Timeline for K-1 marriage and divorce rate

[jeff's bride 0]

Hey everyone. I've been browsing the posts on this site, and noting a lot of people have some difficulty adjusting to their spouses after arrival in the USA (I know...duh...). Sometimes it seems that that is the reason people are not able to work things out after marriage. I was just curious if people thought that having a longer time to adjust to one another (maybe live together a little while first) might help with marriage success? Personally I voted it should be extended, but I'm not sure how long...maybe 9 months.

[sereia 0]

i put 6 months. 9 would work too.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

You can only vote if you think it should be extended. If you don't, you can't pick anything in the second part and it won't let you submit.

[Krikit 1,164]

Your poll pre-supposes that the 3 month time limitation is a get-to-know-you period. It is not. The time between meeting and committing to an engagement is. When you become engaged you are saying "I am willing to marry you and spend the rest of my life with you." When you come to the US on a K-1 visa you are sealing the deal..... not giving it a trial run.

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

I think 90 days is fine but 6 months wouldn´t hurt either. My bigger concern is that I don´t think they should be giving a 90 days permit on the I-94 when you enter. Noone who looks at the passport (for example at DMV) understands what K1 is for or what it means and they automatically assume that you are supposed to leave the country in the 90 days. They don´t understand you are supposed to stay and therefore they don´t wanna give you the drivers license or something etc etc. And according to your passport you aren´t supposed to be here after the 90 days according to some people. So would be better even if they insist on getting married within 90 days to give you a 6 months stamp so you don´t run into those kind of problems.

[YuAndDan 153]

Your poll pre-supposes that the 3 month time limitation is a get-to-know-you period. It is not. The time between meeting and committing to an engagement is. When you become engaged you are saying "I am willing to marry you and spend the rest of my life with you." When you come to the US on a K-1 visa you are sealing the deal..... not giving it a trial run.

Exactly! K-1 is not a shack-up visa, the couple are committed to marriage shortly after arrival.

[jeff's bride 0]

Your poll pre-supposes that the 3 month time limitation is a get-to-know-you period. It is not. The time between meeting and committing to an engagement is. When you become engaged you are saying "I am willing to marry you and spend the rest of my life with you." When you come to the US on a K-1 visa you are sealing the deal..... not giving it a trial run.

That's interesting, because I don't really see it that way. I sort of saw it as saying that though you know each other (obviously...you're marrying the person after all!), you might need some time for them to adjust to the new country, get to know their way around, and know all the quirks of how their other half is in day to day life...in all my relationships I have absolutely found it true that you don't really know someone until you've lived with them...

[JandC 0]

I reckon 90 days is long enough. I got married 20 days after arriving in the US.

[SqdnGuns 21]

Agreed 110%

Your poll pre-supposes that the 3 month time limitation is a get-to-know-you period. It is not. The time between meeting and committing to an engagement is. When you become engaged you are saying "I am willing to marry you and spend the rest of my life with you." When you come to the US on a K-1 visa you are sealing the deal..... not giving it a trial run.

Exactly! K-1 is not a shack-up visa, the couple are committed to marriage shortly after arrival.

[Sylvia_n_Joseph 3]

I would hate to impose on my friends to house my SO for any onger than I have to. I do NOT believe in living together before getting married.

[*julez* 124]

Your poll pre-supposes that the 3 month time limitation is a get-to-know-you period. It is not. The time between meeting and committing to an engagement is. When you become engaged you are saying "I am willing to marry you and spend the rest of my life with you." When you come to the US on a K-1 visa you are sealing the deal..... not giving it a trial run.

Amen to that Sister Krikit!

[wifetobe 2]

Your poll pre-supposes that the 3 month time limitation is a get-to-know-you period. It is not. The time between meeting and committing to an engagement is. When you become engaged you are saying "I am willing to marry you and spend the rest of my life with you." When you come to the US on a K-1 visa you are sealing the deal..... not giving it a trial run.

Amen to that Sister Krikit!

Very well said Krikit! That's why VWPs were invented..a three month opportunity to grasp whether you can live with your fiance or not! Marriage is a life long commitment end of.

[Jack and Barbara 0]

I agree that by the time your SO arrives in the U.S., you are ready for marriage. I can also see that if you waited until the visa was in hand before preparing for the wedding, 3 months might be pushing it (unless you just get married civily, not religiously).

I wish me and my girl could have lived together before marriage. I don't give as much importance to marrying before you live with a person.

[Saddle Bronc 124]

90 days ok, 6 months

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

I believe you should have up to one year. But it goes beyond divorce rate improvement. One complaint I have, is 90 days is not enough time if you desire to marry in a particular season or on a meaningful date. I think it sucks that if my fiancée arrives in the autumn we have no way to marry in the spring or summer when it's warm! I find it unacceptable that the USCIS is virtually deciding our wedding dates.