Muslims

[~Jackie~ 30]

Well the kids liked 'em and they sung their little hearts out!

....Doe a dear a female deer............now i got that blasted song stuck in my head thx jenn

[Martiniolive 0]

I have a question for all the muslims please. And I will try to cut to the chase. When asked "how long my husband thinks we will be together'? his answer is "we can not know the future, only god knows the future"....he says thi8s is what his religion teaches. To me this is too vague an answer (especially after going thru the visa process!) Well after I explained to him that altho noone can control things like the weather or nature etc...we can still control things like getting a divorce or staying together forever until one of us dies. He than says yes we will stay together until one of us dies but we can not know what will happen in the future, and than he used this example : If we are going somewhere in the car, and we put in gas etc but when we go to start the car it will not run, what can we do? #######! I am not talking to him now! So am I just really missunderstanding...or is he missunderstanding his religion or does muslim religion teach this reguarding marriage?

[Movin on New Life 3]

Salam,

Just thought a chat for Muslims would be helpful. I am constantly wondering if that may come up on the radar for the approval and if that may delay but alas it doesn't help to worry about such things as there is nothing I can change I am who I am Hamdolah. Looking for the support of others facing the same challenges or anyone interested in participating... all are welcome to chime in

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Being Muslim in itself is not really the issue. But beneficiaries from Arab and/or Muslim countries -- especially male beneficiaries but sometimes females -- often have delays for extensive name, security and background checks. In the MENA forum, we call it "AP" for "Administrative Processing." Having a very common name or a history of travel to certain countries can complicate this procedure.

But on the other hand, some MENA beneficiaries have little or no delays. It's hard to predict if or how much your case will be affected. So in general -- be braced for an extra wait, but keep hoping for the best.

Also, we have some lists in the MENA forum called "Visas in Hand" -- you can see how many MENA cases have gone through successfully over the last few years, which consulate they processed through, and if they had AP and how long it took. This could make you feel a lot better !

Wishing you all the best with your visa journey !

Salamat

-MK

not only the intending immigrant but the spouse sometimes too. I often wondered if I was being targeted as well. While traveling from US to Canada to visit with my Egyptian husband while he was there waiting for I130 processing, I was pulled in many many times for the "random inspection" where they went thru my entire car while going thru every piece of paper in my purse inside and asking several questions.. many of the same over and over... hmmm wondered if my last name now being Omar prompted these sudden "random searches"? guess i will never know for sure.

[HLM 1]

I have a question for all the muslims please. And I will try to cut to the chase. When asked "how long my husband thinks we will be together'? his answer is "we can not know the future, only god knows the future"....he says thi8s is what his religion teaches. To me this is too vague an answer (especially after going thru the visa process!) Well after I explained to him that altho noone can control things like the weather or nature etc...we can still control things like getting a divorce or staying together forever until one of us dies. He than says yes we will stay together until one of us dies but we can not know what will happen in the future, and than he used this example : If we are going somewhere in the car, and we put in gas etc but when we go to start the car it will not run, what can we do? #######! I am not talking to him now! So am I just really missunderstanding...or is he missunderstanding his religion or does muslim religion teach this reguarding marriage?

Islam teaches that the future is unknown and no one can predict it; and in order to gain/achieve/accomplish something u want in life u must do whatever is necessary for that thing to happen or that certain goal u re trying to reach but the results are not in ur hands -meaning u might get it or might not get it! Thats basically for everything in life not marraige in particular. So I think what ur husband means is that u both have the intention of staying together and every single day of ur lives u will do whats necessary to maintain that; even in the hardest or most bizzare situations. Thats ofcourse what 'I' think I understood from what ur husband said but by no means its forsure lol

[brnidokiegurl 0]

first i would wonder why someone would ask that question, when u decide to marry do you not assume forever so how could there be a guess of how long...im not muslim but ahmed always speaks of forever until death and he always wishes his to come first. I think americans are so scheduled and factual they want a answer for everything but for them their religion dictates life> I maybe off on everything if so sorry need more coffeeeeeeeeeeeeee and at this moment i need tell himm something and cant get thru on the phone grrrrrr

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Al Jazeera English documentary Islam in America, part 1

Would probably be nice to show the Sos who aren't in the US yet. Granted, I think they paint a picture that is a bit too rosey, but it does show that all in all, the US isn't such a bad place to be a muslim.

