MENA Ladies! Q&A time!

[tammy2688 1]

Esalaam/Hello

Alhamdulillah, love your sig!

I too, will answer in my own words! I do have an ex, that I have my daughter from ... but no, we donnot talk even for the sake of the child. He was not around then, and even more so not around now!

My current husband, has tried to get my ex 'involved' with my daughter ... but all he has accomplished is a bunch of fulfilled promised. I think if my husband, ran in my ex ... he would give him the diplomatic talk about 'responsibility' and "role of fathers in humanity and Islam' But doubtful it would get us anywhere.

Both my husband and ex are foreigners so there would be no superiority or racism. But somehow I do think, my ex would try to pull the 'macho' role off ... something he does not do well! My husband (current) would in any case triumph!

Sounds wonderful. I am happy that we have been empowered to leave the scumbags of the world to be with men who know respect and what it means to be a true father. Alhamdulillah.

PS: Thank you, the sig is another reminder for me to believe in God every moment and a reminder that the love between my husband and I will prevail no matter how much longer we must wait to be together.

May God bless us all.

Tammy

Please share more, I would love to hear.

Edited June 8, 2008 by tammy2688

[Abderrahim/Kodi 0]

One ex-husband - we are still friends. He actually calls often to find out about where we are with paperwork etc. to bring Abi here. He seems to be honestly happy and excited for Abi and I to start our lives together. I am sure they will meet soon after Abi is here and no worries there. He doesn't have a racist bone in his body. If he did, I would have never been married to the man for 13 years.

[nu7015 0]

Just curious about the 'Goat #######'??!!

Just stealing another VJer's insult. I thought it was hilarious! I think it was actually "you snivelling goat #######". Maybe I should add the snivelling?

nahhhhhh Just leave people wondering until they ask like me! It's a great new line I must say.

[tammy2688 1]

One ex-husband - we are still friends. He actually calls often to find out about where we are with paperwork etc. to bring Abi here. He seems to be honestly happy and excited for Abi and I to start our lives together. I am sure they will meet soon after Abi is here and no worries there. He doesn't have a racist bone in his body. If he did, I would have never been married to the man for 13 years.

Ya its a great to see you guys are bitter. I consider that lucky.

[sarahaziz 0]

no exes...just photo exes of who I could've married lol

[Rocketta 0]

I think my ex would be mad cool with my husband. Our relationship had it's bitter moments but we ended up really good friends. I think of him often because I wish nothing but happiness for him and I lost touch with him so all I have left is wonder.

[tammy2688 1]

One ex-husband - we are still friends. He actually calls often to find out about where we are with paperwork etc. to bring Abi here. He seems to be honestly happy and excited for Abi and I to start our lives together. I am sure they will meet soon after Abi is here and no worries there. He doesn't have a racist bone in his body. If he did, I would have never been married to the man for 13 years.

Ya its a great to see you guys ARE NOT bitter. I consider that lucky.

((sorry typo))

[Abderrahim/Kodi 0]

[tammy2688 1]

[doodlebugg 10]

my husband is fine with my ex...it's my ex's wife he hates! He told me last night that he doesn't like her coming into our house to pick the kids up because he swears she has the evil eye. Everytime she comes in and tells us to have a good weekend we end up having wicked baaaaad luck. I have to agree with him but what to do...tell her not to bring her evil eyes into our house? LOL

[Aymsgirl 0]

I think I will answer in my own words also. My marriage ended peacefully and all was fine until the ex started letting people influence him....family, friends, his ex girlfriends. I have to put up with him calling and telling his life story on the answering machine but I will tell you that I try and not think of him unless like somebody else said...the check doesn't come! LOL!! He is now a a foul mouthed jerk to me but not when anybody else is around!! Funny thing, he has no balls around my husband! When they first met it was freaky weird. My ex came to pick up the kids, came in the house (which I hate) sat on the couch and my husband offered him tea. My ex hates tea, the fool even drank it to try and impress him. He chatted with my husband for about 15 minutes and was so fake. After he left I told my husband don't let him fool you. Don't invite him in the house unless it is a have to situation and don't offer him anything to drink! LOL! I know its mean but if you only knew the story!!!!

I had problems with my ex calling and saying how's the Arab or how's habeeb or something like along those lines. It would make me so mad....he said something once like does he ride a camel to work? I thought you ignorant man. To me he thinks he is superior by his actions. The kids came home one night singing Ahab the Arab and I said what are you singing? Do you not know that is not a song to sing in our home? I was so upset with him for teaching them this. He deliberately downloaded it to a CD with other songs on it. The kids were in tears when I told them different things in the song and I didn't want them to sing it in our home let alone ever again.

I think I will have more problems with jealousy in the future but what a man doesn't take care of another man can. My kids love my husband very much and I hope that continues!

OH, turn the page...my husband's ex hates me, this I am sure of!

[tammy2688 1]

my husband is fine with my ex...it's my ex's wife he hates! He told me last night that he doesn't like her coming into our house to pick the kids up because he swears she has the evil eye. Everytime she comes in and tells us to have a good weekend we end up having wicked baaaaad luck. I have to agree with him but what to do...tell her not to bring her evil eyes into our house? LOL

[tammy2688 1]

I think I will answer in my own words also. My marriage ended peacefully and all was fine until the ex started letting people influence him....family, friends, his ex girlfriends. I have to put up with him calling and telling his life story on the answering machine but I will tell you that I try and not think of him unless like somebody else said...the check doesn't come! LOL!! He is now a a foul mouthed jerk to me but not when anybody else is around!! Funny thing, he has no balls around my husband! When they first met it was freaky weird. My ex came to pick up the kids, came in the house (which I hate) sat on the couch and my husband offered him tea. My ex hates tea, the fool even drank it to try and impress him. He chatted with my husband for about 15 minutes and was so fake. After he left I told my husband don't let him fool you. Don't invite him in the house unless it is a have to situation and don't offer him anything to drink! LOL! I know its mean but if you only knew the story!!!!

I had problems with my ex calling and saying how's the Arab or how's habeeb or something like along those lines. It would make me so mad....he said something once like does he ride a camel to work? I thought you ignorant man. To me he thinks he is superior by his actions. The kids came home one night singing Ahab the Arab and I said what are you singing? Do you not know that is not a song to sing in our home? I was so upset with him for teaching them this. He deliberately downloaded it to a CD with other songs on it. The kids were in tears when I told them different things in the song and I didn't want them to sing it in our home let alone ever again.

I think I will have more problems with jealousy in the future but what a man doesn't take care of another man can. My kids love my husband very much and I hope that continues!

OH, turn the page...my husband's ex hates me, this I am sure of!

Looks like he ain't THAT superior heehee.

[Aymsgirl 0]

LOL you got that one right, girlfriend!!!!

Edited June 9, 2008 by t and a

[doodlebugg 10]

I remember right after my husband came here, like a week after, my ex called me up at work and said, "do you guys like, have SEX in the house when the kids are home?"

I couldn't even answer him I was so flabberghasted! This is a man who left me for the woman he is married today. I should have just flown it back at him and asked if he does.