pls help

[djcess 0]

The CD with the yahoo conversations- i just have it here, it is not sent yet, i meant i was going to use it for the interview. With the petition we sent only proof of meeting in person. And again abot the CD- i can print everything but it will take thousand pages. I was also thinking that they could not use this CD in their system. So, am i supposed to print all 1000 pages and bring them to the interview along with another 20-30 pages of phone bills? And about your question in the previous post, i think you are right- i suppose will be asked the same question at the interview.

at least 5 ym conversations per month will do starting jan 2005 upto present. As for my phone bill and emails I did the same by printing 5 copies per month. by the way, make sure your emails don't have "to my wife" or stuff like that that can lead to questions.

[maya62 7]

I agree with Rebeccajo you already have an attorney so let him/her handle things. As far as your fiance's drinking problem goes please, please , please be very careful and aware of what you are getting yourelf into. I have personal experience with an ex with a drinking problem I wouldn't wish it on my own worse enemy!

Best of luck to you

Adele

Exactly.

I also know that, when I was "falling in love" with the ex with the drinking problem, no one could have dissuaded me from that path. So, in the interest of making a constructive comment that may be helpful to the OP in the future: When I found that I was in over my head with the alcoholism, I found the folks at Al-Anon to be MOST helpful (although I really didn't want to hear what they had to say at first). It is a LONG road, but if one comes out the other end with one's sanity, life has the potential to be sweet.

Best wishes to the OP.

Maya

PS I agree that you need an attorney, maybe two.

[Bobbie 1]

That's why i did not want to post this. Please, if somebody has a similar experience or can give me opinion about how this could affect my visa, i will be grateful. But do not ask me questions like why do i want to get involved with a person with such a backgrund. The answer is- because the love does not know limit and because before you fall in love you dont ask somebody for his background and because we simply love each other and because what matters for me is the present and the FUTURE, not the past, and yes, i believe that the people can change if they meet someone to share their life with, because loneliness is the worst thing that could happen to anyone and loneliness can make you take the wrong decisions in your life. The loneliness kills, the love brings back to life. This is only my opinion and as far as i know this person with the terrible past, i know that i will have happy future with him. I kinow him for a year and half and i know that the love is the most powerfull feeling and it can change anything and anybody. All of us here are in love and all of us should know this.

I am reading these old files, and while this is a year ago, I have to say something. IF you are offended...get over it. First off, Love does know limits. It is my little girl heart that does not know. Love knows that the person whom I need and want in my life should not be someone whose history is littered with alchol abuse and my future will be a mirror image of this past.

I am sorry to say, however you can see your future in his past. I think you are idealistic or very young, either way, God Bless you for not being realistic. Realism gets in the way of a healthy fantasty life. Love does not change people. People change people.

I do hope things work out for you, but truly, being polly-anna doesnt help you or him.

Good Luck

[MM_MS 0]

Hi, i did not post this by now because i was so afraid of negative answers to my questions, but i regulary read all the posts here and i see that i can really get a good advice here. Here is our situation- my US fiance and I (bulgarian citizen) met online about an year and half ago. We spend at least 3-4 hours every day on the phone or in yahoo messenger. The problem is he has, i would say a long criminal record with a lot of charges for drung driving and disorderly conduct in the past. None of them for domestic or sexual abuse, which i know mathers for the new law about the marriage broker act. He is curently on probation period for drunk driving, he is not allowed to leave USA. But at Christmas I went to Ciudad Juarez and he crossed the border, he did not have any problems. So, we spent 3 beautiful days on the US-Mexico border. He submitted K1 petition in march.

Please, after reading this, tell me, do you think we would have any problems with the petition or my visa because of his criminal record or because when we met in Mexico he was actually illegal there. They will know this because they will know about his probation.

And we only spent 3 days together, would that be a problem?

