Crazy question for the MENA people

[sarahaziz 0]

What if YOU were being petitioned from a third-world country and comming to Canada, USA, UK, etc? How would you feel? Expectations?

BTW- I'm bored out of my mind!

[Aymsgirl 0]

I had to ask myself this question over and over again. How would I feel and how does he do it? My husband was a prominent lawyer in Egypt and left that job to start all over here. I think he is so much stronger than I. I can't even say what I would expect. I am just thankful that he did this for us and our family is together.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Bless your .

I really can't imagine this. I try but I just can't. When I am there I see things and I kinda go into a state of shock and tell him we have to get him out of there, but I just can't imagine what it would be like if the shoe were on the other foot.

I had to ask myself this question over and over again. How would I feel and how does he do it? My husband was a prominent lawyer in Egypt and left that job to start all over here. I think he is so much stronger than I. I can't even say what I would expect. I am just thankful that he did this for us and our family is together.

[amal 4]

I dunno but I can tell u what I'd expect if I were being petitioned to go to his country (if it worked that way).. I'd expect to be lonely and cry a lot. Then, I'd expect to stay with his family coz we'd not have our own home and prolly be expected to cook and clean all day, which would only make the lonliness and crying worse.... that's what I'd expect.

amal

[Nutty 2]

Nervous as hell

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

I dunno but I can tell u what I'd expect if I were being petitioned to go to his country (if it worked that way).. I'd expect to be lonely and cry a lot. Then, I'd expect to stay with his family coz we'd not have our own home and prolly be expected to cook and clean all day, which would only make the lonliness and crying worse.... that's what I'd expect.

amal

After what I went through on this last trip ( me getting really sick) and my daughters accident over there... as much as I think things are pretty there... and now expecting a baby... I would not go. I saw things very differently this last trip ( the blinders were off)

Its very fun being a man over there.. they wander around,,, walk out at night... enjoy themselves.. listen to music. If you are a girl that has a brother or are married , you can pretty much expect to be stuck in the house, tearing the feathers out of chickens and sitting around waiting for your husband to show up at home. I also was made to dress in ways I did not want do the fact that he wanted to project a certain image for me so I was sweating to death half the time and extremely unhappy even though I had been to Algeria 3 times before. I can imagine, with heavy hijab, a jilbab, a screaming unhappy and tired pre schooler and a new baby, then being subjected to places with no ac , no sanitation on a regular basis and all kinds of cultural norms... I just cant adjust to.. I just would want to live there if I wasnt married to my husband honestly because if I was allowed to be just a western person it wouldnt be so bad, but I am really expected to tow the whole islamic barbie line and I aint having that again like December.. I really really was pissed at alot I saw... I saw men throwing things at women, slapping them in the head in the streets.. just all kinds of #######.. I like being in America.. Its different in some places.. but I was put through alot and my memories are very unhappy ones

[Ban Hammer 13,283]

If you are a girl that has a brother or are married , you can pretty much expect to be stuck in the house, tearing the feathers out of chickens and sitting around waiting for your husband to show up at home.

[morocco4ever 63]

I dunno but I can tell u what I'd expect if I were being petitioned to go to his country (if it worked that way).. I'd expect to be lonely and cry a lot. Then, I'd expect to stay with his family coz we'd not have our own home and prolly be expected to cook and clean all day, which would only make the lonliness and crying worse.... that's what I'd expect.

amal

After what I went through on this last trip ( me getting really sick) and my daughters accident over there... as much as I think things are pretty there... and now expecting a baby... I would not go. I saw things very differently this last trip ( the blinders were off)

Its very fun being a man over there.. they wander around,,, walk out at night... enjoy themselves.. listen to music. If you are a girl that has a brother or are married , you can pretty much expect to be stuck in the house, tearing the feathers out of chickens and sitting around waiting for your husband to show up at home. I also was made to dress in ways I did not want do the fact that he wanted to project a certain image for me so I was sweating to death half the time and extremely unhappy even though I had been to Algeria 3 times before. I can imagine, with heavy hijab, a jilbab, a screaming unhappy and tired pre schooler and a new baby, then being subjected to places with no ac , no sanitation on a regular basis and all kinds of cultural norms... I just cant adjust to.. I just would want to live there if I wasnt married to my husband honestly because if I was allowed to be just a western person it wouldnt be so bad, but I am really expected to tow the whole islamic barbie line and I aint having that again like December.. I really really was pissed at alot I saw... I saw men throwing things at women, slapping them in the head in the streets.. just all kinds of #######.. I like being in America.. Its different in some places.. but I was put through alot and my memories are very unhappy ones

Is it really strict in Algeria???? My husband tried to make me wear certain clothes there but I just wasn't about to wear all that heavy stuff in the heat. He tried, but didn't suceed! I believe in modesty, yes, but if I am hot there is no way I am going to wear all of that! And for staying home....lets just say if he goes out without me I won't be sticking around the house plucking chickens. Wow, things must be a lot different there than in Morocco. Do you think he will try that here?

