Should I leave Him?

[pcana 1]

Im back, sorry i was quiet the whole time but the reason is i finally decided to do things my own way. Im back here in my own country. My family send me money to buy the ticket so i could flew back home and they are helping me overcome all the pain i suffered from my abusive husband. Right now im still healing but gratfeful for my family to help me start my whole life back to number one. The reason it took so long before i finally believe my husband does abuse me is that he never really hurt me physically except for that one time he pulled my hair. I was thinking before that him calling me names, screaming at me...etc...is not at all an abuse. But i was wrong, it was after all verbal abuse. You cannot tell a wife who loves her husband to call the cops right away even if the husband is actually abusing her. If you trully love your husband, you cannot leave him just right away. some even took many many years before they finally decide to leave and call the cops. In my case i did love him so much, and i was thinking he was just on stress because of all the fees and stress on my immigration process. and i was thinking that when i finally got my greencard and immigration process is over then it iwll be less stress and everything will be good already and that he will change. But thats not the case, because even after the whole immigration process, he is still treating me bad. And yes, i decide to forget about my greencard and just leave and go back to my own country. Maybe this is my fate, and im not meant to be in the USA after all. I go back home with nothing, not a single dollar...basically right now i am just depending on my relatives and parents who are helping me cope up with life. So to those people who was thinking about a scam just because i never call the cops right away, you are all wrong. and if i hear the same thing happen where the wife took so long to file a complaint against their abusive husband, i wouldnt doubt them because i know if you love a person you are willing to suffer as long as you can. So right now, im healing and hopefully will be over this pain soon. i dont think i will be able to keep checking on replies here since i dont have a computer here. So goodluck to everyone and have a nice life.

Dear Liz:

I'm glad you're safe at home with your family, I think you made the right choice but if you wanted to stay here you were entitled to do it so,you entered in this relationship in good faith and that's all it matters it was your right to stay wether people here thinks you waited too long to leave your husband.

I wish you the best and may God lets you find the healing you need for the difficult time you had to endured.

God bless

Abby

[liz111 0]

Im back, sorry i was quiet the whole time but the reason is i finally decided to do things my own way. Im back here in my own country. My family send me money to buy the ticket so i could flew back home and they are helping me overcome all the pain i suffered from my abusive husband. Right now im still healing but gratfeful for my family to help me start my whole life back to number one. The reason it took so long before i finally believe my husband does abuse me is that he never really hurt me physically except for that one time he pulled my hair. I was thinking before that him calling me names, screaming at me...etc...is not at all an abuse. But i was wrong, it was after all verbal abuse. You cannot tell a wife who loves her husband to call the cops right away even if the husband is actually abusing her. If you trully love your husband, you cannot leave him just right away. some even took many many years before they finally decide to leave and call the cops. In my case i did love him so much, and i was thinking he was just on stress because of all the fees and stress on my immigration process. and i was thinking that when i finally got my greencard and immigration process is over then it iwll be less stress and everything will be good already and that he will change. But thats not the case, because even after the whole immigration process, he is still treating me bad. And yes, i decide to forget about my greencard and just leave and go back to my own country. Maybe this is my fate, and im not meant to be in the USA after all. I go back home with nothing, not a single dollar...basically right now i am just depending on my relatives and parents who are helping me cope up with life. So to those people who was thinking about a scam just because i never call the cops right away, you are all wrong. and if i hear the same thing happen where the wife took so long to file a complaint against their abusive husband, i wouldnt doubt them because i know if you love a person you are willing to suffer as long as you can. So right now, im healing and hopefully will be over this pain soon. i dont think i will be able to keep checking on replies here since i dont have a computer here. So goodluck to everyone and have a nice life.

Dear Liz:

I'm glad you're safe at home with your family, I think you made the right choice but if you wanted to stay here you were entitled to do it so,you entered in this relationship in good faith and that's all it matters it was your right to stay wether people here thinks you waited too long to leave your husband.

I wish you the best and may God lets you find the healing you need for the difficult time you had to endured.

