Stressed

[~Jackie~ 30]

thats a great idea Belinda! Jess call the hospital

Jackie

[~Jess~ 0]

Each state's laws are different. I know for a fact in Texas and Kentucky if you are married the husband's name will go on the birth certificate. In Kentucky even if it is later proven by genetic testing that your husband is not the father he is still considered the "legal father" and the state will not pursue any action against the biological father.

I would look on the internet for the laws specific to your state to see exactly what they are. I don't understand why an officially notarized statement would not be accepted by the department of vital records even if done outside of the hospital.

Maybe even contact the hospital to see if there is a form they use to Acknowledge Paternity that will be accepted since they are the ones who send the paperwork to the vital records department of your state.

I called them yesterday and they gave me the number to vital's in the clerks office that i had already called......soooooo tomorrow i am off to the clerks office paperwork in hand to explain in person. maybe by explaining in person and allowing them to see the document will produce a better outcome. God willing.

[sara535 15]

well I dont have anything to add except that I too know from experience it varies by state. I agree there has to be SOME way to get around it because surely you are not the only person in the state of NY who has had a baby without her husband physically present.

good luck and definitely try to stay calm and keep george calm

hang in there !

[Nasturtium 500]

Well, if you absolutely cannot get around this, maybe see if you can send him the forms... otherwise I guess check surrounding states and their laws and if your insurance will transfer. i know you haev a scheduled proceedure though and this majorly sucks.

[sereia 0]

yeah why not just FedEX the forms?

[morocco4ever 63]

Yes, Fed ex is something that crossed my mind. The other thing would be if George could sign some sort of power of attorney. I don't know if that would do anything at all, just brain storming.

[~Jess~ 0]

i appriciate everyone trying to come up with solutions. really.

i am going tomorrow and God willing we can get this figured out.

i am feeling really ill and want to go hide

[amal 4]

Thinking of you girl...I have no solutions but wanted u to know ur in my prayers.

amal

[~Jess~ 0]

Thank you sweetie.

im off to the clerk's office in about half hour, i will post here when i know something.

[jodee 30]

Moved at OP's request!

[~Jess~ 0]

Moved at OP's request!

Can you move it back?? i stated a few posts after my initial request to leave it in MENA.

Thankssss

[~Jess~ 0]

**UPDATE**

so i went to the clerks office and when i first got there and asked she said 'its up to the hospital' im like noooo i called them and they told me i had to ask vital statistics so thats what i am doing there. she is like you are married? i said yes. so she made a phone call explained the situation and repeated that we were married and he wasnt able to be present for the birth...but i needed to know if i could have his name on the certificate. she thanked them and hung up...and said Yes i was allowed to because we are married.

so for extra cover my butt technique i am taking the papers to the hospital tonight and going to talk to someone in the post partum area where they do all that paperwork with the new moms. soooooooooooo i am pretty hopefuly that things will work out after all. Thank God.

Thanks for listening to me whine!

[*JG* 2]

What I would do is pack a copy of your marriage certificate and a copy of something that shows you are in the visa process in the bag you will take to the hospital with you. That way, you have all the proof you need on hand.

[amal 4]

Yay jess! I'm glad SOMETHING is working out for you!

[Ban Hammer 13,332]

Moved at OP's request!

Can you move it back?? i stated a few posts after my initial request to leave it in MENA.

Thankssss

moved back to mena as requested.