Pre-Nuptial Agreement

[JenT 0]

There's a lot of trust that has to occur in this process.... wonder about people's thoughts on this these days...

I should have added an 'undecided' category.... that's what I am....

I'll get this polling thing right eventually ;-)

Jen

Edited May 4, 2006 by JenT

[sukie175 0]

I remember someone saying her fiance wanted one once on here and OMG was he slated and she was told to dump him.

Personally I think if you both go into it with similar assets it's not needed, if one of you is a millionaire maybe.

[j&js 0]

We never bothered just because we are both pretty broke. If we had anything at all, we both agree that we would have gotten one. I love my husband and we know we will be together forever, but we also feel like we wouldn't want to be naive. People grow and change, hopefully we will do that together and it will never be an issue, but if we did ever break up, I think we would both rather have everything in order. I mean, it would be a horrible enough time, wouldn't want to add splitting up assets to the mix.

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

I'm sure Nani has no clue what a pre-nup is. I know what it is but wouldn't consider doing one. Not that I think it's wrong. Just happen to think it ain't right for me. It sort of interferes with my definition of trust.

[choji 0]

I wish I had had one.

But I settled on the good old "I trust my partner".

Then I got taken to the cleaners. Lost everything.

Bad experience.

[Pinay Wife 47]

I am the foreign fiancee (Filipina). I brought up the topic of pre-nup to my fiance and offered to sign one. He said the thought crossed his mind for maybe one nano-second but decided NAH, he doesn't want a pre-nup. That made me feel good

[iceyspots 0]

dont need one

[almaty 19]

nope.. did not do one and did not see it as relevant in our case

[Yaads 0]

We both are just starting out in life and have no real assets or money...so it was not even considered.

[Welshcookie 17]

I bought up the issue recently due to what he has gone thro with his soon to be ex wife.....I told him I was prepared to sign one and wouldn't feel bad about doing it if that's what he wanted. He thought about it for a few days and decided it wasn't something he wanted to do.....he trusts me not to 'screw him over' if things do happen to go wrong and I trust him to him to be fair also, I have been with him thro his divorce and know he is a fair person.

[aussiewench 9]

Would never consider it myself under any circumstances....even after being taken to the cleaners by my second hubby when he wasnt entitled to much at all, let alone half of what I got from my first marriage. What I did walk away with I partied year long, went on a wild spending spree so the next time someone loved me it was for me hahahaha We could of done with some of that money now

[Cassie 8]

Nope, not even part of our conversations.

[Nikita2Charles 32]

It's all about trust and being practical. Marriage is made in Heaven but when things goes sour down the road, the same person who pledge the love ever after turned against each other, The devil at work. Put your trust in GOD, only He can watch out over you, yes lot of stuff in just MATERIALISTIC, as we go leave this body we are not going to take none of these things with us. As a newlywed, I put my trust in the Lord as he's the one that brought us together in Marriage. But that situation could have been different if there were children involves, that way the kids from both partners are protected.

[canadalaura 0]

We both had nothing of any great value when we got married. However, if I had sizeable assets I would've gotten one. Nothing too crazy - just some basic protection to make sure I wasn't being married for my $$$.

Edited May 5, 2006 by canadalaura

[terri o'neale 0]

He wanted 50/50...but since I had kids from other relationships I pridefully insisted on more like75/25...on me. But once I got pregnant with Emmie it was more like 25/75. I was so proud last month when I was actually able to help him out for a change. Of course he wouldn't have needed any help if he hadn't spent so much on us when he was over here for those two months. We finely agreed that both of us should share finances like we share our love on the bad days. Who ever has...gives. Who ever needs...takes without pride. And if neither have...we just hug and laugh and do the best we can.