God bless

Abby

I could have stayed but its hard to stay and start my life back with no one around me. im happy to start my life back here in my own country with the love of my family surrounds me.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

The best of luck to you - you have made a difficult decision, but you faced your abusive situation and took the action that will give you the support and love and the reassurance that you need and that you deserve. I am so sorry that things didn't work out for you in the US and wish you every happiness and every success wherever your life might lead you. You have more than earned it! I hope you find a husband who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve. Bravo to your family for being there for you. Thank you for letting us know you are safe.

Edited June 25, 2008 by Kathryn41

[Gallowglass 0]

A very brave decision. The very best of luck to you in the future.

[russian_armenian 4]

Woh, I doubt that I would be able to make such decision-takes a lot of guts to move ahead so radically. I wish you the best luck and be happy!

Im back, sorry i was quiet the whole time but the reason is i finally decided to do things my own way. Im back here in my own country. My family send me money to buy the ticket so i could flew back home and they are helping me overcome all the pain i suffered from my abusive husband. Right now im still healing but gratfeful for my family to help me start my whole life back to number one. The reason it took so long before i finally believe my husband does abuse me is that he never really hurt me physically except for that one time he pulled my hair. I was thinking before that him calling me names, screaming at me...etc...is not at all an abuse. But i was wrong, it was after all verbal abuse. You cannot tell a wife who loves her husband to call the cops right away even if the husband is actually abusing her. If you trully love your husband, you cannot leave him just right away. some even took many many years before they finally decide to leave and call the cops. In my case i did love him so much, and i was thinking he was just on stress because of all the fees and stress on my immigration process. and i was thinking that when i finally got my greencard and immigration process is over then it iwll be less stress and everything will be good already and that he will change. But thats not the case, because even after the whole immigration process, he is still treating me bad. And yes, i decide to forget about my greencard and just leave and go back to my own country. Maybe this is my fate, and im not meant to be in the USA after all. I go back home with nothing, not a single dollar...basically right now i am just depending on my relatives and parents who are helping me cope up with life. So to those people who was thinking about a scam just because i never call the cops right away, you are all wrong. and if i hear the same thing happen where the wife took so long to file a complaint against their abusive husband, i wouldnt doubt them because i know if you love a person you are willing to suffer as long as you can. So right now, im healing and hopefully will be over this pain soon. i dont think i will be able to keep checking on replies here since i dont have a computer here. So goodluck to everyone and have a nice life.

[davanj 0]

hi, sorry for what happened with you. reading your story reminds me of what happened to me before, i had the same situation when i had my first relationship, being with someone who are very abusive verbally, physically and emotionally. and take note it happened in my own country and he is a foreigner. he is very controlling and tried to isolate me with my family and friends. but i am so denial because of my love to him and hoping that someday he will change not knowing that i started to lost respect of myself.im so thankful that i realized it before its too late. my family and friends are very supportive to me. its hard to accept that someone abusing you despite of all the goodness you give to him, but if you wont stop it now, your suffering will continue. you dont deserved to be treated badly just because you are from a poor country. stand for yourself, dont let him hurt you again. you deserved someone better. hope you will have the courage to face his evilness. we will pray for you..Im lucky now with my husband he is very opposite from my ex..God Bless you!

[davanj 0]

hi, sorry for what happened with you. reading your story reminds me of what happened to me before, i had the same situation when i had my first relationship, being with someone who are very abusive verbally, physically and emotionally. and take note it happened in my own country and he is a foreigner. he is very controlling and tried to isolate me with my family and friends. but i am so denial because of my love to him and hoping that someday he will change not knowing that i started to lost respect of myself.im so thankful that i realized it before its too late. my family and friends are very supportive to me. its hard to accept that someone abusing you despite of all the goodness you give to him, but if you wont stop it now, your suffering will continue. you dont deserved to be treated badly just because you are from a poor country. stand for yourself, dont let him hurt you again. you deserved someone better. hope you will have the courage to face his evilness. we will pray for you..Im lucky now with my husband he is very opposite from my ex..God Bless you!

sorry i have not read the whole thread.lol,..anyway, im glad you made a very good moves..your family and friends are your great strength..God Bless you