My Fiance gave me the deadline for his waiting....

[F23 0]

Just this morning my fiance texted me and said "I gave you the deadline until July 1,if you're not here on that time,i will be thinking you are not interested to come here.I am so tired and so upset of waiting now.What the hell they're doing with your visa?." I did not had any reply to him until now...i'm so sad too!

[mRs StOcKwElL 1]

Just this morning my fiance texted me and said "I gave you the deadline until July 1,if you're not here on that time,i will be thinking you are not interested to come here.I am so tired and so upset of waiting now.What the hell they're doing with your visa?." I did not had any reply to him until now...i'm so sad too!

Hi Fiancee Loshiel_Kenny,

Sorry to hear about the text of ur fiance...he should not be acting like that.Instead he will help you comfort and be patient.Its not your fault.If we only have means to have a speedy visa why we cant do it to be able to our dear ones.

Just leave it up all to the Good Lord and everything will be fine!!!

Good luck...

[STEPHnRIA 2]

You will get your visa, dont worry. I can understand his frustration but he shouldnt be thinking it was your fault. Its not as if its all in your hands. Pray.

[PlatyPius 5]

Sounds like a control-freak to me.....

[ManilaIdaho 2]

I'm sorry to hear that.Maybe he was just upset because of the long wait and didnt mean what he said.I hope you'll get your visa soon.

[jundp 191]

I think your fiance is probably really missing you and having a difficult time dealing with it. That's not to excuse his comments, which were hurtful and wrong.

I remember at one point about a year ago saying that I just didn't know if I could handle this distance and this wait. I was so upset at the time and we have had to wait not just for the visa, but for P to finish grad school, and it all just came crashing down on me. Of course I would wait another 4 years if I had to, but at the time I was so tired of waiting and being alone that I didn't think I could make it another day. It seemed that everywhere I went there were happy couples. Seriously. Everywhere. And I thought "how is it possible that everyone else in the world can be happy?"

My sadness comes and goes, as does the sadness and despair of everyone waiting here, and maybe that's what your fiance is going through?

And if he's seriously giving you a deadline and doesn't understand this process is out of your control....maybe he's not the person you thought he was?

I wish you luck.

[aravis227 1]

Sounds like a control-freak to me.....

I totally agree! He should be supporting you during this time...this process is hard on all of us, but it's easier on the USC because we get to stay at home and welcome our loves into our lives...our fiance/es are leaving their homes to move somewhere completely new.

[o0pink0o 3]

tell him that you are not the only one who is having the long wait in getting your visa. if i where you ill tell him to visit VJ and show him the list of the filas who are still waiting. i think he is just frustrated and so longing for you that's why he said that.

hope to get your visa soon God bless!

:|: PiNk :|:

[DanielParul 50]

Talk to your fiance and see whats bothering him, the same distance is bothering you too.

I remember a couple of times during the long wait for the visa I almost reached a point where I couldn't take this distace anymore but I look back now and it seems so insignificant. We will go through another separation for a year in august when D gets deployed but now we know we will get over this one too. It has only been possible with both of us supporting each other and understanding.

You both will get through this too. Just talk to him

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

Sounds like he was joking you. Filipinos are sensitive and would think it was serious when it wasn't.

I hope he was just joking you.

Coz if he was serious and if he meant that, that's too shallow.

[yogib37 3]

Sounds like he was joking you. Filipinos are sensitive and would think it was serious when it wasn't.

I hope he was just joking you.

Coz if he was serious and if he meant that, that's too shallow.

True Filpinas are sensitive, but that is not very nice thing to say either joking or being serious. He should be ashamed of himself.

Yogi

[gabrielle08 0]

Just this morning my fiance texted me and said "I gave you the deadline until July 1,if you're not here on that time,i will be thinking you are not interested to come here.I am so tired and so upset of waiting now.What the hell they're doing with your visa?." I did not had any reply to him until now...i'm so sad too!

hi,

Let him know about the process and it should not to be impatient...Give him a sweet talks..it will work out..Send him a message with sweet talks maybe he was too stress waiting too long..but tell him that its not your fault its just that kind of our slow system here in the philippines. Let him know about this site (VJ) too.

Patient is a virtue.Goodluck!

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[JeroenAndMichelle 28]

I'm sorry to hear this. I think if someone ever said something similar like that to me, I would respond with something like 'if you cant wait for me, thats fine too.. theres plenty more fish in the sea.. bye"

Anyways, I wish you good luck and much strength these days and I hope you have your visa soon

[mogdog 0]

I hope he is not serious! My wife and I have been married since January 2007 and are still waiting for Sandra's interview!!!! (Hopefuly July interview). These delays during the visa process are a true test of love and patients for eachother.

[chris-lei 1]

Hi there. I saw your timeline and I noticed that your visa was already approved, it will only take a couple of weeks for your visa to arrive. Both you and your fiance waited for much longer time for your petition to be approved so a couple of weeks should be nothing. There's nothing much you can do now because it's already been approved. Tell him to just keep busy and PRAY! God bless you both and may our visa arrive soon..smile!