[HLM 1]

Al Jazeera English documentary Islam in America, part 1

Would probably be nice to show the Sos who aren't in the US yet. Granted, I think they paint a picture that is a bit too rosey, but it does show that all in all, the US isn't such a bad place to be a muslim.

Yes i ve watched it actually and i agree with u!

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Only Allah (swt) knows what the future holds, and everything is allowed only by His will. That's why we say "inshaAllah" ad nauseum. If God wills it, then tomorrow, we'll get together. If God wills it, inshaAllah we'll be together. If God wills it, I'll get you those numbers this afternoon. If God wills it, we'll have pizza for lunch, etc etc etc.

If our marriage survives, it's not by our wills, it is the will of Allah (swt). For some reason, the husband and I arbitrarily chose 80 years as the length of time we'd be together. He'd be 105, I'd be 100 if we actually make it to that point So throughout the time we were apart, we would look at it and say, the time apart is so short compared to what we'll have together, 78 more years inshaAllah, etc etc etc.

[nunyab 0]

Only Allah (swt) knows what the future holds, and everything is allowed only by His will. That's why we say "inshaAllah" ad nauseum. If God wills it, then tomorrow, we'll get together. If God wills it, inshaAllah we'll be together. If God wills it, I'll get you those numbers this afternoon. If God wills it, we'll have pizza for lunch, etc etc etc.

If our marriage survives, it's not by our wills, it is the will of Allah (swt). For some reason, the husband and I arbitrarily chose 80 years as the length of time we'd be together. He'd be 105, I'd be 100 if we actually make it to that point So throughout the time we were apart, we would look at it and say, the time apart is so short compared to what we'll have together, 78 more years inshaAllah, etc etc etc.

Mashallah... that is nice of him to assist the situation like that.. Mine he says... "until my last breath and I will ask Allah to be with you in Jenna"

Today he was being so sweet to me and I asked "how did i get so fortunate to have a husband like you... " he said "as long as you respect me as your husband i will always treat you as you should be treated" why does that worry me a tad???

Yeah don't even get me on the "random" checks.. i got 4 "ramdom" ones including one right before i boarded an airplane. Nice huh???

[UmmSqueakster 54]

Lots of piece recently about american muslims and the elections

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.p...toryId=96223701

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.p...toryId=95821085

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.p...toryId=95959342

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/uselection...08-pennsylvania

[doodlebugg 10]

I have a question for all the muslims please. And I will try to cut to the chase. When asked "how long my husband thinks we will be together'? his answer is "we can not know the future, only god knows the future"....he says thi8s is what his religion teaches. To me this is too vague an answer (especially after going thru the visa process!) Well after I explained to him that altho noone can control things like the weather or nature etc...we can still control things like getting a divorce or staying together forever until one of us dies. He than says yes we will stay together until one of us dies but we can not know what will happen in the future, and than he used this example : If we are going somewhere in the car, and we put in gas etc but when we go to start the car it will not run, what can we do? #######! I am not talking to him now! So am I just really missunderstanding...or is he missunderstanding his religion or does muslim religion teach this reguarding marriage?

moral of this story, don't ask questions that just set you up for failure. I think it's one of those questions where he's damned if he does and damned if he doesn't. Like "do I look fat in this outfit?" . He can lie and make you feel good, but you'll never know how he truly feels or he could tell the truth and perhaps hurt your feelings, you know?

that being said, instead of saying "we can not know the future, only god knows the future" I think he should have just said "God willing". Take the guess work out of it and makes you think he wants it, you know? Language differences cause soooo many problems sometimes.

