Going back home

[tashyta 0]

Hi everyione!

I just need your support. On May 4th I'm going back home. I've been here in US for year and 1 month, didn't get married (coz of his problems with his business). It's so hard, I have no idea what I'm going to do without him, for 5 years of being together he became my whole life! If I leaving we are done. I don't want to go through what I went through during this year twice. I will have to start my life from the very beginning...

Thanks for reading this, it really helps! God bless you all and good luck with your visas!

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

I'm very sorry

If you aren't happy, you have to do what is best for you.

I wish you much luck and happiness in the future.

[Gaby&Talbert 1]

I wonder if they will allow her to leave the US without causing problems with USCIS? Will TSA possibly question her expired visa and detain her for deportation?

[tashyta 0]

I wonder if they will allow her to leave the US without causing problems with USCIS? Will TSA possibly question her expired visa and detain her for deportation?

Is it possible at all? I was hoping since I'm leaving by my own will they won't touch me. I know I already got 3-year bar and in June it'll be already 10 years. I've heard about possibility to go to prison if I'm cought. My fiance can go with me till very plane and if necessary he'll explain everything. He is also in military and it caused a lot of problems too. Do you think it'll work? If I am questioned I'll be questioned in US or I may have problems in Amsterdam (I'm changing plane there)?

Edited April 18, 2008 by tashyta

[nane1104 146]

I wonder if they will allow her to leave the US without causing problems with USCIS? Will TSA possibly question her expired visa and detain her for deportation?

I don't think that will be an issue, the problem would be to re-enter the US to a later time. If the OP came here on a K-1, after over a year and not filing for AOS, she has an overstay which would get her a bar.

tashyta, I wish you all the best for the future.

Edited April 18, 2008 by nane1104

[Gaby&Talbert 1]

I wonder if they will allow her to leave the US without causing problems with USCIS? Will TSA possibly question her expired visa and detain her for deportation?

Is it possible at all? I was hoping since I'm leaving by my own will they won't touch me. I know I already got 3-year bar and in June it'll be already 10 years. I've heard about possibility to go to prison if I'm cought. My fiance can go with me till very plane and if necessary he'll explain everything. He is also in military and it caused a lot of problems too. Do you think it'll work? If I am questioned I'll be questioned in US or I may have problems in Amsterdam (I'm changing plane there)?

Hopefully if you show them your passport and it is not expired they won't say anything. It won't matter in Amsterdam.

[Army_Wife 2]

I wonder if they will allow her to leave the US without causing problems with USCIS? Will TSA possibly question her expired visa and detain her for deportation?

Is it possible at all? I was hoping since I'm leaving by my own will they won't touch me. I know I already got 3-year bar and in June it'll be already 10 years. I've heard about possibility to go to prison if I'm cought. My fiance can go with me till very plane and if necessary he'll explain everything. He is also in military and it caused a lot of problems too. Do you think it'll work? If I am questioned I'll be questioned in US or I may have problems in Amsterdam (I'm changing plane there)?

I'd be surprised if you get detained for deportation as you're leaving of your own will.

I'm sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you, have you guys thought about counselling ?

The military lifestyle is not an easy one, so I understand about issues in that arena, but I see you still call him Fiance, are you guys still together? ...... 90 days to get married from getting a K1 can be pretty quick at times, especially when there is a military lifestyle to consider .... it's not like he works in an office, and I feel there should be some form of information pack that comes with the soldier when he wishes to settle down and find a permanent partner.

Military spouses have the hardest job in the world at times.

[Kamaboko 0]

If you love him why don't you try to fix everything Tashyta.

Whatever the road you take, my best wishes are there for you.

God bless.

[tashyta 0]

If you love him why don't you try to fix everything Tashyta.

Whatever the road you take, my best wishes are there for you.

God bless.

I DO love him and he sais he does too, but he behaves very strange. Right now I don't exist to him, only his problems do. Why you think I'm still here, I was trying to fix everything, I'm helping him with the business, but he doesn't do anything to help me with my problems. I'm just going deeper and deeper in my problems. That's why I think it'll be better if I leave and start dooing something with my life

[Caladan 19]

I wonder if they will allow her to leave the US without causing problems with USCIS? Will TSA possibly question her expired visa and detain her for deportation?

Is it possible at all? I was hoping since I'm leaving by my own will they won't touch me. I know I already got 3-year bar and in June it'll be already 10 years. I've heard about possibility to go to prison if I'm cought. My fiance can go with me till very plane and if necessary he'll explain everything. He is also in military and it caused a lot of problems too. Do you think it'll work? If I am questioned I'll be questioned in US or I may have problems in Amsterdam (I'm changing plane there)?

The problem should be on re-entry, not in leaving. You entered legally, and you overstayed. Being out of status is unlawful, but not illegal, which means you'll incur a ban, but since you're leaving, there's no reason for them to detain you on your way out.

Amsterdam won't give you any problems with U.S. immigration.

[Nutty 2]

If you love him and he loves you....then leaving and abandoning your visa is a mistake. I agree with you it is too much torture to wait for years seperated. If he can let you go, then it will be HIS BIG MISTAKE.

And I agree that you can not put your life in limbo to go through the same process again. Move on with your life.

Best wishes

[tashyta 0]

If you love him and he loves you....then leaving and abandoning your visa is a mistake. I agree with you it is too much torture to wait for years seperated. If he can let you go, then it will be HIS BIG MISTAKE.

And I agree that you can not put your life in limbo to go through the same process again. Move on with your life.

Best wishes

I know! And I feel myself so stupid by giving him all this time, because he was promising me that everything would be fine and asked me to be patient. And what do I have for being patient? - 3-year bar. And I don't want to wait till 10-year bar. 3 is still better than 10!

[Army_Wife 2]

If you love him why don't you try to fix everything Tashyta.

Whatever the road you take, my best wishes are there for you.

God bless.

I DO love him and he sais he does too, but he behaves very strange. Right now I don't exist to him, only his problems do. Why you think I'm still here, I was trying to fix everything, I'm helping him with the business, but he doesn't do anything to help me with my problems. I'm just going deeper and deeper in my problems. That's why I think it'll be better if I leave and start dooing something with my life

Re-reading your profile I presume that your Husband is a Reservist in the Military and has a civillian job too, was he active duty at all? did he do time in a war zone? .... if so, you may want to read this

http://www.battlemind.org/spouse_battlemind.html#

By the way, symptoms of PTSD can show up years after, and can be quite odd and sometimes shocking if you're not used to it or aware of it.

If he's fine, this site is pretty good for getting relationships back on track

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/

It's a bit intense, but I've seen it work a few times.

[tashyta 0]

Re-reading your profile I presume that your Husband is a Reservist in the Military and has a civillian job too, was he active duty at all? did he do time in a war zone? .... if so, you may want to read this

http://www.battlemind.org/spouse_battlemind.html#

By the way, symptoms of PTSD can show up years after, and can be quite odd and sometimes shocking if you're not used to it or aware of it.

If he's fine, this site is pretty good for getting relationships back on track

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/

It's a bit intense, but I've seen it work a few times.

He is in NG and yes, he was in Iraq for almost 2 years, which almost ruined his business, that's why he has problems and huge debts. He sais he doen't want to drag me into his debts. I don't think anything will help us now. I already have tickets. I really don't know what to do. This situation with his business problms will last fot at least one more year.

[Caladan 19]

You guys aren't married yet, right? Does he know of your plans to go home?