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[distresscall 0]

hi, my friend came to the USA on a fiancee visa.. shes been here for almost a month now and she is having doubts of marrying her fiance because she isnt that happy and marriage is a serious and lifetime commitment.. but she doesnt wanna leave the USA either because she didnt marry him.. what is the best thing for her to do? thank you

[JeroenAndMichelle 28]

It's pretty simple actually... her visa will be valid for three months in total, if she did not marry within that time and does not go back to her home country, she will be overstaying and be like an illegal immigrant. If she gets caught, she might be held for a while, then being send back home and have a ban to enter the US for a number of time.

So basically, if she doesn't wants to marry him, she should leave again to go to her home country.

Her not being willing to leave the US again makes me wonder if she was into it to get a permit to stay or really loved him before. I am not saying it is like that in her case but sometimes I do read stories which make me seriously doubt about peoples intentions.

Anyways, if she wants to be on the safe side and does not want to marry, she should leave the US within two months from now or else she wont be able to enter the US for a very long time.

[djcess 0]

she can't have both worlds.. she either marries and stay, or leave the country and be single.

[AllRightsReserved 0]

From the very time we met our fiance(e), there was enough time to realize and be sure if you do love him/her. It isn't fair to the petitioner that you made him/her compromise with all this process and now here you say not happy and not want to marry.That is why we are required to prove a "GENUINE RELATIONSHIP'.

"but she doesnt wanna leave the USA either because she didnt marry him"... that will create doubts to anyone who reads this.

May God enlighten your friend's thoughts.

[AllRightsReserved 0]

"she is having doubts of marrying her fiance because she isnt that happy and marriage is a serious and lifetime commitment"

Did she knew what "FIANCEE" means ? The woman to whom a man is engaged to be married.

Edited May 4, 2008 by AllRightsReserved

[tenderheartusa79 14]

From the very time we met our fiance(e), there was enough time to realize and be sure if you do love him/her. It isn't fair to the petitioner that you made him/her compromise with all this process and now here you say not happy and not want to marry.That is why we are required to prove a "GENUINE RELATIONSHIP'.

"but she doesnt wanna leave the USA either because she didnt marry him"... that will create doubts to anyone who reads this.

May God enlighten your friend's thoughts.

i think she spend good time with him before they even filed for the visa

which mean she was 100% sure she loves that guy when they file for the visa but if she was not that sure it means one thing????!!!!!

and it really makes me feel that there are so many people still using American to move to USA just to move to usa sorry to say that but its the truth!!!!!!!!!!!!

Edited May 4, 2008 by tenderheart197900

[amerasianlove 0]

Im sorry to hear this.. If you're friend will not marry her fiance, there is no way for her to stay in US,

It is very clear on K1 visa that YOU HAVE TO GET MARRIED WITHIN 90 DAYS, after that given time and u didnt get married you have to leave the country, I know it is very tempting to live in US but tell her to stick to what is right.Maybe your friend is shy to go back home?Tell her its alright.

If she is not happy with her relationship don't compromise her life to the marriage she knows that it will just doom to failure. And also just to be fair with her American fiance.

GOODLUCK AND GOD BLESS!

[natashenika 0]

"she is having doubts of marrying her fiance because she isnt that happy and marriage is a serious and lifetime commitment"

Did she knew what "FIANCEE" means ? The woman to whom a man is engaged to be married.

THAT IS RIGHT, WE ARE ADULT PEOPLE AND ARE SUPPOSED TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR ACTIONS,

MY OPINION IS THAT BECAUSE OF THIS TYPE OF PEOPLE WHO HAS NO IDEA WHAT THEY ARE DOING; IT TAKES LONGER FOR US TO GET THROUGH THE PROCESS, AND BE NEXT TO THE LOVED ONES, BECAUSE OF THIS TYPE OF CASES PEOPLE JUST PLAYING AROUND...

[Completely 3]

We as filipinos as having bad impression because of that. Living in the USA is not what we all think of.. I would rather say it is much easier to live in the Philippines or other country than US. My husband is american, been there in the US several times but will prefer to live in Philippines or Kuwait.

Sometimes pinays are taking a risk to marry someone just for them to come in the US. Seeking for a greener pasture... I am not generalizing people, but sometimes this is the reality.

I am just glad I met someone whom I dearly love so much..

[amerasianlove 0]

"she is having doubts of marrying her fiance because she isnt that happy and marriage is a serious and lifetime commitment"

Did she knew what "FIANCEE" means ? The woman to whom a man is engaged to be married.

