Wondering what other sites he/she is on??

[nana_356 0]

Hello this has nothing to do with the topic here, but I just wanted to let you all know about this site dedemed.com I tried to post it as a topic but it was moved, its mena recipes. I tried the fatoosh recipe so far and its delish! and the kefta also

[Nutty 2]

What did you find????

[Nutty 2]

Thank GoD! I found nothing on bad! Bebo, hi5, ringo, myspace. BUT on all those website he has no activity, no friends and lists himself as married!!!

Would have dropped dead to find something bad two weeks before he arrived.

[tammy2688 1]

Thank GoD! I found nothing on bad! Bebo, hi5, ringo, myspace. BUT on all those website he has no activity, no friends and lists himself as married!!!

Would have dropped dead to find something bad two weeks before he arrived.

AMEN TO THAT!

Tammy

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

wow!!!!! I found nothing directly on my husbands email (the one I know about ehhhem!) But on one of his brothers I found tons of lead to different sites (not porn) just chat and singles and xomputer tech stuff..oh and some youtube video's of him and his friends (gold mine haha) butsome of the data on the sites fits my husband (date of birth, name etc) as well! Maybe they share some email addy's?????? So naturally I am bugged about it now....darn rapleaf........Hubby pleads the fifth....and does it soooo well... ....Gads maybe I will drag the visa for another year......

I think that if I would have paid attention to rapleaf, I would have left my husband.He is here and we are ok and I am having the happiest time of my life.

The internet is a fantasy world of talking and interacting.Its not reality. I am so sad that this site was posted and I think that people should really think things through before ending things over a secret ki5 account or a friend add from some chick in Finland or Indonesia.

I know I maybe put up with more ####### that you guys but I am glad I did. I love my husband and I am glad I did. Just a differing opinion. I dont think marriages should break up over this #######.

You know Wahrania, in a way I agree with you. This isn't always real life and a lot of times it is just fantasy or curiosity. But I can see where it can get carried away and lead to hurt feelings also. I just hope that everybody who has gone through this thinks about everything and I wish them the best.

I am just stopping by cause I have been running around to all the offices getting papers,etc .. I just want to tell you that my husband was a big flirt online and it drove me crazy. Finally I just stopped talking to him online for about 2 weeks ( advice from a MENA girl) and told him I didnt have a cam anymore and said " Whats the point of talking to you online if you are talking to other people?" Since he has been here he is all over my computer looking for what I am doing or what I have done or want to do etc and very jealous. These relationships sometimes dont develop like normal ones..

This is the advice I have for the offended and wounded and YES I have been one of them.

Tell him you are sick of all the networking and chatting sites.

Tell him you want a break from chatting with him and have other things to do and to think about how bad he is hurting you with it

See what he does...

Understand that what he is doing in your HOUSE is more important than what he did overseas while waiting for his visa

NOW FOR YOU WHO ARE LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSES.. and they are doing this #######? This is a big big danger signal for me because there is no excuse to be bored in the net and playing when he is in your household . PERIOD..

But I am sorry I cant advocate divorce over dumb online networking . Half these people you never ever chat with and they add you and its just fun. At least it was for me when I used to screw around on myspace and stuff like that,

I chilled out on the jealousy

NOW IF HE DOES THIS ####### NOW THAT I AM HERE AND PREGNANT I WILL BREAK OUT A CAN OF WHOOP ### ON HIM

just my humble opinion

Hey girl it's good to see you posting and thx for your input.

----------------------------------------------------------

Just to clairfy where I'm at now. I've had a chance to be a sounding board with some of you who know the history from last year and I've had a chance to bounce off some of you and get reflections from some of you which is really great! I don't know what I would do without you all! I've also had a chance to twitter him about it all with advice on how to approach it from ppl here.

So what it boils down to is its old stuff in the past just new details about the old stuff. He has changed and mended his ways and is more committed and it's the old wound I need to let go of if I am truely to forgive. When it went down the first time it took me several counseling sessions to work on it and even after that I realized later it was like poison still in me for the next six months. Culturally he still has problems acknowledging what happened because the men can't ever be wrong as some of you know. However, from my eyes I am validated & he has straightened out. I just need to let go and not bring up the past anymore.

