think how a woman moves forward is based on her perception of the situation, it can be optimistic or pessimistic. She may say, "this was a bad situation with this particular man". Or she man say, Well, you know African men...."

4. Not knowing if the friends you were talking about met their guy outside of the US or while they were already here. Assuming they are in the US, if they are serious enough to talk about marriage, they're serious enough to talk about immigration. Look at someone's green card and the expiration date. Do they have a green card??? Are they on a student visa ,work visa, Etc. In my opinion, a talk like this is like looking into someone's financial situation. Its important and it should be done before marriage.

Edited June 8, 2008 by reeses16

[Ban Hammer 13,345]

bleh, this one flamed out pretty quick.

[jundp 191]

women have married men forever for money or social status and in the US women have all the advantages in the courts. If he comes here and she has children he will be obligated to pay child support for those children.

It's neither about the courts nor about the money - children need more than that; they need two parents to raise them.

Unless they're both gay....

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

WTFiThOuGhTiWaSBad!

[Dr. Obvious 49]

You have pin pointed 1 country and 1 sex when it is many countries and all americans.

Africa isn't a country. ;p

[000 0]

You have pin pointed 1 country and 1 sex when it is many countries and all americans.

Africa isn't a country. ;p

Continent

[JVKn'CVO 11]

just wanted to start this topic to get some feedback on this story because it is ongoing everyday and i would like to know what you think of this out here i want to know why so many africans use american women for marriage and then after the 2 year wait then they bring their spouse over here they start a realtionship with these american women and have babies with them and all along they have wives back home and taking care of two wives and it is very unfair to the women peroid i know people that have been through this and i just want to know how do they slip through the cracks of the ins when they divorce one then petition the court to bring thier spouse over here this should be illegal and i really thought it was but this is very common and i just want to know what you think of this because it is very wrong and not right to be happening like this they come here and find a woman pretend to be in love with her and give her babies and then staywith her for 2 years and then dump her for unknown reason just walk away to bring the other woman from their country over here so anyone that would like to debate this question come on and lets chat.

I think it's not all USCIS fault. The people involved should get to know each other before they marry and sponsor.I think people should take more personal responsability in this situations.

Saludos,

Caro

[Krikit 1,164]

*Feverishly scans the post for any sign of a period, comma or caps*

oh, futile attempt - it's one sentance!

I think this is a period (boldy bit):

just wanted to start this topic to get some feedback on this story because it is ongoing everyday and i would like to know what you think of this out here i want to know why so many africans use american women for marriage and then after the 2 year wait then they bring their spouse over here they start a realtionship with these american women and have babies with them and all along they have wives back home and taking care of two wives and it is very unfair to the women peroid i know people that have been through this and i just want to know how do they slip through the cracks of the ins when they divorce one then petition the court to bring thier spouse over here this should be illegal and i really thought it was but this is very common and i just want to know what you think of this because it is very wrong and not right to be happening like this they come here and find a woman pretend to be in love with her and give her babies and then staywith her for 2 years and then dump her for unknown reason just walk away to bring the other woman from their country over here so anyone that would like to debate this question come on and lets chat.

But, seriously, uneedme33.... do they use American women for marriage and have babies with them and then after the 2 year wait they bring their spouse over here? Or do they use American women for marriage and have babies with them and then after the 2 year wait they bring their spouse over here? (Edited to remove the 3rd and 4th and 5th instances of asking whether they use American women for marriage and have babies with them and then after the 2 year wait they bring their spouse over here.)