getting harder everyday

[L & P 0]

hi all......don't worry I am just venting again........i try to keep busy and I am still working but it is getting harder everyday i am obsess with USCIS site which i check a minimum of 5-10 times a day. Even if as a manager in the UK for the NHS I am very busy with my work....it actually starting to influence on the way I work...i have family coming over from France on Friday for a week so It might help but any other kind of advice would be very much appreaciated ....my SO who is the USC give me all the support he can but our process been going on since April 2007 ( file got lost in post) .....Can i get any advise on how to cope a little better ?

thanks

[aravis227 1]

I can't even imagine how hard this must be after waiting that long! It's only been two months since I sent mine in and it's already killing me. I'm getting very involved with some of my hobbies. I do historical costuming, so I'm about to launch into a huge project that will probably take longer to finish than the rest of this process. I'm also very involved with church. Much as it always hurts to walk away from my computer (and my fiance), it's good to get a few hours of distraction. I also play a lot of video games.

I also bake and cook a lot! That one is really fun because it distracts me for awhile, plus there's something delicious to eat afterwards!

Edited April 9, 2008 by aravis227

[sara..... 371]

hi all......don't worry I am just venting again........i try to keep busy and I am still working but it is getting harder everyday i am obsess with USCIS site which i check a minimum of 5-10 times a day. Even if as a manager in the UK for the NHS I am very busy with my work....it actually starting to influence on the way I work...i have family coming over from France on Friday for a week so It might help but any other kind of advice would be very much appreaciated ....my SO who is the USC give me all the support he can but our process been going on since April 2007 ( file got lost in post) .....Can i get any advise on how to cope a little better ?

thanks

im sorry ur feeling bad today i know what u mean its difficult my work and my schooling is suffering a lot too.........only thing i can suggest is maybe play a game on ur computer thats what i have been doing cuz i cant concentrate on anything

but u r in my prayers and i hope ur get ur noa2 soon

sara

[L & P 0]

great and hope all goes quick for you !!! i live in UK but i am french and don't know many people around here in UK or have many friends ...i was married here but my husband and myself had a very " closed" life that is what destroyed us .....but i do try to get busy with computer games and with work and with my daughter

[L & P 0]

you are such a sweetie Sara ...and i know it is harder for you because last time i left my baby was on 4th January ....been so long for you.....not sure how you can handle it ....but our turns is coming soon

[sara..... 371]

great and hope all goes quick for you !!! i live in UK but i am french and don't know many people around here in UK or have many friends ...i was married here but my husband and myself had a very " closed" life that is what destroyed us .....but i do try to get busy with computer games and with work and with my daughter

watch lol we will both probably get ours the same day lol

[DARUMA07 25]

Try to focus on your ultimate goal.... Your wedding, things you will do together and the life you will share!

One day you will look back on all this and just say"WHEW, WE DID IT"

Hang in there.....You'll be fine!

[BlakeandOlha 0]

hi all......don't worry I am just venting again........i try to keep busy and I am still working but it is getting harder everyday i am obsess with USCIS site which i check a minimum of 5-10 times a day. Even if as a manager in the UK for the NHS I am very busy with my work....it actually starting to influence on the way I work...i have family coming over from France on Friday for a week so It might help but any other kind of advice would be very much appreaciated ....my SO who is the USC give me all the support he can but our process been going on since April 2007 ( file got lost in post) .....Can i get any advise on how to cope a little better ?

thanks

I am very sorry for your situation. I haven't had to wait but a third of what you've had to go through and I hate it! I've been trying to not focus as much on the approval date as the post approval activities. Right now I'm in the midst of planning the multitude of wedding events. It's stressful in its own right, but I haven't been focusing on timelines as much. That's probably pretty weak advice, given your situation, but it's the best I can come up with.

Edited April 9, 2008 by BlakeandOlha

[sara..... 371]

you are such a sweetie Sara ...and i know it is harder for you because last time i left my baby was on 4th January ....been so long for you.....not sure how you can handle it ....but our turns is coming soon

thank you but really right now im not handling it too well.......im going quietly insane........does the term blubbering idiot give u a mental pic of what im like lol cuz thats me .........

[Zee Bee 61]

Take a look at my timeline...no walk in the park either

Here is how I coped...and am still coping today:

(1) I cry and let it all out.

(2) I DID NOT CHECK THE USCIS WEBSITE. When we were waiting for our approval my fiance (the sensible one in the relationship ) told me that I could only check the website once a week. Let me tell you, sometimes I would go 3 weeks without checking it because I was not obssessed.

(3) I stayed away from the K1 forum. I would spend most of my time in regional forums or off topic. I would pop in and congratulate people who filed in the same month as I did, but that was it. I didn't go reading every "Approved" post because I knew I would get depressed. When we got the approval e-mail I was shocked.

(4) I stopped looking at the timelines.

(5) I found something to do to take my mind off the process. I started reading more, going out for drives...anything to get me away from the computer. I started taking detours home from work so that by the time I got home it was dinner and then bed...no time to check on an approval.

I hope this helps

[*JG* 2]

This is the very reason I always suggest not checking the site every day. All that will do is drive you crazy.

[L & P 0]

thanks for advice Zee and mojo..i will try but it is still hard

[Zee Bee 61]

thanks for advice Zee and mojo..i will try but it is still hard

Hard...yes.

Impossibe...no.

[L & P 0]

true as my SO always say ....it does P*** him off it is taking so long but we will be together soon

[Cassie 8]

(5) I found something to do to take my mind off the process. I started reading more, going out for drives...anything to get me away from the computer. I started taking detours home from work so that by the time I got home it was dinner and then bed...no time to check on an approval.

This is great advice. The more you dwell on the process, the more you suffer. Dwell on the future, and not on the present. It's hard, but it will make you feel better in the long run.