opinion .Do you think it helps or hurts Mena girls when we post our drama on here about our relationships with our men?

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Well we finally after 3 airline ticket changes found a ticket that works with his transit visa and its not as long out.

Do you benefit from people being honest about their relationships with their mena husbands?

I fight with mine alot and I dont have the harmonious make up sessions some others do.I stay pissed (sometimes with really good reason)

I think I get pissed when people say all kind of scary stuff get everyone in mena all riled up then dont take any advice then come back and say the things never happened. I personally took alot of the advice Amal and other people had to give. Especially jpaula. But I am not going to sugar coat it.I have been pissed as hell at my husband for delaying 2 months getting her to see his mom although its understandable and he needs the visit.

I get pissed at him because of misunderstandings.Im glad I can come here and talk about stuff...

[Jenn! 918]

I voted yes, though I'd probably say yes and no. It can be helpful, but it can also make people over analyze I think - especially those who haven't spent a whole lot of time with their SO.

Also helpful to keep in mind that often people just outright lie and paint a much nicer picture than reality.

ETA: Please don't move this poll - it's pretty clear that it's specific to this regional forum.

Edited April 17, 2008 by Jenn!

[morocco4ever 63]

Although I find it quite interesting and amusing to hear what is going on I have to vote no. Each one of us here have differing lives and situations. I don't know all of the facts, and lets face it, the minute we see a MENA man acting funky we assume he was only using her for a visa. I have been guilty of that myself.

We are all in a strange world with these men. The cultures, the way they think, the way they react. Then add in the differences between the way a man and a women think. Its just not always cut and dried. I can tell you, my marriage to my husband, knowing our age difference, would bring some pretty major doubt to most peoples minds. Do I have any doubts? NOT ONE! But if I wasn't as strong minded as I am would I let other peoples opinions sway my trust? Probaby.

Edited April 17, 2008 by morocco4ever

[SaadBell 0]

I would rather people were honest and tell it like it is. Why paint a picture of something to just look good, but yes, it happens all the time. Maybe, in their minds their life is all rosy, than, I am sure happy for them. Marriage is hard period, and people are different, even ones raised in the same culture, so yes, bring the problems maybe we can come up with a way of helping. I can understand why some would not say their personal information, sometimes people can gang up on someone, and that is Intimidating.

[Jenn! 918]

Then again, if you don't paint a rosy picture and try to talk about things straight up, you're accused of bashing.

Basically, you can't win on message boards!

[SaadBell 0]

Then again, if you don't paint a rosy picture and try to talk about things straight up, you're accused of bashing.

Basically, you can't win on message boards!

You are right, you just can't win

[jpaula 20]

I hope everone feels free to vent if it helps them. But, I also hope no one is drawing any conclusions about their own relationship based on what is presented of others'.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I didn't vote - but I love you all my MENA gurrrrls.... except of course Jenn who is a total b1tch

[Jenn! 918]

I didn't vote - but I love you all my MENA gurrrrls.... except of course Jenn who is a total b1tch

You smell like fish.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I didn't vote - but I love you all my MENA gurrrrls.... except of course Jenn who is a total b1tch

You smell like fish.

Oh really???? You want drama, eh??? you live off drama, eh??? "You have nothing better to do that be dramatic, eh????

{{{realizes she kind of smells fishy... }}}}

[Jenn! 918]

See? I'm always right.

[PetraPerson101 0]

I try to stay away from the personal stuff and venting ...

erm .. first, I'm a guy -so- there ya go.

Second, I think it could lead to bad advice from one or another, make one person look unfavorable, make a jerk out of someone - and lead to ill-will between people.

Sorta like politics & religion discussions, but on a more personal scale. Any "injury" will be more deep seated than if you said something like:

"Hey KyanWan - I think the Governor of CT is a total piece of #######!"

(Personally - I think the Governor of CT [Jodi Rell] is one damned good politician - tough, smart, and sensible - PLUS - She's a Republican, but she's not BLIND [eg, I trust in her to NOT support the party mindlessly. If someone has a good idea, no matter who they are or what party they're with, she WILL listen. ] )

Sure, I wouldn't agree and I'd think whoever says something like that is blind and deaf -but- I'd get over it. Saying you personally or your spouse/family is insult-X or adjective-Y - hurts a lot worse and carries much deeper ill-will.

Personal stuff will eventually lead to that.

That's - part - of why I ... try ... to keep out of principle / belief discussion.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

See? I'm always right.

Yeah right... by the way, you forgot this....

Love you girl!

[Jenn! 918]

See? I'm always right.

Yeah right... by the way, you forgot this....

Love you girl!

Regifting is soooo tacky....

But I love you anyway!

[sarahaziz 0]

I thought it to be helpful for other women going thru or will go thru cause even tho the problems differ they are still based on the same misunderstanding. Apparently posting personal stuff on here attracts wierdo's. I don't think women can win with each other. Some are open hearted and kind and others are just competitive and look for mistakes in other people without realizing their own. Altogether it's only a board online and nobody knows the different personalities people carry with their spouse so if anybody came in here scared about their spouse abroad I don't recommend they take anything from deep discussions on here to arab bashings to their heart. Real life and stuff you've encounter on the boards usually can have different outtakes. We usually post unsuccessful marriages here to warn or advise but in real life there's alot of successful loving marriages but you don't hear of those too often it's just overlooked.