To give than to receive??

[Completely 3]

How much can you give me an explanation about this phrase... Is it really better to give than to receive??

What if you always give and give and it seems like a water that never ends, the person you give help is not doing anything.. Can we rather say it is better not to give than to give something ????

[Nagishkaw 510]

Is there harm is giving? We should have the mind set to not expect anything in return. We are all responsible for our own actions, not the actions of others...whether we feel they are wrong or not.

[SaadBell 0]

Better to Give Than to Receive?

Finding Balance in Your Self-Interest

Doris believed that honorable, decent and considerate people do not put their own needs before those of others, especially when dealing with loved ones. She thought that only selfish people who failed to care about the feelings and wishes of others would ever put their own desires first. However, she often felt that her relatives and friends took unfair advantage of her and did not repay her in kind. Inwardly, she usually felt resentful but never expressed her feelings. Many of her friends regarded her as “a bit of a martyr.”

Doris didn’t understand the vast difference between selfishness (satisfying your own needs at the expense of others) and enlightened self-interest (looking after yourself, but not at the cost of others). In the long run, her own interests are best served by taking into consideration the needs of others, and thinking about others who benefit when she takes care of herself.

There are three possible approaches:

• Consider yourself first and foremost and, if necessary, trample over others to get what you want. (Those who operate according to this prescription often end up in serious trouble.)
• Always put others before yourself. (Such a degree of unselfishness also results in unhappy outcomes.)
• Care for and about yourself, but take others into account. (This is clearly the best alternative.) You fulfill your obligations to others, but are prepared to defend, pursue or promote what you believe to be your reasonable rights.

Related to the statements above is the notion that it is better to give than to receive. Why? This mistaken idea has led many people to be extremely ungracious about accepting things from others. Often, another person may derive pleasure from giving or doing something for you, but if you are reluctant or unwilling to accept it, the giver may feel rejected. The point is that neither giving nor receiving is better. It is best to give and receive.

Thus, when Sam suggested to his friends that they all go out to a fish restaurant for dinner, was Billy being selfish by saying that since he is allergic to seafood, he would prefer to eat elsewhere? If he had selflessly gone along with the crowd and simply eaten rolls and butter, would this make him a better person? Emphatically not!

[Fandango 1,439]

It is far, far better to receive than to give

[Kathryn41 3,205]

While it is good to give, it is not good to give all of yourself without 'receiving' as well. You need to 'give' to yourself as well - give yourself the right to look after your own needs and concerns first, to take care of yourself, to care for yourself and to recognize that if you have nothing left to give, you won't be able to give to anyone. You need to replenish the 'source'. Don't depend on others to 'give' you what you need; give yourself what you need first, and then you will be in a better place in which to give and share with others - especially if they don't reciprocate. It isn't selfishness as was well explained above - it is enlightened self-interest. You can give and enjoy giving - you just don't give yourself away.

If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who only takes, however, you need to ask yourself if this is healthy for you - and decide how long you will put up with being the only one contributing to the relationship.

[ManilaIdaho 2]

It's always nice to give than to receive,and when you give,expect nothing in return

[Ban Hammer 13,346]

depends on what is being given

[JVKn'CVO 11]

How much can you give me an explanation about this phrase... Is it really better to give than to receive??

What if you always give and give and it seems like a water that never ends, the person you give help is not doing anything.. Can we rather say it is better not to give than to give something ????

Love is not keeping score. Love is finding happines in your loved one's smile

Saludos,

Caro

Edited May 11, 2008 by JVKn'CVO