UNOz rain...

[Queen Jenn 0]

Uno - I am sorry for all the heartache you have and are facing. God will be with you, even though things may not turn out the way you want them to. HE knows what is best for us and will strengthen us in our trials.

[K&A 0]

I KNOW THIS IS PROBABLY THE LAST THING YOU WANT TO HEAR BUT....."TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS" STAY STRONG, LOOK TO GOD, HE HAS NOT FORGOTTEN YOU AND IN TIME YOU WILL SEE.

[ara 0]

You are in my thoughts and prayers!

[chispas 0]

Uno,

My heart just sank to the pit of my stomach when I read your story. After I read it all that lump jump into my throat and has been stuck there since. I can't even imagine what you are going through right. Some of the insults you mentioned resounded in my ears as if I had lived them all over again. I just sent strong hugs to you today.

[Norman and Dijani 0]

Thoughts and prayers coming your way! Keep your head up!!!

[LovinLiberia 0]

I had tears in my eyes after reading this (some were tears from laughter at the way you expressed certain things). I know exactly how it is to lose a close family member to a terminal illness. I lost my dad to stage 4 cancer. It will be hard on you when she dies, but it won't be sudden and you now have time to brace yourself for it. Obviously, she touched your heart and your life in the right spots so I know her lagacy will love on through you. I think what the police did to your cousin was terrible and wrong on their part. I hope they get in trouble for killing a man when they shouldn't have. He had his whole life ahead of him and I feel for the children. My condolences to you and his family.

The part that made me cry was the way that your "husband" treated you and belittled you. You are such a strong and powerful person and you did your best. You definately didn't deserve that kind of behavior from him. I really admire your strength and your courage and I'm very glad you shared your story and allowed us to support you through this. I'm also glad you were able to stand up and cut him out of your life, especially before he could come here and do more damage to you and your soul. I have you in my thoughts and I know things will be better for you. I'm always ready to talk at any time.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

Hey sister girl! You are really in it now. Uno, I feel your pain and know how hard it is right now to see past what's going on. I challenge you to praise the Lord for the grace in your life. It's there. Focus on it and use it as your strength. We're all here for you whenever you need to talk.

P.S. your husband has a mental illness?

[Simply_Uno 1]

Uno,

My heart just sank to the pit of my stomach when I read your story. After I read it all that lump jump into my throat and has been stuck there since. I can't even imagine what you are going through right. Some of the insults you mentioned resounded in my ears as if I had lived them all over again. I just sent strong hugs to you today.

Hey Chis, it was not my intent to have this impact upon you or anyone else. I was just merely stating the events as they occurred in my rational mind. And regardless of what he has said about me or too me, he is or wants to be all that he says I am. It was all said out of jealousy and meant to tear me down. To bad, so sad, he did himself a disservice. I also sent copies of everything he said to my sister in law (and she is like a daily reporter), she told everybody.

I had tears in my eyes after reading this (some were tears from laughter at the way you expressed certain things). I know exactly how it is to lose a close family member to a terminal illness. I lost my dad to stage 4 cancer. It will be hard on you when she dies, but it won't be sudden and you now have time to brace yourself for it. Obviously, she touched your heart and your life in the right spots so I know her lagacy will love on through you. I think what the police did to your cousin was terrible and wrong on their part. I hope they get in trouble for killing a man when they shouldn't have. He had his whole life ahead of him and I feel for the children. My condolences to you and his family.

The part that made me cry was the way that your "husband" treated you and belittled you. You are such a strong and powerful person and you did your best. You definately didn't deserve that kind of behavior from him. I really admire your strength and your courage and I'm very glad you shared your story and allowed us to support you through this. I'm also glad you were able to stand up and cut him out of your life, especially before he could come here and do more damage to you and your soul. I have you in my thoughts and I know things will be better for you. I'm always ready to talk at any time.

Hey L.L. If it were not for my colorful wit, I dont know how I would cope with all the global ignorance I have encountered from "ghana".

And please, dont no body start hatin'. All folks from ghana aint globally ignorant, I'm referring to "UNOz" ignaramous.

Hey Zainab, my husbands current state of mind is yet to be discovered or named, so calling him mentally ill is an insult to those of us who are legitimately mentally ill.

