Wondering what other sites he/she is on??

[Aymerlu 3]

See this is an example of being evil and getting the pig good.

LOL! Buddah call BUSTED!

[Ta Ta 1]

I dont get it. i mean how did ya'll find dirt on your SO? i type in the email address for both of us, and it just shows that we both have a myspace and facebook...nothin else..is there something im missing?

I think then you just click on that and it takes you to their site and from there you can look at who are the friends, etc. That's what I am guessing they did anyway, or some of them.

A tip : If you have the password to his account, look closely at all the emails in the forwarded junk mails that friends

email to each other. Then enter all those emails into rapleaf and then check everyone's friend circle.

He could possibly pop up as friend under one of those friends with a different user ID/name for that site.

I was bored and did this for about 10 hours last night. Nothing showed. Interesting to see who connects to whom though.

By the way yahoo passwords are very easy to get /replace if you just know the basics about your man, think security questions. Enough said.

I am not condoning hacking into anything and believe trust is vital in a relationship, but if someone has red flags and doubts

a girl gotta do what a girl gotta do.

As Cheaters.com always says..........you have the right to be informed !

The video clips were cracking me up ........man I wish these men could just keep their pants on and stop feeling entitled

and trying to justify their stupidity. It is truly sickening. I am tired of seeing VJ sisters hurting and getting conned.

Be watchful if you have vibes or reason to be, if not don't get paranoid.

[~Jackie~ 30]

I was up til 3am...felt like Sherlock Flippin Holmes. The further I dug,,the deeper I got.

[Ta Ta 1]

Yes, it just goes on and on with the circle of friends, one leads to another and another................

[chri'stina 190]

Yikes...I'm sorry to those who found distressing stuff. Though I think it's good you found it rather than it kept hidden. For those saying it's not just raising doubts but they see some obvious stuff that isn't good...I don't take getting married or divorced lightly but please don't tolerate anything from a man that you shouldn't. Things from the past is one thing, things going on during your relationship is a totally different thing. Don't tolerate #######.

[~Jackie~ 30]

Right..like she said......

April 9th....grrrrrrrrrrrr we married on March 19th grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

and that circle of friends got uglier as the night went on.

[chri'stina 190]

[~Jackie~ 30]

Your baby is just so gosh darn adorable! You must come to mena more often and show him off! We got some cutie babies here too!

Jackie

[MHS 0]

I read through the many pages to this thread and my heart and prayers go out to the people who have found things and are hurting right now.

Posting that website may have been a good thing to some but also it can have devastating consequences to others. Especially if someone reads into something to much and it starts to destroy that person and their marriage/engagement when in fact things are being misinterpreted and paranoia kicks in. It can cause damage to a true and honest relationship and cause unnecessary fighting and in some cases seperation because the other will feel their own spouse or fiance does not trust them.

I would advise everyone who considers spying on their spouse/fiance to make sure they look at the whole picture and not just freak out and jump to a conclusion that may not be true at all and hurt themselves and the person they are involved with. I think this topic is causing mass hysteria and I hope that some people don't regret opening thier mouths and confronting their loved ones in anger. That to me is not fair to the other person and can cause wounds that was unnecessary. This world tends to make others "guilty until proven innocent" instead of "innocent until proven guilty."

I'm not trying to say keep a blind eye on your spouse/fiance or to ignore red flags you may see because if they are "playing" you then I think they deserve to get caught, but if they are not "playing" you and are truly sincere and truthful with you then I don't think they deserve your insecurities and later on down the road it can cause a major strain in your relationship with them because they will feel you are always thinking the worse about them.

I hope I didn't offend anyone with my views, this is just my opinion and others may have their own opinions and I respect that. Once again I want to say my heart and prayers are with you all and inshallah you will walk on the path that is meant for you in your lives. To those of you who thought you were on the right path but find yourselves on the wrong path then may Allah give you the strength and wisdom to get onto the path that he has made for you. If anyone needs to talk you are always welcomed to send me a private message. I will try to help you the best that I can with Allah's support. Take care everyone. Salam.

[~Jackie~ 30]

hi melissa

Edited June 1, 2008 by just_Jackie

[MHS 0]

In vj chat and in pm...I have shared what I learned. It was not something that I am imagining.

It is in black and white. His words, not someone that hacked into his account and used it. It was definately him. I'm not saying too much here, but it's ugly. It involves a greencard and his 'destiny'. Screw him.

I'm gonna put his destiny in his azz. No, he might enjoy that too much.

jJ

I'm so sorry that you are hurting now Jackie. I will say a special prayer for you. Stay strong and I know you will get through this.

[~Jackie~ 30]

I shed like...3 tears yesterday. I am in shock, disbelief and angry.

[MHS 0]

I shed like...3 tears yesterday. I am in shock, disbelief and angry.

Jackie I feel you have not been getting any sleep, you need to sleep hun. I'm worried about you. I know this is hard on you right now but you have to think about your health. Please go eat something and try to sleep. Once you have rested then you can start to clear your mind better and sort through these issues. You trying to do that now with lack of sleep is causing more stress on you.

[~Jackie~ 30]

I need a hug.

[MHS 0]

I need a hug.

I'm sending you hugs now. I wish I was there so I can fix you something to eat and give you some tea and make you get some sleep. You have done so much for all of us here on VJ and we are all here for you, you are not alone. You are such a wonderful woman Jackie and I know you're a strong person and in time you will get through this.