Called DOS...

[Together4ever 1]

Maybe I should just put on the big fat tiara, suck my thumb and cry and get it over with. Maybe this won't be the end of the world I think it is. Maybe.

[UmmSqueakster 54]

When you get home, put in a soppy movie, dig out the haagen daas and have a good long cry.

Then, remember that inshaAllah you and Mohammed have the rest of your lives together. What are a few more months apart compared to the decades you'll get to spend lovingly in each other's arms?

Something that helped Tamer and I through our seperation was our promise of 80 years. I don't remember where the number came from, but somewhere along the line, we vowed we would spend 80 years together. The first 4 were spent online and in the visa process, but the next 76 are all about us together forever inshaAllah.

[babybunny 2]

Well, I got extra brave and called DOS regarding our case. I have been begging the Embassy in Cairo since the beginning of April to verify if they received the copy of my lease they had requested. They have yet to respond to the 5 emails I have sent thus far.

According to DOS, there is no record in the computer that it was received. Only that Mohammed is in processing. Mohammed called TNT and asked if they delivered it, and they said yes.

Now... (my hand are shaking and I'm fighting tears) do I assume that the lease was lost it internally and send another one, or do I sit it out and wait for a response from the @#(*$& Embassy? This is getting costly and frustrating. Is it possible that it is there and just not entered? Too many possibilities I guess and I can't expect anyone to be able to answer this but those PEOPLE who are not answering my emails.

The woman at DOS was also kind enough to remind me that processing can take up to one year and that what I don't want is them to return my case but that they still have it so that she felt that was good. (BLAH). That didn't do much for my nerves. Mohammed is going to have a huge melt down over this so I need to find a way to get a grip before tonight.

Why oh why does this crud have to happen? Anyone have anything to offer?

I know how you feel. I am tired of my emotions getting toyed with,

I am sick and tired of this distance hell. I am tired of all the LIES...

USICS DOS EMBASSY .. put out memos saying they will show respect and dignity .. they dont

all they do is toy with our lives. we have nothing bettter to do but suck it up.

I am sorry am venting but, no one should have to go thought this mess. security check ok fine.

but one year SU GENTE!!!!!!!!!!!!

let me shut up.. I feel for you.. my heart is tearing up - I dont want anyone to feel this hell i have been going though this whole year and 3 months...

its NOT THE END OF THE WORLD!!!!! dont let this process make you feel this way..

many times I have cried. many times. I felt like I wanted to quit. but, how can you really quit or give up...

to night go home and relax the best you can.

[noura 0]

BIG HUG JEAN!!!! Now, wipe your eyes, muster up some strength, try to finish your day and then it's one more day closer.... we're all here for you!

noura

[Together4ever 1]

It is such a wonder I haven't been fired today. Now the waterworks have hit. I'm cowering in the corner of my cubicle dripping quiet tears all over my desk praying to GOD no one decides they need something in the next 5 minutes.

I agree with you, Shon. And I've said it before too. This is ridiculous. I have not been going through this process as long as some here, but I had to leave Egypt much against my and Mohammed's wishes one year ago. I have not been with him physically since then and it's just getting to be harder and harder every day.

I know am I touching on sore places for everyone who is reading this and I try really hard NOT to do this, but I am really in extremis emotionally and I have no other support but you all. I just want my husband to hug but I can't.........

GOD I JUST WANT TO STOP CRYING SO I CAN FINISH MY STUPID WORK DAY!!!!

[LaL 418]

JW - I am sorry to see you are struggling today. I know very well the frustration and how much it tolls on you. Honestly, I found calling the consul and DOS were what drove me to the edge, although I couldnt stop myself from contacting them. The more mis-information we received, the more I would call. This was completely detrimental to my emotional state.

Please know it is always darkest just before dawn, and your VJ family is here to support you as well.

Feel better soon

Laura

[Together4ever 1]

JW - I am sorry to see you are struggling today. I know very well the frustration and how much it tolls on you. Honestly, I found calling the consul and DOS were what drove me to the edge, although I couldnt stop myself from contacting them. The more mis-information we received, the more I would call. This was completely detrimental to my emotional state.

Please know it is always darkest just before dawn, and your VJ family is here to support you as well.

Feel better soon

Laura

Thank you. You know, as I was dialing that little voice in my head was furiously whispering "what the hell are you doing? This isn't going to do anything but upset you and you can't handle it right now." But, being the stubborn pig head I can be, I continued anyway. Sat there on hold for 5 minutes with my heart pounding and my hands shaking. I think the woman I talked to could hear the trembling in my voice. She was kind, at least up until she said "You know, it could take up to a year." I don't even remember what I said to her after that. Probably something incomprehensible. Hahaha.

Anyway, mental note to myself. DON'T CALL DOS AGAIN. My biggest problem is Mohammed is pushing and pushing at me when when when when so then I get caught up in that "if I could only give him something positive" thing. Patooey.

Still not sure how to handle this with him tonight. If you think MY meltdown was bad, you ain't seen nothing yet... I can't lie to him and I can't not tell him. He hears it in my voice. He'll know something is up the moment he says hi.

*slams head on desk*

[honeyblonde 0]

I know what you mean about him being able to tell. Abdel is the same way. He knows instantly when I'm sad or mad or anything. Now he just needs to learn to tell that I'm not mad at him!

Seriously though, try to erase the call from your mind before tonight and be all cheery. Don't tell him. You aren't hiding anything from him because you didn't hear anything, not really. There is no point upsetting him too when there is nothing new to be upset about. if necessary make up something like you had a bad day at work, or your allergies are bad. I know you can't lie, I'm the same way, but I've learned that sometimes the little white ones to protect other's feelings are much better than just blabbing out all my insecurities and hurting others.

It's along the same line as what I posted a few weeks ago about learning to stop myself when I wanted to yell at my kids and say "I love you" instead. At first it felt like I was lying, saying I loved them when I really wanted to scream at them for making a huge mess or not doing their homework, but after a while, when I saw that it made them actually clean up their messes and do their homework, I realized it wasn't a lie, it was learning to think positive instead of negative.

If you change how you view this news from devastating to "your lease has most likely been received and is just in processing" you can actually turn it into something positive. It's amazing how much in life is like that - it is only horrible news if we see it that way.