What's Your Relationship Must- Have?

[brianmarie 0]

For me must have

1. Spiritual Connection - our husband or wife should be the top priority in our prayer list, will not forget to mention thier names in our daily prayer....

2. Communication - very important in relationship, arguments start when there's miscommunication

3. Trust - You have to believe what he or she says., jealousy start when we lost our trust to each other.

4. Faithfulness - Do and show what we promise to each other...

5. Sincerity

how about you guys? list the top 5 ingredients on your relationship with your hubby... Goodluck

[o0pink0o 3]

For me must have

1. Spiritual Connection - our husband or wife should be the top priority in our prayer list, will not forget to mention thier names in our daily prayer....

2. Communication - very important in relationship, arguments start when there's miscommunication

3. Trust - You have to believe what he or she says., jealousy start when we lost our trust to each other.

4. Faithfulness - Do and show what we promise to each other...

5. Sincerity

how about you guys? list the top 5 ingredients on your relationship with your hubby... Goodluck

your list is good

here is ours :

1. God as the center of our relationship.

2. Good and open communication.

3. Being Honest and loyal to each other.

4. Respect for each other.

5. Him being a responsible husband and ME being a responsible wifey.

[jego ryu 0]

yes your right brianmarie.....i want to add this too...

*****Communication Skills:

One of the major foundations in a relationship is the ability to clearly, freely and effectively communicate with your partner in a relationship. In order for you and your partner to have a functional relationship, and a free exchange of energy both of you need to be to able to express yourselves, get your needs met in the relationship and avoid mis communications that can lead to conflicts, power struggles, and blockages of energy. So if communication skills don't come naturally for you or your partner seek out as much information about communication techniques and conflict resolution as you can.

*****Empathy Skills:

Being able to verbally empathize, validate and get in tune with your partners emotions and feelings is vital to having a deep, intimate and trusting relationship. If your partner doesn't feel like you are emotionally connected, understand them emotionally or that you are invalidating them they will feel a range of emotions from feeling disconnected, judged, misunderstood and feeling like they can't trust you. So if you find that empathy doesn't come naturally to you or your partner, this is another area where doing research is the best way to learn this skill as well as seek out people who are really good at being empathetic and use them as a role model.

*****Ability to Understand Your Partner is a Unique Person:

It is important to understand that you partner is a unique individual. In fact we are all unique individuals. If we don't realize we are all unique, we walk around thinking that we are all the same. This doesn't work for two main reasons:

If you think that everyone is the same, that means that your partner would want the same as you, therefore, they should know what you want. So then you think if your partner is not giving you what you want you will draw the conclusion that your partner is intentionally doing something to hurt you because they should know what you want because they are the same as you.

Relationships are a mutual fulfilling of needs, meaning that if you are choosing to relate to another, that both partners need to be able to give each others what they want in the way they want it in order for the relationship to be fulfilling, balanced and functional. However, if you don't understand that your partner is unique, you will try to give what you think they want in the way you think you would want it instead of giving your partner what they want in the way they want it.

Therefore, you need to explore and ask your partner what they want and how they want it.

*****Ability to Assess and Know Yourself:

Now along with understanding about how everyone is unique and about relationships being a mutual fulfillment of needs, you also need the ability to be able to assess and know yourself in order to be able to explain to your partner what your true needs are in the relationship.

*****Negotiation skills;

In outcropping of communication skills are negotiation skills. A successful relationship needs you and your partner to be able to negotiate your needs in a loving yet productive manner so both of you can have your needs met fairly and without conflict.

*****Ability to Accept Your Partner For Whom He or She Is:

Once you understand who your partner is and what their needs are, you need to be able accept your partner for who he or she is. In other words, accept them so you do not try to change who they are because it is more convenient for you or because you may not approve of how they are because you wouldn't like to be like that yourself. Everyone has the right to be themselves and respecting each other's uniqueness is vital for both having a trusting and authentic relationship.

*****Ability to Agree to Disagree:

*****Along with acceptance, it is important for both of you to agree to disagree if you have differences of opinion. Free expression allows a couple to be able to keep their relationship real and honest.

*****Ability to Forgive:

If both you and your partner are able to forgive each others whenever you feel the need to, it keeps the relationship in a continuous state of renewal and prevents a build up of negative emotions like anger, resentment, disappointment or even thoughts of getting revenge on each other. So forgiveness keeps everything fresh, prevents unnecessary reactions and encourages healing for both of you.

******Ability to Appreciate Your Partner:

The best way to have an alive and expansive relationship is to take some time everyday to appreciate your partner. Often Couples spend a lot of time focusing on what they don't want in a relationship which if you study or have heard anything about the Law of Attraction, (which a Universal Law that says what you focus on you draw into your life) will cause you to draw in or create more of what you don't want. So wouldn't it make more sense to focus on something positive and create more of what you do want instead?

One way of doing that then is by appreciating your partner and focus on what you appreciate about him or her. On top of getting more of what you do want, getting into the habit and having the ability to appreciate your partner creates good feelings and positive energy for both of you as well.

*****Ability to Be Open To Something New:

Last, but not least, being open to learning something new is always important in a relationship. There is always something being discovered in the area of relationships and if both you and your partner can embrace new knowledge and be open to learning skills, you will find yourselves in an ever expanding, fresh and successful relationship.

[timcass_12 5]

Our list includes the following -

(1) Love each other

(2) Don't Lie

(3) Keep communication open

(4) Stay Sweet

(5) When you get hurt, just forgive and forget

(6) Never talk about break-ups

(7) Never say it's OK, even if it's NOT

(8) Forget about PRIDE

(9) If you say Sorry, mean it!

(10) Don't compare your past to your present

(11) Don't talk about your stupid ex's

(12) Give and Take Process

(13) Be aware of His/Her feelings

(14) When you had a fight, don't let the day pass without being fine

(15) Don't be the perfect one, BE THE RIGHT ONE!

Apart from this we also put God as the center of our marriage and He, alone is the only 3rd party we'll have in our relationship.

[jom 4]

1. Trust/Love

2. Respect

3. Communication

4. Laughter

5. Forgiveness

6. Great sexual connection

Edited June 2, 2008 by jom

[fendergirl 1]

1. Trust/Love

2. Respect

3. Communication

4. Laughter

5. Forgiveness

same here.