After the intial break in trust last year, after three years together, it is difficult not to check up on him and dig some. He keeps expecting me to just *whoossss* it away but obviously it hurt me and it is a process of healing. The history and the love is there so I am willing to keep going because there was more good than bad. I have hope that when we see each other again it will solidify our relationship more. We've been apart for 16 months now. When we see each other again it will have been nearly two years and our second anniversary. The first anniversary that we will get to spend together. The military taking him and the decrease in our communication because of that has made it more difficult for us. I know we love each other and are more committed to each other but this is a very trying time for us both.

I don't know if I explained this well but basically I'm going to keep working at the marriage just as he has openned his heart to me. It's slow and its painful sometimes but I can't see my life without him. We are having a permanent bond since we got married. There is good and there is bad and I just hope for more good in the future and having that chance to have a life together and build a home and a family. I am going to see him this coming winter break and I am certain there are going to be some crocodile tears from both of us. I'm going to see his family too and revisit some extended family and friends. We're also going to Alexandria this time instead of Hurghada and Luxor. He says its more romantic and a nice place to celebrate our 2nd anniversary. I'm excited to see it.

I've spoken with some of my good friends here and my Mom. At least I have one parent to rely on during this process. They all are supportive and encouraging during this time. And surprisingly they are all recommending me to go to Egypt after I graduate and stay with him until he comes here. Some are very adimant about it. So that is something I am considering since our process got thrown off track with the egyptian military. Maybe we can do DCF? I feel it would be good and important for me to have at least six months in his country.

Anyways I just wanted to get that off my chest and thank you all for being such amazing supports!

Olivia

[nunyab 0]

wow!!!!! I found nothing directly on my husbands email (the one I know about ehhhem!) But on one of his brothers I found tons of lead to different sites (not porn) just chat and singles and xomputer tech stuff..oh and some youtube video's of him and his friends (gold mine haha) butsome of the data on the sites fits my husband (date of birth, name etc) as well! Maybe they share some email addy's?????? So naturally I am bugged about it now....darn rapleaf........Hubby pleads the fifth....and does it soooo well... ....Gads maybe I will drag the visa for another year......

I think that if I would have paid attention to rapleaf, I would have left my husband.He is here and we are ok and I am having the happiest time of my life.

The internet is a fantasy world of talking and interacting.Its not reality. I am so sad that this site was posted and I think that people should really think things through before ending things over a secret ki5 account or a friend add from some chick in Finland or Indonesia.

I know I maybe put up with more ####### that you guys but I am glad I did. I love my husband and I am glad I did. Just a differing opinion. I dont think marriages should break up over this #######.

You know Wahrania, in a way I agree with you. This isn't always real life and a lot of times it is just fantasy or curiosity. But I can see where it can get carried away and lead to hurt feelings also. I just hope that everybody who has gone through this thinks about everything and I wish them the best.

I am just stopping by cause I have been running around to all the offices getting papers,etc .. I just want to tell you that my husband was a big flirt online and it drove me crazy. Finally I just stopped talking to him online for about 2 weeks ( advice from a MENA girl) and told him I didnt have a cam anymore and said " Whats the point of talking to you online if you are talking to other people?" Since he has been here he is all over my computer looking for what I am doing or what I have done or want to do etc and very jealous. These relationships sometimes dont develop like normal ones..

This is the advice I have for the offended and wounded and YES I have been one of them.

Tell him you are sick of all the networking and chatting sites.

Tell him you want a break from chatting with him and have other things to do and to think about how bad he is hurting you with it

See what he does...

Understand that what he is doing in your HOUSE is more important than what he did overseas while waiting for his visa

NOW FOR YOU WHO ARE LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSES.. and they are doing this #######? This is a big big danger signal for me because there is no excuse to be bored in the net and playing when he is in your household . PERIOD..

