Why Women Gain Weight After Marriage?????

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Actually, there is a lot of truth in that article. Before I was married I wondered why my married friends were all somewhat heavier than the single women I knew - including me. Well, for me, I did gain 15 pounds - although it was in my third year of marriage, not the first. And I want it gone!! I can see the reasons why - and yes, they have to do with being married:-).

I cook dinner every night and even though it is healthy food, still I tend to eat more when I am eating with my husband than I did on my own when I was likely to grab just a salad or throw a frozen Lean Cuisine dinner into the oven. He likes cookies and I used never to have them around, but because he likes to have some in his lunch, we have them around - and yes, I will now have 2 or 3 cookies during the evening. I used to live in the upstairs half of a house - I ran up and down stairs multiple times a day. Here, our house is all on one floor - a significant form of easy exercise is now gone! I used to work all day and then be busy most evenings and weekends running around from activity to meeting to 're-enacting' (primitive camping). Now, he works all day and I do my activities during the day, but in the evenings, we are both sedentary - he is tired after his 12 hours (I don't blame him), and this is time we can share, even if it is just sitting together. Doing physical things on the weekend doesn't make up for its lack during the previous 5 days.

So, it isn't the marriage that has caused me to loose weight - it is the circumstances that have happened due to being married.

Oh - and reaching menopause didn't help either. Geeze!

[almaty 19]

i can see this is a men hating thread...

stop the hate, ladies.....

i'm sorry...

Almaty, let me start off by saying, i love your burro. if i have to live in Morocco, we are definitely getting a hemar (burro).

In addition, it is not a hate thread... Dude is the one that started it....

you can't be like, Ladies get off your fat be-hinds and quit stuffing your faces so you can look good for your man (who is prolly all big and fat cuz he's been eating all the fat, cream sauces, and desserts, etc....too.)

You can't say that and then not expect to have ladies get in an uproar--big and small--alike.

aw sweet sister, it was a joke and never aimed at a burro lover.....peace and goodness...dean

[MaRob 0]

I don't think it was written in meanness... maybe some tough love.... I know for me, I have just about been married for a month now, and am already fighting the weight gain... it is just different adjusting to another person's lifestyle and food habits. For example, he eats breakfast, which I never used to do... he also likes snacking late night, and I have fallen into it as well a few times.

I DO think that he can eat more than I can without it affecting him. I know I am suppose to eat less than him, because his body burns it off easier (higher metabolism). I don't think its fair, but its not 1950s, just science.

Luckily for me, he is health conscience, and we are both watching what we are doing, and trying to do things to stay active and healthy!

Good Topic!

Edited April 11, 2008 by MaRob

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Both still age, routines change as you age not so much going out running around, stay home more, eat at home as a family, not so much on the run type lifestyle, men find the remote plus the cooking of good meals, womens bodys just have things that change wether they want them to or not (happens).

[Alex & Rachel 78]

You eat as much as your partner, talking and munching!

What is that, you can't eat as much as your partner, that is insane. That is sooooooooooooooooo 1950's, also rub the pigs feet, and starve yourself, so he will continue to find you hot. I think I just threw up in my mouth Sorry about getting crazy, but I know men who use that tired excuse to cheat and leave their marriage. Death to you part, unless she gets fat, than you can dump her.

Um, well, the average woman shouldn't eat as much as the average man. Of course if you're taller than your husband then your required calorie intake is going to be about the same. No need to starve yourself, though - just eat slightly smaller portions!

[AlHayatZween 2]

aw sweet sister, it was a joke and never aimed at a burro lover.....peace and goodness...dean

Just as a sidenote: There are burros in my dowry. No burros, NO DEAL!

God Bless Morocco and Habibi!

Edited April 11, 2008 by AlHayatZween

[Nessa 23]

Charles didn't gain weight because I cook healthy. So he went from only eating canned food, packed or pizza to eat real food.

As for me, it's a different situation than most marriages. I came from a tropical country, where I can find fresh fruits and a larger variety easily than here, where most foods come in cans and boxes, and everything is larger portions. Plus, the fact that I was stuck at home at first, without being able to work and spending all day not being as active as I used to be when I was single. Plus living in a small town and out in the country, so I can't get on a bike or just walk throught the neighborhood to exercise. Plus not being able to drive a car at first, so I was stuck to my husband's schedule to drive me to the gym so I could exercise. Plus adjusting to the food here. You know, a lot of things that made it very hard for me to control my weight.

The thing is, take your time to work on your meal, you can eat healthy if you want.

[almaty 19]

aw sweet sister, it was a joke and never aimed at a burro lover.....peace and goodness...dean

Just as a sidenote: There are burros in my dowry. No burros, NO DEAL!

