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[choochoo 0]

Salam all,

I just found this forum and thought i would stop by and say salam!

[palilover 1]

Salam all,

I just found this forum and thought i would stop by and say salam!

salam!

[nunyab 0]

Salam all,

I just found this forum and thought i would stop by and say salam!

Salam Choochoo

Welcome and I am glad you found us. We have fun here feel free to relax... some days we get going with a bunch of topics others... we're quite.

Chat with you soon Insha'allah

[HLM 1]

Salam sister

[Aymsgirl 0]

I just wanted to share an experience with you. I know that some of you have spoken that you haven't had the best experience with becoming friends with other women that were Muslim. Our local Islamic Society had a welcoming party for my husband and myself last Friday night. I was very nervous at first because I am not Muslim but I wanted to let you know these were the nicest people. They had a recognition ceremony and gave us a gift and had a dinner. There were approximately 200 people there. Which was much larger of a community than what we had ever imagined. They had a dinner also. I met several women and they were so welcoming and friendly and even offered to give me cooking lessons on Egyptian food. (My husband complained to them about us not having as much fresh available foods here and that he missed Egyptian cooking ) We will be having dinner soon with a couple from Cairo. I was really nervous for no reason at all. Just thought I'd share this nice experience with you! Have a wonderful day!

[mohamed N melinda 0]

salam all brothers and sisters

Edited June 16, 2008 by mohamed N melinda

[nunyab 0]

I just wanted to share an experience with you. I know that some of you have spoken that you haven't had the best experience with becoming friends with other women that were Muslim. Our local Islamic Society had a welcoming party for my husband and myself last Friday night. I was very nervous at first because I am not Muslim but I wanted to let you know these were the nicest people. They had a recognition ceremony and gave us a gift and had a dinner. There were approximately 200 people there. Which was much larger of a community than what we had ever imagined. They had a dinner also. I met several women and they were so welcoming and friendly and even offered to give me cooking lessons on Egyptian food. (My husband complained to them about us not having as much fresh available foods here and that he missed Egyptian cooking ) We will be having dinner soon with a couple from Cairo. I was really nervous for no reason at all. Just thought I'd share this nice experience with you! Have a wonderful day!

Alihamdolalilah.... now that is Islam I am glad you had a good time.

salam all brothers and sisters

Salam Sabah iker to everyone as well...

[April and Mohamed 0]

yes I think the bad jealousy is no good. you know, the kind where the guy accuses you of sleeping with every guy just because you talk to a guy. Well, being flirtatious is no good as there is a fine line. but I think we can all agree that if a woman lives in the western world, she will without a doubt come into contact with men.

but the good kind of jealousy I do not believe has a literal translation into English and that is why we call it jealousy. The arabic word I'm speaking of is gheerah.

In fact, I tased my husband about this last night:) He was kinda cute:)

Me: I forget how I know 971 is country code for Jordan". (and I begin to crank my brain cuz I hate it when I forget where I come up with things)

Habibi: oh......ok habibi you are smart girl"

Me: Oh yeah. I know. <making a bad face> "About 5 years ago before I was a Muslim I talked to a stupid Iraqi guy and he was living in Jordan so thats how I know."

Habibi (his ears perk up when he hears "another guy" uh oh big uh oh) "Habibi dont say that. I am jealous now.." (and he said jealous as jee-ay-lus...cuz he did not nkow how to say it in english:)

After I assured him it was 5 years ago, LONG BEFORE HIM he was fine, lol

lol... yeah gheerah??? tell me more what that means? Mine likes it when I say things he hasn't taught me to him...

mine likes to believe I didn't have a life before him..

Me too! Especially when I say funny things like "you're annoying" or "geez who can put up with you?" when we're joking around! Mine doesn't necessarily like to believe I didn't have a life before him, but anything concerning members of the male persuasion, he passes on the information, doesn't even want to know general things, let alone details, because like you all were saying, he's jealous, but in the good kind of way, the way you would hope your spouse would be jealous over you. If not, that might be a problem! Such a fine line though. I like to know things though, especially details about the family history. I've uncovered quote some stories via my MIL, things my husband didn't even know, like when he was being born he almost suffocated, and his grandma was divorced before she married his grandfather, lots of good stuff. He was surprised that I knew things about his family that he didn't even know, but I'm way into family histories. I want to compile a notebook of stories of our families so my kids can know what happened way back when.

[Henia 11]

I just wanted to share an experience with you. I know that some of you have spoken that you haven't had the best experience with becoming friends with other women that were Muslim. Our local Islamic Society had a welcoming party for my husband and myself last Friday night. I was very nervous at first because I am not Muslim but I wanted to let you know these were the nicest people. They had a recognition ceremony and gave us a gift and had a dinner. There were approximately 200 people there. Which was much larger of a community than what we had ever imagined. They had a dinner also. I met several women and they were so welcoming and friendly and even offered to give me cooking lessons on Egyptian food. (My husband complained to them about us not having as much fresh available foods here and that he missed Egyptian cooking ) We will be having dinner soon with a couple from Cairo. I was really nervous for no reason at all. Just thought I'd share this nice experience with you! Have a wonderful day!

Mach'Allah very lovely story! Wish more masjids were like this!