But I am sorry I cant advocate divorce over dumb online networking . Half these people you never ever chat with and they add you and its just fun. At least it was for me when I used to screw around on myspace and stuff like that,

I chilled out on the jealousy

NOW IF HE DOES THIS ####### NOW THAT I AM HERE AND PREGNANT I WILL BREAK OUT A CAN OF WHOOP ### ON HIM

just my humble opinion

Hey girl it's good to see you posting and thx for your input.

----------------------------------------------------------

Just to clairfy where I'm at now. I've had a chance to be a sounding board with some of you who know the history from last year and I've had a chance to bounce off some of you and get reflections from some of you which is really great! I don't know what I would do without you all! I've also had a chance to twitter him about it all with advice on how to approach it from ppl here.

So what it boils down to is its old stuff in the past just new details about the old stuff. He has changed and mended his ways and is more committed and it's the old wound I need to let go of if I am truely to forgive. When it went down the first time it took me several counseling sessions to work on it and even after that I realized later it was like poison still in me for the next six months. Culturally he still has problems acknowledging what happened because the men can't ever be wrong as some of you know. However, from my eyes I am validated & he has straightened out. I just need to let go and not bring up the past anymore.

After the intial break in trust last year, after three years together, it is difficult not to check up on him and dig some. He keeps expecting me to just *whoossss* it away but obviously it hurt me and it is a process of healing. The history and the love is there so I am willing to keep going because there was more good than bad. I have hope that when we see each other again it will solidify our relationship more. We've been apart for 16 months now. When we see each other again it will have been nearly two years and our second anniversary. The first anniversary that we will get to spend together. The military taking him and the decrease in our communication because of that has made it more difficult for us. I know we love each other and are more committed to each other but this is a very trying time for us both.

I don't know if I explained this well but basically I'm going to keep working at the marriage just as he has openned his heart to me. It's slow and its painful sometimes but I can't see my life without him. We are having a permanent bond since we got married. There is good and there is bad and I just hope for more good in the future and having that chance to have a life together and build a home and a family. I am going to see him this coming winter break and I am certain there are going to be some crocodile tears from both of us. I'm going to see his family too and revisit some extended family and friends. We're also going to Alexandria this time instead of Hurghada and Luxor. He says its more romantic and a nice place to celebrate our 2nd anniversary. I'm excited to see it.

I've spoken with some of my good friends here and my Mom. At least I have one parent to rely on during this process. They all are supportive and encouraging during this time. And surprisingly they are all recommending me to go to Egypt after I graduate and stay with him until he comes here. Some are very adimant about it. So that is something I am considering since our process got thrown off track with the egyptian military. Maybe we can do DCF? I feel it would be good and important for me to have at least six months in his country.

Anyways I just wanted to get that off my chest and thank you all for being such amazing supports!

Olivia

Olivia... I can say you are a strong woman to which i will edeavor to be the like. I would love to spend the time away next to my husband in Morocco... I could be happy doing anything or nothing if it allowed me to see him everyday. It's only been 2.5 wks and this is much harder than either him nor I have anticipated and it's only the beginning. I agree with your family, think of Egypt as an adventure if given the chance I would move to be with my husband in a NY min.

I haven't been on in a while had my own things to deal with as did he we are both still recovering but we both know we love one another to no end. Take care Olivia and please keep us up to date with your move, if that's what you decide is best.

~Rajaa~

[Nagishkaw 510]

Well, the world is full of cactus' but it doesnt mean we have to sit on them . When we chose to have the right attitude, we are gonna be put to the test. It takes work to get reward.

[tammy2688 1]

damn straight.

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

wow!!!!! I found nothing directly on my husbands email (the one I know about ehhhem!) But on one of his brothers I found tons of lead to different sites (not porn) just chat and singles and xomputer tech stuff..oh and some youtube video's of him and his friends (gold mine haha) butsome of the data on the sites fits my husband (date of birth, name etc) as well! Maybe they share some email addy's?????? So naturally I am bugged about it now....darn rapleaf........Hubby pleads the fifth....and does it soooo well... ....Gads maybe I will drag the visa for another year......