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

I dunno but I can tell u what I'd expect if I were being petitioned to go to his country (if it worked that way).. I'd expect to be lonely and cry a lot. Then, I'd expect to stay with his family coz we'd not have our own home and prolly be expected to cook and clean all day, which would only make the lonliness and crying worse.... that's what I'd expect.

amal

After what I went through on this last trip ( me getting really sick) and my daughters accident over there... as much as I think things are pretty there... and now expecting a baby... I would not go. I saw things very differently this last trip ( the blinders were off)

Its very fun being a man over there.. they wander around,,, walk out at night... enjoy themselves.. listen to music. If you are a girl that has a brother or are married , you can pretty much expect to be stuck in the house, tearing the feathers out of chickens and sitting around waiting for your husband to show up at home. I also was made to dress in ways I did not want do the fact that he wanted to project a certain image for me so I was sweating to death half the time and extremely unhappy even though I had been to Algeria 3 times before. I can imagine, with heavy hijab, a jilbab, a screaming unhappy and tired pre schooler and a new baby, then being subjected to places with no ac , no sanitation on a regular basis and all kinds of cultural norms... I just cant adjust to.. I just would want to live there if I wasnt married to my husband honestly because if I was allowed to be just a western person it wouldnt be so bad, but I am really expected to tow the whole islamic barbie line and I aint having that again like December.. I really really was pissed at alot I saw... I saw men throwing things at women, slapping them in the head in the streets.. just all kinds of #######.. I like being in America.. Its different in some places.. but I was put through alot and my memories are very unhappy ones

Is it really strict in Algeria???? My husband tried to make me wear certain clothes there but I just wasn't about to wear all that heavy stuff in the heat. He tried, but didn't suceed! I believe in modesty, yes, but if I am hot there is no way I am going to wear all of that! And for staying home....lets just say if he goes out without me I won't be sticking around the house plucking chickens. Wow, things must be a lot different there than in Morocco. Do you think he will try that here?

Its not strict everywhere but I have a conspiracy theory. My husband was a big time cabaret guy.. you know the ones that go out with all the girls and know all the singers.. HE IS FRIENDS WITH CHEB KHALED. So the deal is , he wants to make me look as wrapped up as possible so everyone goes MASHALLAH YOUR WIFE IS SO GOOD. The reality is ... I have managed to stay faithful for over a year and a half, hugging only my pillow and haagen daaz for comfort and I think if the shoe was on the other foot... lets say some girl from over there... and she was dropped into the middle of American culture.. I am sure that after a year and a half alone SOME CHEATING would have gone on. Not me, I have been completely faithful to him.. I am tired of being alone. I have waited longer than I am even supposed to just to let him see his mom on a transit visa...

Yes .. many are just that strict. I think it has alot to do with all the hookers there. They have to go WAYYYYYYYYY out of their way to show that you are a "good girl". Thats why they layer all that stuff on. At least you kind of understand because your husband "tried" to dress you like that. Mine succeeded and trust me, I am not looking forward to going back at all now because of the way I had to dress. I was so so so unhappy. I dont mind a light jilbab and hijab but I was forced to wear an overcoat because men were looking at my ### when I walked and he got pissed .. Oh well

You know wahrania always has to run her freaking mouth

[tammy2688 1]

Is it really strict in Algeria???? My husband tried to make me wear certain clothes there but I just wasn't about to wear all that heavy stuff in the heat. He tried, but didn't suceed! I believe in modesty, yes, but if I am hot there is no way I am going to wear all of that! And for staying home....lets just say if he goes out without me I won't be sticking around the house plucking chickens. Wow, things must be a lot different there than in Morocco. Do you think he will try that here?

Ya Morroco is a lot less strict and its pretty laid back, its nice there. Hm...ya I wouldn't eb pluckin chicken in any darn country...maybe once for experience but not for like life .... hecky no. I would feel vulnerable and worse if I had AP because there so much pressure from people saying, "Why aren't you in America yet?" or "When are you going?" nagging questions ugh! I would dig a hole and stay in there for a while just to get away...seriously.

Tammy

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Nothing pisses me off more then the male hitting the female as if he is superior. My anger rises just thinking about it. If it came to that for me. I walk and there is no talk. I won't tolerate it for a moment. No matter what situation I am in.

[Imua 0]

Nothing pisses me off more then the male hitting the female as if he is superior. My anger rises just thinking about it. If it came to that for me. I walk and there is no talk. I won't tolerate it for a moment. No matter what situation I am in.

Same here, no question. Great avatar pic BTW.

[AlHayatZween 2]

Wow... I didn't know it was like that in Algeria!

Interesting question... If the shoe were on the other foot, and i was petitioning to live in US or Canada or Morocco (if it worked that way), i know be scared and lonely... i know i'd cry a lot... cuz i'm a wimp and cry a lot anyway.

but i'd do it in a second, without a glance backward. This whole process has been impossibly difficult, and sometimes i feel like i've made some sacrifices that others (family & friends) have passed judgment on... but i'm doing my best... and i think i would do it under any other circumstance... (of course i don't have any children, so i'm sure that would change things entirely.)

but for me, in my current situation....

plucking feathers, cutting up raw intestines, never sitting on a toilet ever again... i'd do it, if i had to... in a heartbeat.

Edited May 10, 2008 by AlHayatZween

[Nasturtium 500]

I imagine I would be both excited and apprehensive-- same as if I was going to go live there

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Thx!

Nothing pisses me off more then the male hitting the female as if he is superior. My anger rises just thinking about it. If it came to that for me. I walk and there is no talk. I won't tolerate it for a moment. No matter what situation I am in.

Same here, no question. Great avatar pic BTW.