I want your opinion people!!!!!

[Krikit 1,164]

I personally don't think 2 months is too long. Of course you miss the person, but you will have years and years with them. It's hard waiting even longer, but they are about to move to a totally different country and start a brand new life. Give them 2 months if they need it even if they have nothing to settle and just want to spend some last weeks in their country since they might not be back for awhile.

[Nutty 2]

Selling Property

This is a big issue....

My husband is trying to sell an investment property. He feels that he must sell it before he comes. However, to date, nobody has put an offer on it.

Should he just hang around until it sells?

Here is my suggestions:

1) Give a small discount on the property to a potential buyer you like (for example a newly married couple starting out). Think of it as good karma. Yes, you may lose a few hundred dollars, but you help the buyers start a new life and you see your wife in USA sooner. In the grand scheme of things, a few hundred dollars is not much in USA.

2) If the property does not sell by the end of six weeks. Appoint a family member to act on your behalf as an agent to do the selling transactions. When the property sells, give the family member a couple hundred dollars for helping.

3) If the property does not sell in the six weeks, then just put the selling aside for now and try to later. Especially if the wife is paying for the airline ticket.

[tom&tata 2]

Mine was slightly more than 6 months. The company requires 3 month notice for resignation & after that they could not find my replacement for June month end closing (the joy of working in accounting). I stayed 1 week after closing & I worked until the day I had to leave. I agreed to do that because they paid me for 1 month for working 1 week & had my bonus for the 1st half of year.

Our compromise was I came here a month after I got the visa, activate visa & stayed for approx 2 week and head back home.

There are people in his family who don't like the arrangement & thought that I would never moved here & it affected him sometimes. But I needed to spend time with family & friends, finish my job & did not burn bridges. Looking back, he said he was glad that we did what we did.

[Nutty 2]

In my case,,,,

My husband was absolutely sure the we would not wait long....If he truly believed in this, then he should have gotten on the ball sooner.

[mnieto 2]

When we applied for my K1 visa I thought that I'd be over in the USA within 4 weeks after my visa would have been issued. Turned out to be way more complicated! Since I did not know exactly when the visa would be issued I could not give notice on my job and the apartment.

I also didn't want to rush into selling my car as I had to drive to my job. Once the visa was issued I started trying to sell my car. Turned out, it took forever to find somebody who was willing to pay a reasonable price

( I didn't want to lose my hard earned Euros by giving it away for almost free). Then I started looking for a new tenant for my apartment. I had to find the new tenant myself as I hadn't given notice on my flat in time, and hadn't given notice on time as I hadn't known exactly when the visa would be issued. And I needed a roof over my head,right?

Turned out, it wasn't that easy to find a new tenant as there are tons of vacant apartment in the Munich area... All of these points are just a small part of organizing your move to a different continent.

What I'm trying to say is that there's a lot of things to be taken care of, and if you want to do this big step like moving to the US properly you should try to be as organized and efficient as possible. 8 weeks is almost nothing !

Edited April 24, 2008 by mnieto

[Nutty 2]

Each case is different...

My husband can walk out of his job tomorrow if he likes. He has got a US Visa. He said they have been grooming his replacement for months.

My husband lives with his family and all relatives live close by and he sees them all the time.

He has a property to sell, but that isn't moving. Should he just offer a slightly lower price of a few hundred dollars to sell it. Doesn't seem to unreasonable if it means coming sooner...Or should he wait and wait and wait just for this????

He has to get his university papers certified by Tehran University and translated.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Chill out, 2 months isn't a long time. Maybe he wants to spend time with his family. I know my wife did, she took about 2 months too. I didn't think anything of it.

Stop acting nutty!

[Nutty 2]

I am acting Nutty because I became clinically depressed from the waiting.

Nutty is a play on my name. Say TINA TINA TINA TINA over and over and you get Nutty.

[Nutty 2]

I am acting Nutty because I became clinically depressed from the waiting.

Nutty is a play on my name. Say TINA TINA TINA TINA over and over and you get Nutty.

[sara..... 371]

Estadia,

I don't think it takes two months to quit a job. You can give notice for one month....

he is head of the hospital sure its a small one but he is the only doctor that is able to preform heart surgery on children there so it takes sometime to get someone to step in so that the poor people he treats do not go with out medical care.......its in Kashmir ....and because this process has taken so long to even get noa2 it is even more difficult to line another doctor up even if he found one that would be willing to just wait until he leaves if he does not receive visa at the interview he has to stay and work until everything is worked out...........

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

If you are clinically depressed, you need treatment. A normally functioning human being can deal with 2 more months. Get help, for both your sakes. He will be here soon enough and it'll suck if you're clinically depressed when he arrives.

[Nutty 2]

In your case it is different...and I can understand how two months is needed.

By the way, I travel to Kashmir now and then and have a few dear friends from there.

I am getting treated.

[sereia 0]

I think whatever he tells you he needs, is what you should give him. He's about to spend the rest of his life with you, so whats the harm?

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

I am getting treated.

Good to know.

Please try to relax. 2 months isn't long at all.

[Jenn! 918]

All I know is that anyone around here who has guilt tripped or persuaded their SO to come earlier than they would have liked has regretted it.