I think that if I would have paid attention to rapleaf, I would have left my husband.He is here and we are ok and I am having the happiest time of my life.

The internet is a fantasy world of talking and interacting.Its not reality. I am so sad that this site was posted and I think that people should really think things through before ending things over a secret ki5 account or a friend add from some chick in Finland or Indonesia.

I know I maybe put up with more ####### that you guys but I am glad I did. I love my husband and I am glad I did. Just a differing opinion. I dont think marriages should break up over this #######.

You know Wahrania, in a way I agree with you. This isn't always real life and a lot of times it is just fantasy or curiosity. But I can see where it can get carried away and lead to hurt feelings also. I just hope that everybody who has gone through this thinks about everything and I wish them the best.

I am just stopping by cause I have been running around to all the offices getting papers,etc .. I just want to tell you that my husband was a big flirt online and it drove me crazy. Finally I just stopped talking to him online for about 2 weeks ( advice from a MENA girl) and told him I didnt have a cam anymore and said " Whats the point of talking to you online if you are talking to other people?" Since he has been here he is all over my computer looking for what I am doing or what I have done or want to do etc and very jealous. These relationships sometimes dont develop like normal ones..

This is the advice I have for the offended and wounded and YES I have been one of them.

Tell him you are sick of all the networking and chatting sites.

Tell him you want a break from chatting with him and have other things to do and to think about how bad he is hurting you with it

See what he does...

Understand that what he is doing in your HOUSE is more important than what he did overseas while waiting for his visa

NOW FOR YOU WHO ARE LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSES.. and they are doing this #######? This is a big big danger signal for me because there is no excuse to be bored in the net and playing when he is in your household . PERIOD..

But I am sorry I cant advocate divorce over dumb online networking . Half these people you never ever chat with and they add you and its just fun. At least it was for me when I used to screw around on myspace and stuff like that,

I chilled out on the jealousy

NOW IF HE DOES THIS ####### NOW THAT I AM HERE AND PREGNANT I WILL BREAK OUT A CAN OF WHOOP ### ON HIM

just my humble opinion

Hey girl it's good to see you posting and thx for your input.

----------------------------------------------------------

Just to clairfy where I'm at now. I've had a chance to be a sounding board with some of you who know the history from last year and I've had a chance to bounce off some of you and get reflections from some of you which is really great! I don't know what I would do without you all! I've also had a chance to twitter him about it all with advice on how to approach it from ppl here.

So what it boils down to is its old stuff in the past just new details about the old stuff. He has changed and mended his ways and is more committed and it's the old wound I need to let go of if I am truely to forgive. When it went down the first time it took me several counseling sessions to work on it and even after that I realized later it was like poison still in me for the next six months. Culturally he still has problems acknowledging what happened because the men can't ever be wrong as some of you know. However, from my eyes I am validated & he has straightened out. I just need to let go and not bring up the past anymore.

After the intial break in trust last year, after three years together, it is difficult not to check up on him and dig some. He keeps expecting me to just *whoossss* it away but obviously it hurt me and it is a process of healing. The history and the love is there so I am willing to keep going because there was more good than bad. I have hope that when we see each other again it will solidify our relationship more. We've been apart for 16 months now. When we see each other again it will have been nearly two years and our second anniversary. The first anniversary that we will get to spend together. The military taking him and the decrease in our communication because of that has made it more difficult for us. I know we love each other and are more committed to each other but this is a very trying time for us both.

I don't know if I explained this well but basically I'm going to keep working at the marriage just as he has openned his heart to me. It's slow and its painful sometimes but I can't see my life without him. We are having a permanent bond since we got married. There is good and there is bad and I just hope for more good in the future and having that chance to have a life together and build a home and a family. I am going to see him this coming winter break and I am certain there are going to be some crocodile tears from both of us. I'm going to see his family too and revisit some extended family and friends. We're also going to Alexandria this time instead of Hurghada and Luxor. He says its more romantic and a nice place to celebrate our 2nd anniversary. I'm excited to see it.

