I just lost it with my husband!

[tammy2688 1]

I hear ya belinda haha. My husbands brother not only got married between 2006 and 2008 but had a daughter already! Oh boy...he doesnt want children verbally but oh man how long can someone be a virtual wife!

belinda i know i know i know you know all of what im about to tell you! but pleassssse dont give this up, he will be SO happy with you here. please dont let this go till you see the end of it please, I knooooooooooooooow theres an end! Look at cheryl and medo...they finally did it! and I KNOW people from Iran immigrate here darn it! the whole country cant be banned! My mind is always floating to you. you keep as busy as you need (I know I am) and don't give ear to whatever the hell is happenning externally. if i think that way, my husband's brother beat us by 6 years after getting married a year after us oi!

With love

Tammy

[S and S 12]

Belinda, I will keep you in my prayers. I am so sorry you have to wait this long, but I hope he comes soon so you can see that all this suffering was worth it. You are a wonderful woman to make it this far, never forget that.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Oh boy...he doesnt want children verbally but oh man how long can someone be a virtual wife!

I've been a virtual wife for more than 3 years, so far.

Edited April 11, 2008 by Virtual wife

[DanielParul 50]

I can totally understand what you are going through...

I though that once we were together everything will be perfect.. We are still settling down and sometimes I want to just talk about how I feel lonely and miss my family and friends. In the beginning, it was so frustrating for me coz he would give me a solution for everything I felt. I have realised, he does it not because he does not understand but, because he feels for me and wants to make everything right for me and sometimes does not know how to put it across

Just the way men and women feel and communicate differently...

Now I just tell him when I want him to just listen and give me a hug and a kiss and when I actually want a solution.. I am happier coz he does what I need from him and he is happier coz he knows he is making me feel better by doing the right thing rather that guessing...

Try, it might help

[Nutty 2]

Thank you. Probably the best advice given in dealing with my husband.

Maybe you and I are married to the same man??? Just joking.

It's good to hear from you Belinda.

I was, and am, worried for you since I did not hear from you or see your posts.

I hope you are ok.

[Imua 0]

I have been going through a real roller coaster of emotions these last few weeks/months (even had a dream where i was on a roller coaster, LOL). Sometimes the whole situation gets to me, the waiting, the difficulties and struggles I know we will face when he comes, the preparations my roommate and I will need to make, at worst the times when I wonder if he is only using me for a GC and will leave me after I have made so many sacrifices...It drives me crazy sometimes... I am all alone now until my roommate comes back on the 29th and I get really irritable and snappish sometimes and sadly it has been affecting my job - I need to deal with really spoiled entitled Upper East Side princesses at 8:00 in the morning and they have no idea what I am going through - that is no excuse to be rude but I am just saying that is how depressed I get sometimes... when I try to tell Govi he just says 'be happy' and 'why be so negative'... sigh... My mom honestly thinks I should just get a divorce if I have any doubts...

I don't want to go on meds because I don't want to become dependent on Big Pharma - my mom is a nurse, totally bought into the western medical establishment and she has told me to go 'get help' but my insurance does not cover extensive talk therapy and I know they will just hand me a scrip and say 'bye'... I am not suicidal though sometimes in my darkest moods I wish it were an option...it is a real struggle to remain on an even keel during this process, and I know it will not end when he gets the visa...

[jom 4]

Love conquers all. Hang in there. . you will be together very soon.

[DanielParul 50]

Thank you. Probably the best advice given in dealing with my husband.

Maybe you and I are married to the same man??? Just joking.

It's good to hear from you Belinda.

I was, and am, worried for you since I did not hear from you or see your posts.

I hope you are ok.

If we are.. GOD the poor man