real help...life altering decision

[Rocketta 0]

wow that is really tough. I wish you all the best .. It's a tough decision. I don't know what I would do if I was you. Sorry your husband can't be there with you during this difficult time.

[Not Available 0]

I've never been in any situation even remotely close to this but I do agree with the advice given. Think about what will ease your mind the best? What will help your stress ease so you do not cause more harm to yourself or the baby?

A friend of mine was pregnant and they told her that her child would have downs. It wasn't a several percentage like you, they were actually saying it was pretty up there. Even then, she gave birth to a healthy baby girl, with no downs syndrome. She is so funny, laughs all the time, and is such a happy child. She loves to talk and learns a new word everyday.

On the other side of the fence, my other friend got pregnant and her biggest fear truly was to have a child with Downs Syndrome. 9 months later she gave birth to her son who has down syndrome. He is truly the light of her life. He is funny, laughs all the time, and is such a happy child. He can't talk, but he can sign, he is a really smart kid. She loves him so much.

I guess I am telling you these stories not to have you decide on what to do now, but to show you that in the end, they both had happy endings.

[LuzyC 0]

We are wishing all the best for you and your family.

[Fandango 1,439]

Keeping you and your family in my prayers, Wahraina...

[Dr. Obvious 49]

No advice, but I hope for the best for you and your family.

[bhajishah 4]

OH dear, Salaam, uhm his is my old specialty, im in medical mgt actually over a few downs cases as well. ONe they are the most loveable, nice people ive ever know, soo close to ALlah in face and actions not soo hard to take care of and reallly a joy.Sounds like you have a great supportive husband.. go with his thinking.. and only the amnio can tell the real story not these other tests they threw at you. so dont sweat. those test are often srong, get a 4 d and amnio @ same time. chances are its ok. and if not. downs is not soo bad. the ones where they die within two months of birth etc is the hard cases.. in my experience.. Downs have soo many connections and resources and thier own support and fun community..ig that be the case

[Emo 0]

I had my transuchal ultrasound and my additional blood screen.The hospital called me and told me my blood came back bad and that I was at increased risk for downs...They have scheduled me for a rush amnio in 4 days and a genetic counseling session wednesday.Even if I do the amnio wed or tues it will be one week for preliminary and 2 weeks for complete which will put me at 20 weeks...finding out if the baby is downs..

Its a several percent chance my baby is downs...and the amnio is a risk too..I ask myself if I would terminate if the baby was downs ....and my heart starts screaming inside my chest..Im waiting on my husband to make up his mind about what week he wants to leave algeria(hes applying for a transit visa to visit his mom in paris on the way here...)Ill have to drive myself to the amnio and suffer through the next 2 weeks alone...

I have options

Carry whatever I have been given to term

Terminate if its a severe birth defect

Not test with the amnio and play roulette

My husband wants me to do the amnio and then keep whatever we have

Im wanting to skip the amnio altogether but then Ill worry all pregnancy

My body is really weak and im afraid the amnio would cause a miscarriage because I have no one to help me rest or take care of my small one(she jumps on my stomach and is heavy to lift

I am besides myself because all my options suck

Any advice?

Do the amnio. Think later.

[Hilarious Clinton 452]

Only you can decide. I will be praying for you to have clarity and wisdom over this situation.

exactly

[raphael7546 0]

I lost a baby due to having an Amnio . He was perfectly fine but very small. I was 5 months along.