I've spoken with some of my good friends here and my Mom. At least I have one parent to rely on during this process. They all are supportive and encouraging during this time. And surprisingly they are all recommending me to go to Egypt after I graduate and stay with him until he comes here. Some are very adimant about it. So that is something I am considering since our process got thrown off track with the egyptian military. Maybe we can do DCF? I feel it would be good and important for me to have at least six months in his country.

Anyways I just wanted to get that off my chest and thank you all for being such amazing supports!

Olivia

I just want to tell you that my husband was worse than any of what y'all have said as far as sites and chatting. Now that he is with me and here , we are inseperable. I just wouldnt advise losing your marriage or relationship over chatting and the net. What happens when you are together is FAR more important. But I will admit, I think I have put up with stuff you wouldnt

[SaadBell 0]

I just want to tell you that my husband was worse than any of what y'all have said as far as sites and chatting. Now that he is with me and here , we are inseperable. I just wouldnt advise losing your marriage or relationship over chatting and the net. What happens when you are together is FAR more important. But I will admit, I think I have put up with stuff you wouldnt

Thank you girl

[nunyab 0]

wow!!!!! I found nothing directly on my husbands email (the one I know about ehhhem!) But on one of his brothers I found tons of lead to different sites (not porn) just chat and singles and xomputer tech stuff..oh and some youtube video's of him and his friends (gold mine haha) butsome of the data on the sites fits my husband (date of birth, name etc) as well! Maybe they share some email addy's?????? So naturally I am bugged about it now....darn rapleaf........Hubby pleads the fifth....and does it soooo well... ....Gads maybe I will drag the visa for another year......

I think that if I would have paid attention to rapleaf, I would have left my husband.He is here and we are ok and I am having the happiest time of my life.

The internet is a fantasy world of talking and interacting.Its not reality. I am so sad that this site was posted and I think that people should really think things through before ending things over a secret ki5 account or a friend add from some chick in Finland or Indonesia.

I know I maybe put up with more ####### that you guys but I am glad I did. I love my husband and I am glad I did. Just a differing opinion. I dont think marriages should break up over this #######.

You know Wahrania, in a way I agree with you. This isn't always real life and a lot of times it is just fantasy or curiosity. But I can see where it can get carried away and lead to hurt feelings also. I just hope that everybody who has gone through this thinks about everything and I wish them the best.

I am just stopping by cause I have been running around to all the offices getting papers,etc .. I just want to tell you that my husband was a big flirt online and it drove me crazy. Finally I just stopped talking to him online for about 2 weeks ( advice from a MENA girl) and told him I didnt have a cam anymore and said " Whats the point of talking to you online if you are talking to other people?" Since he has been here he is all over my computer looking for what I am doing or what I have done or want to do etc and very jealous. These relationships sometimes dont develop like normal ones..

This is the advice I have for the offended and wounded and YES I have been one of them.

Tell him you are sick of all the networking and chatting sites.

Tell him you want a break from chatting with him and have other things to do and to think about how bad he is hurting you with it

See what he does...

Understand that what he is doing in your HOUSE is more important than what he did overseas while waiting for his visa

NOW FOR YOU WHO ARE LIVING WITH YOUR SPOUSES.. and they are doing this #######? This is a big big danger signal for me because there is no excuse to be bored in the net and playing when he is in your household . PERIOD..

But I am sorry I cant advocate divorce over dumb online networking . Half these people you never ever chat with and they add you and its just fun. At least it was for me when I used to screw around on myspace and stuff like that,

I chilled out on the jealousy

NOW IF HE DOES THIS ####### NOW THAT I AM HERE AND PREGNANT I WILL BREAK OUT A CAN OF WHOOP ### ON HIM

just my humble opinion

Hey girl it's good to see you posting and thx for your input.