And about the evidence of our relationship, beside all the prove that we met in person (tickets, visa, pictures), all we have is a bunch of phone bills and a CD with hundrets of yahoo conversations saved. We dont really send letters or cards by post. And just a few e-mails. All is only phone bills and yahoo mesenger conversations.

I am so worried that something could go wrong and it makes the waiting harder. We went trough the hell before we decided how to meet in person- I applied for B2-got denied, he applied for travel permit- got denied, I started looking for a job- paid a bunch of money, nothing, we tried so many things before deciding to go to meet at the border because we wanted everything to be absolutely legal, but nothing worked, so this was our only chance and he crossed the border. Dont ask me how i felt flying on my own there and not knowing at all that he will be able to cross the border.

All we want is just to be together, like all of you. Please, give me your opinion about our situation. Just to add that we have an attorney, which i think is good for a complicated situation like ours.

Thank you so much for reading this. We are both deadly worried.

His behavior raises major red flags, as does yours. He's been arrested several times for disorderly conduct and drunk driving. Then to meet you, he crosses the Mexican border illegally. You spend a total of three days together, and wonder if US Immigration will approve a K-1. Are you serious?? Don't count on it.

[TimsDaisy 0]

His convictions matter - in fact, certain sorts of convictions are the reason for things like IMBRA - to protect YOU/some innocent foreign citizen from getting set up and brought over by an abusive monster. (I am in NO WAY SAYING that's your situation - I'm just saying, policy-wise, part of the concern was that the US govn't knew about some baaad people and some immigrant wives got murdered.)

As for this:

Please get a lawyer. No one here can answer you effectively.

We already have a lawyer. I just need your opinion, sometimes opinion from people like you matters more to me than an attorney's opinion. Anyway, our attorney thinks we should not have problems, but the effect of the new law that requires US fiance's criminal record is still unknown.

Honey, seriously, if you don't trust the opinion of your lawyer, you need to get a new lawyer. DO NOT USE VJers as an excuse to ignore the advice YOU'RE PAYING FOR!

Seriously, if you have a qualified attorney, trust him or her to do what you have paid for. Cooperative clients good. Second-guessing clients bad. Really - no one here can know as much as your lawer who can hear your WHOLE STORY and see all relevant documents.

You don't need our opinions. You need good legal advice. You've sought good legal advice. Take it.

[athena_ny 1]

Why are we responding to a year old post? The OP is probably long gone.

His convictions matter - in fact, certain sorts of convictions are the reason for things like IMBRA - to protect YOU/some innocent foreign citizen from getting set up and brought over by an abusive monster. (I am in NO WAY SAYING that's your situation - I'm just saying, policy-wise, part of the concern was that the US govn't knew about some baaad people and some immigrant wives got murdered.)

As for this:

Please get a lawyer. No one here can answer you effectively.

We already have a lawyer. I just need your opinion, sometimes opinion from people like you matters more to me than an attorney's opinion. Anyway, our attorney thinks we should not have problems, but the effect of the new law that requires US fiance's criminal record is still unknown.

Honey, seriously, if you don't trust the opinion of your lawyer, you need to get a new lawyer. DO NOT USE VJers as an excuse to ignore the advice YOU'RE PAYING FOR!

Seriously, if you have a qualified attorney, trust him or her to do what you have paid for. Cooperative clients good. Second-guessing clients bad. Really - no one here can know as much as your lawer who can hear your WHOLE STORY and see all relevant documents.

You don't need our opinions. You need good legal advice. You've sought good legal advice. Take it.

[heishe 2]

1.- Where is he right now?

If he is in US because he crossed illegaly the border then there is no way to do something for him, he should come back but without being detected. After that send a K1 visa and cross your fingers.

If he outside of US u just send a K1 visa to him and if u are so worry about his problem with the law talk to your lawyer but in my opinion the only way to know if he can get a visa is actually send it one to him.

c u later

P.D. am not a lawyer or nothing like it, it's just my opinion.

What in tarnation.