THAT IS RIGHT, WE ARE ADULT PEOPLE AND ARE SUPPOSED TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR ACTIONS,

MY OPINION IS THAT BECAUSE OF THIS TYPE OF PEOPLE WHO HAS NO IDEA WHAT THEY ARE DOING; IT TAKES LONGER FOR US TO GET THROUGH THE PROCESS, AND BE NEXT TO THE LOVED ONES, BECAUSE OF THIS TYPE OF CASES PEOPLE JUST PLAYING AROUND...

We cant judge the girl here,atleast she is trying to be honest.And geez dont blame them for all the delays of our pending case.

We dont know the whole story so its hard to say something or to judge her actions.I believe she has a valid reasons why has some doubts to marry the guy...But girl please dont stay illegally in US.

[AllRightsReserved 0]

"she is having doubts of marrying her fiance because she isnt that happy and marriage is a serious and lifetime commitment"

Did she knew what "FIANCEE" means ? The woman to whom a man is engaged to be married.

THAT IS RIGHT, WE ARE ADULT PEOPLE AND ARE SUPPOSED TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR ACTIONS,

MY OPINION IS THAT BECAUSE OF THIS TYPE OF PEOPLE WHO HAS NO IDEA WHAT THEY ARE DOING; IT TAKES LONGER FOR US TO GET THROUGH THE PROCESS, AND BE NEXT TO THE LOVED ONES, BECAUSE OF THIS TYPE OF CASES PEOPLE JUST PLAYING AROUND...

We cant judge the girl here,atleast she is trying to be honest.And geez dont blame them for all the delays of our pending case.

We dont know the whole story so its hard to say something or to judge her actions.I believe she has a valid reasons why has some doubts to marry the guy...But girl please dont stay illegally in US.

"We cant judge the girl here,atleast she is trying to be honest". SHE COULD OF BEEN HONEST WHEN SHE WAS STILL IN HER COUNTRY.

"And geez dont blame them for all the delays of our pending case"..WELL, HER CASE ISN'T PENDING, SHE'S IN THE US NOW.

Thanks

[mhay stewart 0]

[when i marry my husband im 101% sure that i love him and his the one i want to grow old with and spend my whole life with him. MARRIAGE IS NOT ONLY A CONTRACT IT IS A LIFETIME COMMITMENT, so u have to be sure that u really love the person before u marry him. just be true to your self to your feelings. if u dont love your fiance well u have to be honest with him and dont marry a person that u dont love for him cuz u will be having a hard life and u wont be happy for your life. and if u marry him with no love for him its looks like u only use him so that u can get there in u,s. dont lose the trust he gave to u. just be true to him. if i were u talk to him heart to heart for sure after that u can breath well. god bless you

[Cham 3]

From the very time we met our fiance(e), there was enough time to realize and be sure if you do love him/her. It isn't fair to the petitioner that you made him/her compromise with all this process and now here you say not happy and not want to marry.That is why we are required to prove a "GENUINE RELATIONSHIP'.

"but she doesnt wanna leave the USA either because she didnt marry him"... that will create doubts to anyone who reads this.

May God enlighten your friend's thoughts.

i think she spend good time with him before they even filed for the visa

which mean she was 100% sure she loves that guy when they file for the visa but if she was not that sure it means one thing????!!!!!

and it really makes me feel that there are so many people still using American to move to USA just to move to usa sorry to say that but its the truth!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have seen several. It happen to my sister. I know many though that are genuine though which makes me happy

This situation though is terrible and I hate to say it but I feel so sorry for the petitioner! I find it selfish of her:(

I hope she thinks about what she is doing:(

[natashenika 0]

I didn't mean to juge anyone, but i lived in US before and met a lot of different people with different stories, so belive me I know what i'm talking about (the situation in general) there is a lot of SMART people who is makong business of that or get married with someone whoo is very lonely, take everything they could from their spouses money papers and the most impotrand few years of their life... and LEAVE that is the reason immigration officers have to work twice harder to find out what kind of relationship it is and our US spouses and fiancees/fiances have to be double carefull with their decisions .... I hope you know what I mean

Natasha

Edited May 4, 2008 by natashenika

[amerasianlove 0]

I didn't mean to juge anyone, but i lived in US before and met a lot of different people with different stories, so belive me I know what i'm talking about (the situation in general) there is a lot of SMART people who is makong business of that or get married with someone whoo is very lonely, take everything they could from their spouses money papers and the most impotrand few years of their life... and LEAVE that is the reason immigration officers have to work twice harder to find out what kind of relationship it is and our US spouses and fiancees/fiances have to be double carefull with their decisions .... I hope you know what I mean

Natasha

Yeah i feel ya Natasha.

Edited May 4, 2008 by God's*GiRL