----------------------------------------------------------

Just to clairfy where I'm at now. I've had a chance to be a sounding board with some of you who know the history from last year and I've had a chance to bounce off some of you and get reflections from some of you which is really great! I don't know what I would do without you all! I've also had a chance to twitter him about it all with advice on how to approach it from ppl here.

So what it boils down to is its old stuff in the past just new details about the old stuff. He has changed and mended his ways and is more committed and it's the old wound I need to let go of if I am truely to forgive. When it went down the first time it took me several counseling sessions to work on it and even after that I realized later it was like poison still in me for the next six months. Culturally he still has problems acknowledging what happened because the men can't ever be wrong as some of you know. However, from my eyes I am validated & he has straightened out. I just need to let go and not bring up the past anymore.

After the intial break in trust last year, after three years together, it is difficult not to check up on him and dig some. He keeps expecting me to just *whoossss* it away but obviously it hurt me and it is a process of healing. The history and the love is there so I am willing to keep going because there was more good than bad. I have hope that when we see each other again it will solidify our relationship more. We've been apart for 16 months now. When we see each other again it will have been nearly two years and our second anniversary. The first anniversary that we will get to spend together. The military taking him and the decrease in our communication because of that has made it more difficult for us. I know we love each other and are more committed to each other but this is a very trying time for us both.

I don't know if I explained this well but basically I'm going to keep working at the marriage just as he has openned his heart to me. It's slow and its painful sometimes but I can't see my life without him. We are having a permanent bond since we got married. There is good and there is bad and I just hope for more good in the future and having that chance to have a life together and build a home and a family. I am going to see him this coming winter break and I am certain there are going to be some crocodile tears from both of us. I'm going to see his family too and revisit some extended family and friends. We're also going to Alexandria this time instead of Hurghada and Luxor. He says its more romantic and a nice place to celebrate our 2nd anniversary. I'm excited to see it.

I've spoken with some of my good friends here and my Mom. At least I have one parent to rely on during this process. They all are supportive and encouraging during this time. And surprisingly they are all recommending me to go to Egypt after I graduate and stay with him until he comes here. Some are very adimant about it. So that is something I am considering since our process got thrown off track with the egyptian military. Maybe we can do DCF? I feel it would be good and important for me to have at least six months in his country.

Anyways I just wanted to get that off my chest and thank you all for being such amazing supports!

Olivia

I just want to tell you that my husband was worse than any of what y'all have said as far as sites and chatting. Now that he is with me and here , we are inseperable. I just wouldnt advise losing your marriage or relationship over chatting and the net. What happens when you are together is FAR more important. But I will admit, I think I have put up with stuff you wouldnt

Thank you for your honesty, I think time and distance is a big factor for a lot of us but speaking for myslef time has also helped recover and realize how stupid some things can be.

I have learned alot here this last week about myself and what i plan to do when in doubt next time (Insha'allah there won't be one ) Anyway just rambeling here but feel like i needed to say that.

[nunyab 0]

**bump**

[RAKASA 0]

Hello this has nothing to do with the topic here, but I just wanted to let you all know about this site dedemed.com I tried to post it as a topic but it was moved, its mena recipes. I tried the fatoosh recipe so far and its delish! and the kefta also

Nana... IT WAS MOVED TO THE RECIPE THREAD.... W/ THE *RECIPES*, CUZ THAT'S WHERE THE RECIPES GO.

[Alhamdulillah 0]

Yes I'm reviving an old thread but I just wanted to let everyone know.... in case anyone else is as concerned as I am that this site rapleaf, gives out your REAL name when someone searches for your email if you use it on any of your sites like multiply, facebook or myspace (even if you have your info private on those sites!!)..... you can search for your own email address and then "claim this profile" and mark all that info private. Then when someone else searches for your email address it won't tell them any other site that your on, your age, your name or your location.

Edited June 16, 2008 by Alhamdulillah

[khengool 0]

Typical MENA female nonsense. Many of you are crazy and misguided. Repeatedly digging up reasons NOT to trust your mate is grounds for him not to trust you.