I do wanna thank everyone for the prayers, encouragement and PM's.

Once again, you all have no idea what this means to me.

I am truly humbled.

UNO

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

Hey Zainab, my husbands current state of mind is yet to be discovered or named, so calling him mentally ill is an insult to those of us who are legitimately mentally ill.

Uno, I was asking seriously. The way you describe the turn around sounds like he could be mentally unstable. He wasn't using you for a green card obviously. But why love turn to scorn? Seems something out of kilter in him. Wondering if he has an untreated illness.

[LovinLiberia 0]

I never thought about that, but that is a good point that you brought up.

[Simply_Uno 1]

Hey Zainab, my husbands current state of mind is yet to be discovered or named, so calling him mentally ill is an insult to those of us who are legitimately mentally ill.

Uno, I was asking seriously. The way you describe the turn around sounds like he could be mentally unstable. He wasn't using you for a green card obviously. But why love turn to scorn? Seems something out of kilter in him. Wondering if he has an untreated illness.

You know, and this is all b.s. aside. I was not joking.

There is something wrong with his current state of mind, and I don't believe it has been discovered or named in his country or he does not "claim" the diagnosis. Hell, he told me the doctor that did my tubal but left me with my menses was practicing witchcraft on me.

check it...his theory is: surely I can still have a child, I still have a period, so she whoo-dooed me. There is more lunatic verbage I could give you, but enough is enough.

He does not believe in apologizing for his indescretions, he says apologies go to God, not man, he praises God one moment and scorns the next, claims he is a "wisdom man, oracle, or mega star" depending on the strategic settings of the constellations and which way the tides roll, and has the nerves to prophesy; but when they don't come to pass, he says " I am just a messenger."

Now mind you, his behaviour was not this erratic before we got married. But 2 months into it, and all hell broke dee' fux loose on me. I did notice he could be difficult at times, but he was never abusive towards me prior to our marriage.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

Hey Zainab, my husbands current state of mind is yet to be discovered or named, so calling him mentally ill is an insult to those of us who are legitimately mentally ill.

Uno, I was asking seriously. The way you describe the turn around sounds like he could be mentally unstable. He wasn't using you for a green card obviously. But why love turn to scorn? Seems something out of kilter in him. Wondering if he has an untreated illness.

You know, and this is all b.s. aside. I was not joking.

There is something wrong with his current state of mind, and I don't believe it has been discovered or named in his country or he does not "claim" the diagnosis. Hell, he told me the doctor that did my tubal but left me with my menses was practicing witchcraft on me.

check it...his theory is: surely I can still have a child, I still have a period, so she whoo-dooed me. There is more lunatic verbage I could give you, but enough is enough.

He does not believe in apologizing for his indescretions, he says apologies go to God, not man, he praises God one moment and scorns the next, claims he is a "wisdom man, oracle, or mega star" depending on the strategic settings of the constellations and which way the tides roll, and has the nerves to prophesy; but when they don't come to pass, he says " I am just a messenger."

Now mind you, his behaviour was not this erratic before we got married. But 2 months into it, and all hell broke dee' fux loose on me. I did notice he could be difficult at times, but he was never abusive towards me prior to our marriage.

That's what I was sort of thinking. I wonder what happened. Only cause I'm nosy. He's so far away, that dealing with his illness is just about impossible. I also find that many people in Ghana don't see mental illness as a "treatable" disease. Especially, those who have it. It's just something to live with. Which is hard when it's someone you love and certainly a disservice to those that are ill. In your situation anyway, it comes down to how far committed into the situation you are, and protecting yourself and your children from what can become very dangerous left untreated. No one loves you like you love you. Take care of yourself. Pray him up to the Saviour and hopefully everything will work out for him.

So listen, knowing that he will probably be out of your life now, why do you think he was placed in your life? Is there something you can take from the experience?

[*JG* 2]

I'm so sorry.

[GOLDEN.247 0]

I am so sorry that you had to experience something so horrible. This is a lot to deal with, I pray for peace and happiness.

[Imua 0]

I am so sorry that everything is happening at once like this - just know that you will get through it... I wonder if your husband is bipolar - my brother dated a woman who had this disorder and as he said 'one minute she was your friend, the next she was your enemy.'

May you find the happiness which you deserve.