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

So since it appears it's only ladies here..... gotta question for you and if there are any brothers please chime in.

What is the difference between being "protective" and "Jelouse?"

is there a difference? if so how can one tell.....

Well I think there is a good jealousy and a bad jealousy. I like that my hubby is jealous in that he doesn't want other men looking at me or talking to me lol but I hated that my ex was jealous to the point that I couldn't even go to work without him accusing me *daily* of sleeping with every man in the company

I also think it's cute that my hubby likes to escort me every where as if I'm in constant danger

Bassi is the same way and I think it's a good kind of jealousy. At first I thought he was trying to be controlling, but I realized that he is really showing his love and devotion to me. I laugh cause he told me once that I don't know because I'm too innocent, but really every man wants me! I laughed and laughed, but I realized he's telling me that I'm his gem, his most precious possession and he treats me like that. I love it now. He HATES shopping with me. He says that women have extra human strength when they are shopping. But the reality is that the time seems longer to him than it really is. He'd rather be watching a football match with his friends. But no matter how he hates it, he always comes along cause he says I need help carrying packages and being driven around and that's his job. It's so sweet. I miss my sweetie.

[nunyab 0]

So since it appears it's only ladies here..... gotta question for you and if there are any brothers please chime in.

What is the difference between being "protective" and "Jelouse?"

is there a difference? if so how can one tell.....

Well I think there is a good jealousy and a bad jealousy. I like that my hubby is jealous in that he doesn't want other men looking at me or talking to me lol but I hated that my ex was jealous to the point that I couldn't even go to work without him accusing me *daily* of sleeping with every man in the company

I also think it's cute that my hubby likes to escort me every where as if I'm in constant danger

Bassi is the same way and I think it's a good kind of jealousy. At first I thought he was trying to be controlling, but I realized that he is really showing his love and devotion to me. I laugh cause he told me once that I don't know because I'm too innocent, but really every man wants me! I laughed and laughed, but I realized he's telling me that I'm his gem, his most precious possession and he treats me like that. I love it now. He HATES shopping with me. He says that women have extra human strength when they are shopping. But the reality is that the time seems longer to him than it really is. He'd rather be watching a football match with his friends. But no matter how he hates it, he always comes along cause he says I need help carrying packages and being driven around and that's his job. It's so sweet. I miss my sweetie.

awwww mashallah... I know that feeling. You summed it up well "a gem" hehe. It is a great feeling though isn't it??

[sarahaziz 0]

umm i think in my culture there's no diff in jealousy and protective. women and men both are equally jealous and protective over their spouses like younger couples vs the older couples who have obtained a stable relationship.

When guys try to talk to me here in USA I'm like I'm married and they said so?? You can't be my friend? I'm like no we don't do things like that after marriage - rarely before marriage. And they're like oh you're in an abusive relationship does he beat you? etc.. I can't stand stupid people like that. I guess being faithful/clean to each other is abusive or "wayyy protective and controling" here.

[Alhamdulillah 0]

umm i think in my culture there's no diff in jealousy and protective. women and men both are equally jealous and protective over their spouses like younger couples vs the older couples who have obtained a stable relationship.

When guys try to talk to me here in USA I'm like I'm married and they said so?? You can't be my friend? I'm like no we don't do things like that after marriage - rarely before marriage. And they're like oh you're in an abusive relationship does he beat you? etc.. I can't stand stupid people like that. I guess being faithful/clean to each other is abusive or "wayyy protective and controling" here.

Yes, jealousy is strongly discouraged here.... after all, if spouses are jealous over each other then the other ppl who are trying to kill that jealousy have no chance of sleeping with either of them And that really is all the culture is here... who can do who and how often

[mohamed N melinda 0]

umm i think in my culture there's no diff in jealousy and protective. women and men both are equally jealous and protective over their spouses like younger couples vs the older couples who have obtained a stable relationship.

When guys try to talk to me here in USA I'm like I'm married and they said so?? You can't be my friend? I'm like no we don't do things like that after marriage - rarely before marriage. And they're like oh you're in an abusive relationship does he beat you? etc.. I can't stand stupid people like that. I guess being faithful/clean to each other is abusive or "wayyy protective and controling" here.

by sorry thats some of american culture and some of americans think that . they think the freedom to do what u want regardless hurt others feelings . i didnot say all but some of them and they consider to be clean and faithful to ur wife or hubby is some kind of controlling from the other side . like when they saw woman wear viel or hijab or niqab the first thing that get to thier mind that her familly or hubby force her to waer it and they start to make smart funny comments . if u called it freedom so everyone can do what ever he or she want but they should just care about other feelings and dont harm others by ur claim freedom

[sarahaziz 0]

Jealous girls are worse though!! Usually of shaytan. This girl from my university saw my husband and always looks at him when we walk by hand in hand in downtown next to school and he didn't know she liked him. Today she asked me who he was and how long we been together and I said "we been together for couple of days now" and she says ohh ok I was just making sure cause I remember dancing with him at my party 2 months ago! But don't tell him bc I was drunk and might have done something. Wow I didn't know he could come and go thru USA and Algeria like that I told my spouse he was so angry and asked what she looked like so he could slap her and talk to her parents. Yeah as much as I'd like that it doesn't work like that here.