[chaishai 1]

I have a question for all the muslims please. And I will try to cut to the chase. When asked "how long my husband thinks we will be together'? his answer is "we can not know the future, only god knows the future"....he says thi8s is what his religion teaches. To me this is too vague an answer (especially after going thru the visa process!) Well after I explained to him that altho noone can control things like the weather or nature etc...we can still control things like getting a divorce or staying together forever until one of us dies. He than says yes we will stay together until one of us dies but we can not know what will happen in the future, and than he used this example : If we are going somewhere in the car, and we put in gas etc but when we go to start the car it will not run, what can we do? #######! I am not talking to him now! So am I just really missunderstanding...or is he missunderstanding his religion or does muslim religion teach this reguarding marriage?

moral of this story, don't ask questions that just set you up for failure. I think it's one of those questions where he's damned if he does and damned if he doesn't. Like "do I look fat in this outfit?" . He can lie and make you feel good, but you'll never know how he truly feels or he could tell the truth and perhaps hurt your feelings, you know?

that being said, instead of saying "we can not know the future, only god knows the future" I think he should have just said "God willing". Take the guess work out of it and makes you think he wants it, you know? Language differences cause soooo many problems sometimes.

Im not muslim but my husband is from north african heritage and with questions like this - he will say he will love me forever and ever etc but he does have the annoying habit of any time i ask him if he is going to do something he isnt 100% into or committed to but knows he has to he just says "G-d willing". Like if I say honey are you excited to go have a babysitter this saturday and eat sushi he will be like yes I cant wait I am going to order the toro etc" but if I say honey can you drive on Friday to pick both kids up from school he will say "G-d willing" its the consistent answer. It pisses me off!

My husband also doesnt sugar coat things. If I ask him if I look fat in something and I do, he will tell me. If I ask him if I gained weight, he will tell me. He is brutally honest. So I guess when he tells me he will love me forever he is being brutally honest as well!

Edited November 4, 2008 by chaishai

[doodlebugg 10]

I have a question for all the muslims please. And I will try to cut to the chase. When asked "how long my husband thinks we will be together'? his answer is "we can not know the future, only god knows the future"....he says thi8s is what his religion teaches. To me this is too vague an answer (especially after going thru the visa process!) Well after I explained to him that altho noone can control things like the weather or nature etc...we can still control things like getting a divorce or staying together forever until one of us dies. He than says yes we will stay together until one of us dies but we can not know what will happen in the future, and than he used this example : If we are going somewhere in the car, and we put in gas etc but when we go to start the car it will not run, what can we do? #######! I am not talking to him now! So am I just really missunderstanding...or is he missunderstanding his religion or does muslim religion teach this reguarding marriage?

moral of this story, don't ask questions that just set you up for failure. I think it's one of those questions where he's damned if he does and damned if he doesn't. Like "do I look fat in this outfit?" . He can lie and make you feel good, but you'll never know how he truly feels or he could tell the truth and perhaps hurt your feelings, you know?

that being said, instead of saying "we can not know the future, only god knows the future" I think he should have just said "God willing". Take the guess work out of it and makes you think he wants it, you know? Language differences cause soooo many problems sometimes.

Im not muslim but my husband is from north african heritage and with questions like this - he will say he will love me forever and ever etc but he does have the annoying habit of any time i ask him if he is going to do something he isnt 100% into or committed to but knows he has to he just says "G-d willing". Like if I say honey are you excited to go have a babysitter this saturday and eat sushi he will be like yes I cant wait I am going to order the toro etc" but if I say honey can you drive on Friday to pick both kids up from school he will say "G-d willing" its the consistent answer. It pisses me off!

My husband also doesnt sugar coat things. If I ask him if I look fat in something and I do, he will tell me. If I ask him if I gained weight, he will tell me. He is brutally honest. So I guess when he tells me he will love me forever he is being brutally honest as well!

lol! I learned not to ask these questions because my husband is just as brutally honest, although lately when I get frustrated with my weight he just tells me to take it easy because I just had surgery and don't put so much pressure on myself since he loves me no matter what, blah blah blah. He does the same inshallah thing though too when he doesn't want to do something! lol

[caybee 21]

My husband is also brutally honest, but I've come to like it, or at least accept it most of the time. He will tell me straight up that I need to lose weight (which I do). He has even poked me in the stomach -- playfully, in public -- and told me I would enjoy life more if I lost "that." But it's something about the way he says it; I don't feel threatened by that kind of honesty.

As for the God willing part, he told me his dad used to drive him crazy with that too, the way parents here often say, "We'll see."

"Dad, can I have a bicycle?" "Inshallah." He got soooo tired of hearing Inshallah when he was a kid.

[Muh and me 18]

I think in the year that Kamal has been here, I've heard him say insha allah 3x!