FIL passes quietly and peace rains down

[Autumnchik 6]

Spirit, what a beautiful way to celebrate your FIL's life. My thoughts are with you at this time.

[Gypsyangel 11]

Spirit, I am sorry for your loss. My heart, thoughts and prayers are with you. (L)

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

I have thought in quiet solitude about how to best express my deepest condolences about the passing of your FIL. It seems to me that our innermost misgivings are founded in our loss and realization of our own mortality. When we are young, we think that we might be immortal and when we are old we fear that it is true. As you so eloquently pointed out, Spirit, this is not an end, but only the transition, a sublimation of our outer being to our inner one. It may be a time of lachrymose reflection to us but it is a time of great joy to your FIL and we should all celebrate his time among us and relish his return to the celestial womb. May God speed him on his journey.

[MissStacey 1]

[Emancipation 2]

*sigh.. thank you thank you for your posting.. it is truly inspirational.. what a depth of celebration and acceptance you have in this passing.. It is a beautiful thing.. Still grieving my Grandmie on this end, and hearing your thoughts on having no regrets and living life well is a beautiful reminder to us all..

Thoughts go your way as you face the next few very busy and stressful days ahead my friend!

[SpiritAlight 1]

Thank you again my friends here on VJ.

Your kind words and flowers and other sentiments have truly touched my heart.

I told my step-mother-in-law (phew!) about this site and all of you...and how much you saved my ### from sheer depression at the time of the K1 thingie.

She is blown away by how many people are "involved"...from all the world and from so many realms.

Like some of you said, it is not sad for the one who has transformed, it is sad for those of us left behind who wanted some more time to play together.

I cannot even imagine what it would be like to lose a parent, spouse, sibling...that would be heart crushing for sure.

I hope I can have this kind of grace then, too.

After all, losing a grandmama or someone like that has a profound effect on people.

One of my good friends in Vancouver recently "lost" hers and now she is concerned with how much more power that woman will give to her from the other side. Hahaha!

One more thing I wanted to say about this wonder-full man: I asked him a while back if there was anything he wanted to do that he hadn't, or anything he needed to say to anyone left unsaid. His response? "No."

I do not think I have ever truly met someone who said that and meant it.

What a lucky man having lived the life he wanted.

PS One does not get over things like this...and do not think you ever have to.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Thank you again my friends here on VJ.

Your kind words and flowers and other sentiments have truly touched my heart.

I told my step-mother-in-law (phew!) about this site and all of you...and how much you saved my ### from sheer depression at the time of the K1 thingie.

She is blown away by how many people are "involved"...from all the world and from so many realms.

Like some of you said, it is not sad for the one who has transformed, it is sad for those of us left behind who wanted some more time to play together.

I cannot even imagine what it would be like to lose a parent, spouse, sibling...that would be heart crushing for sure.

I hope I can have this kind of grace then, too.

After all, losing a grandmama or someone like that has a profound effect on people.

One of my good friends in Vancouver recently "lost" hers and now she is concerned with how much more power that woman will give to her from the other side. Hahaha!

One more thing I wanted to say about this wonder-full man: I asked him a while back if there was anything he wanted to do that he hadn't, or anything he needed to say to anyone left unsaid. His response? "No."

I do not think I have ever truly met someone who said that and meant it.

What a lucky man having lived the life he wanted.

PS One does not get over things like this...and do not think you ever have to.

Your FIL was indeed a lucky man to have led he did and met all the wonderful people he did, especially his DIL. The great thing is when our loved ones transition, they can still visit, sometimes the visit you in your dreams and sometimes the visit you when you're wide awake. You can feel their presence and you know they've visited.

When I was a kid, my grandmother used to give each of us a five dollar bill and later a ten dollar bill as birthday presents. When she passed, I was despondent. She was like a second mother to me. Then, one day I was walking out to the mailbox and I found a five dollar bill. I looked around and there was only that one bill. My brothers went out and they found nothing. The next day I found more fives and a few tens. Again we looked and again we found nothing. This went on for ten days. I suppose that there is some other plausible explanation, but I knew in my heart that my grandmother was visiting. She always told me that she was 100 years old and I guess it was a day for each decade. I thought about whether it was Nana but it was my mother who told me what I think I already knew. Nana was visiting us. To this day she still comes to visit us from time to time. We visited her grave every day for three years. We don't go as much as we want to or should these days, we've moved on but the pain still hasn't gone and it never will.

[KarenCee 3]

PS One does not get over things like this...and do not think you ever have to.

I am glad there is another human being on this earth that recognises this as well. One doesn't "get over it" simply because others say they should. It is a personal journey...and I am still on this journey some 10 years later. No...I will never tell anyone they "should be over it".

[BH45 0]

"PS One does not get over things like this...and do not think you ever have to."

I have lost both my mother and my father. It will be 10 years in January for my mom and with this upcoming Mother's Day - I feel the loss even more. My dad has been gone for 6 years and on his special days, I miss him.

I still shed tears when certain days come along; when I think of good memories; and when I think of where my life is headed without them here to celebrate it with me. They are always with me - memories and in my heart.

I know my future hubby thinks of his parents often too. He has been on his own since the tender age of 14.

We all deal with these things differently. For myself, I know that if I were doing something wrong my mother would be letting me know, as would my dad. They gave me my life and guided me through it while they were here. Even though they are not physically here, they still find a way to guide me on my life's journey until we can be together again.

Spirit - you have such a gentle heart and wonderful outlook. You and yours will go where the Spirit takes you. We are never alone.

[kimmbo 0]

so sorry to hear about your FIL's passing...my husband lost his mom in August and today is his first Mothers Day without her....he wished my mother a happy Mothers Day but he looked so sad just saying the words...sending prayers to you, your husband and his family..

[SpiritAlight 1]

Again, thank you all so much for your loving words.

I appreciate all of you!

In a couple of hours we will be having a gathering, a celebration of my sweetie's dad's life.

There is a man who played with Elvis!! that is a friend of the family that will be performing some songs and my SIL will be singing a couple also.

This is very cool. B)

I think there will be a hundred people there.

Crazy! (aka good)

He affected so many...

Please stay with us.

I can feel you all energetically.

And know that I am with you.

:star:

[Carlawarla 1]

Despite having been away for several weeks, I am with you Spirit...your strength and beauty I'm sure has been very comforting to your new extended family. I'm sorry to hear of your FIL's passing, and your tribute in words I'm sure, is not enough to explain the depth of who he really was. May you always celebrate his life and love.