How to Make your husband Happy

[brnidokiegurl 0]

um think i will pass, hard headed moroccan doesnt sound to good this morning

[caybee 21]

3- The last solution is lightly hitting (when allowable) her. In this case, the husband should consider the following: - He should know that Sunnah is to avoid beating as the Prophet (e) never beat a woman or a servant.

- He should do it only in extreme cases of disobedience, e.g. refusing intercourse without cause frequently, constantly not praying on time, leaving the house for long periods of time without permission nor refusing to tell him where she had been, etc..

- It should not be done except after having turned from her bed and discussing the matter with her as mentioned in Qur’an . - He should not hit her hard injuring her, or hit her on her face or on sensitive parts of her body.

- He should avoid shaming her such as by hitting her with a shoe, etc.

Pardoning and Appropriate Censure

Accounting her only for larger mistakes.

Goodluck lol. I'd smack back

This one gets me. (And not just this one, but...meh...) If a woman is refusing sex with her husband, there is a reason. Women don't have sex with their husbands just because it's what they're supposed to do as a good wife and to obey God. Women have a need for physical intimacy just like men do; they enjoy it just like men do. If a woman is refusing sex frequently but loves her husband, something is going on. Either it's painful, or some hormones are out of whack, or something stressful is going on in the woman's life that's making it difficult for her to relax enough for lovemaking, or -- heaven forbid -- her husband's being a jerk or threatening her and she doesn't feel comfortable being intimate with him. Could even be that he wants it twice a day and she wants it a couple times a week, so there's a timing issue to resolve. How about working the problem -- consulting a doctor or counselor or even talking about it with her (now there's a thought!) -- rather that slapping her and telling her to do what God wants her to do? 'Cause I can tell you that a "light beating" plus a little emotional blackmail with religious overtones is not gonna put me in the mood. Or maybe such a man will happily accept a coerced partner as long as he gets some?

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[SaadBell 0]

brnidokiegurl -

Don't worry sweetie, let auntie G tender it up for you, a nice slow cooker would do the trick. Remember for a tough cut of meat, always cook it at a low temp for longer time. Add some vegs and you have a tasty meal

[brnidokiegurl 0]

you first

[Nagishkaw 510]

brnidokiegurl -

Don't worry sweetie, let auntie G tender it up for you, a nice slow cooker would do the trick. Remember for a tough cut of meat, always cook it at a low temp for longer time. Add some vegs and you have a tasty meal

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And if you really can't stand your husband, just eat the rice.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

I dont like rice ....guess i just have to hope the vegetables come out good

[Nagishkaw 510]

[brnidokiegurl 0]

if you want to laugh about body parts see my joke in OT about Mr Willy

[SaadBell 0]

See now we are getting somewhere, men don't mess with insane woman, at least not ones with half of brain, always leave enough brain so they can function, and the other half is delicious sautéed in butter.

[Nasturtium 500]

If you are talking about me no I would not accept to be hit at all. I know I dont have to worry about that any way.

So then do you just not accept that part of Islam?

[aisha kandisha 0]

If you are talking about me no I would not accept to be hit at all. I know I dont have to worry about that any way.

So then do you just not accept that part of Islam?

Whether it is a part of Islam is debatable. Not everyone translates the word in the ayat that people say means a man can strike his wife the same way.

[Ihavequestions 419]

This one gets me. (And not just this one, but...meh...) If a woman is refusing sex with her husband, there is a reason.

Maybe this is Sheikh Mohammed Abdelhaleem Hamed's sick way of convincing his own wife/wives that, even though their bits have been chopped off and their nether-region hurts, he's still entitled to his Qu'raan-given rights?

[Gaby&Talbert 1]

Bottom line is that the problem with all religions is not the religion but the laws man makes in his interpretation of the original writtings. Muslim or Christian, it does not matter. It is the responsability of the individual to READ and learn. Parents are responsable for teaching their children their faith. People go to a church like sheep believing every word from the leaders mouth and do not read for themselves to know if it is true or not. Man has manipulated the writtings from all faiths to meet their needs throughout history.

I wonder what God thinks of man manipulating his words?

[Gaby&Talbert 1]

If you are talking about me no I would not accept to be hit at all. I know I dont have to worry about that any way.

So then do you just not accept that part of Islam?

In reality, the Qur'an and Sunnah provide clear instructions on what procedures a husband must use in conflict situations where the husband is innocent and the wife is rebellious and at fault. The first step is a peaceful discussion between the two of them about the problem and solutions. This is intended to soften hearts and eliminate misunderstandings. If this doesn't work, the next step is for the husband to tell his wife his expectations in a firm, decisive manner. If the rebelliousness and disobedience continues, the husband is supposed to leave the bed, which is really a punishment for both of them for not being able to resolve their differences. If that fails to solve the problem, representatives of both sides meet to try and arbitrate. As a last resort, if he thinks it will prevent divorce by letting the wife know how serious he is, the husband can use a light slap on the hand or shoulder but not on any other part of the body, and it shouldn't leave a mark or scar. Anything beyond this is Islamically prohibited.

This doesn't sound like it is ok to hit your wife to me?

[Nasturtium 500]

If you are talking about me no I would not accept to be hit at all. I know I dont have to worry about that any way.

So then do you just not accept that part of Islam?

Whether it is a part of Islam is debatable. Not everyone translates the word in the ayat that people say means a man can strike his wife the same way.

I've never heard this was debatable. So what are the alternative translations? I don't care one way or the other, but I always am somewhat curious about why people accept or reject certain things of faith based on the evidence. If it is translated in different ways that is definately a reason to disagree and would support any disagreement. What really sparked my curiosity, and of course she is totally free to not respond, is that her husband had posted this and so one would think he agreed with it and she stated a dissention. Hitting of any kind seems like it would be a more major kind of issue that two people should agree on.