God Bless Morocco and Habibi!

insha'allah sister..you are indeed right thinking...dean

[Chica Yeyé 41]

So let us find out the factors that change your waist line from 10 to 18 within 6 to 12 months from marriage.

• You think you have found a partner for life, no need to attract him anymore. BS, BS, BS

• You need to let your hubby know that you are a good cook. Yeah right, because he married me so I could cook for him

• You cook for the family, giving preference to their choice. Errrr.... not really. We eat quite healthy stuff, and when I want something B won't eat, then he eats air, or something else.

• You eat as much as your partner, talking and munching! If Bren talked and munched while eating, he would be out the door faster than a burp!!!

• You eat the left-over, trying not to waste food. Yup, we do. As lunch.

• Your partner encourages you to eat more showing that your extra fat is not going to turn him off. Who wrote this stuff? Jabba the Hutt????

• You want to be loved unconditionally, not happy with the marriage, feeling disrespected, rejected and unloved. Unconditional love? No comment.

• Pregnancy occurs

I have actually lost a ton of weight since marrying the redhead. I stand now happy -Bren says skinny- at 110 lbs. the redhead on the other hand, seems to be gaining weight.... maybe I should NOT love him anymore....

[Marilyn. 340]

yes I know I gained some weight after I got married but so what.. my hubby still loves me...

Edited April 11, 2008 by MarilynP

[sereia 0]

Actually, there is a lot of truth in that article.

I cook dinner every night and even though it is healthy food, still I tend to eat more when I am eating with my husband than I did on my own when I was likely to grab just a salad or throw a frozen Lean Cuisine dinner into the oven. He likes cookies and I used never to have them around, but because he likes to have some in his lunch, we have them around - and yes, I will now have 2 or 3 cookies during the evening. I used to live in the upstairs half of a house - I ran up and down stairs multiple times a day. Here, our house is all on one floor - a significant form of easy exercise is now gone! I used to work all day and then be busy most evenings and weekends running around from activity to meeting to 're-enacting' (primitive camping). Now, he works all day and I do my activities during the day, but in the evenings, we are both sedentary - he is tired after his 12 hours (I don't blame him), and this is time we can share, even if it is just sitting together. Doing physical things on the weekend doesn't make up for its lack during the previous 5 days.

I experienced the same circumstances in my marriage. I used to throw in a lean cuisine, chop up a salad, or something simple for my meals. But with my husband I had to make lunch and dinner...though healthy.. I tended to eat more than normal. Now I'm back at the gym and everything is evening itself out.

Edited April 11, 2008 by sereia

[nin 1]

And the fact that many brides-to-be DIET to fit in a smaller than their normal size dress for their wedding day doesn't count? The poor bridezillas' bodies clearly go into starvation mode and once the whole wedding buisiness is done the pounds come back (and then some) and the hair comes off.

Seriously, I think it's very easy to slip into comfortable mode when you feel loved and secure in a relationship. This isn't BAD in itself, actually I think it sounds quite healthy. This doesn't mean that you should stop taking care of yourself, excercise wise, or stop trying to look nice for your partner though.

[AlHayatZween 2]

I have actually lost a ton of weight since marrying the redhead. I stand now happy -Bren says skinny- at 110 lbs. the redhead on the other hand, seems to be gaining weight.... maybe I should NOT love him anymore....

i don't know... it's probably different for everyone. some women gain, some men gain... can't it just have something to do with aging and a slowing metabolism as well, for both men and women?

i have to agree with Len & Bren... i come from a family of all women (no brothers, only us sisters), and we've all lost weight after marriage. even my mom got skinnier after she got married.

i can't speak for them, but for me... i blame USCIS for my weight loss.

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

I suppose one of the main reasons women gain weight after marriage is because they have kids.

Though I suspect it might also have something to do with taking on their husbands eating habits - men tend to eat more. I certainly noticed a difference when I started living with my now husband. I've had to reverse it as I certainly can't eat as much as I used to without gaining weight. I can't really see letting myself go just because I'm married.

[Alex+R 0]

Yes, if you go out with your girlfriends, they're not going to order an appetizer, a meal and a dessert, and then have a snack when they get home. You probably won't make a big thing out of each meal when you're single either. Just grab what you can and only cook when you're with someone else.

When you live with a man, you forget that you can't eat like he does. You pig out like that. For every pound he gains you'll gain two.

And if the man just keeps getting fatter while wanting you to lose weight you become resentful of that, and also that environment makes it a lot harder to lose weight in. When you live alone you can just not buy things. When you live with a man, don't expect him to help you at all if you want to lose weight. It will only be harder.