So does it really suck when they get here or what?

[palilover 1]

My husband doesn't want to eat leftovers, ever, but also will not waste food. So he will eat them if he feels he has to eat them.

I believe on teh afadavit of support I864 it states the immigrant is inelligable for student loans that are federal. Scholarships, etc are totally up to those who give them out. So he would be elligable if he meets those requirements.

shoot. I forgot about the AOS:) Well, I don't even consider loans for myself at this point so I would not for him either. I hate interests:(

[Nasturtium 500]

My husband doesn't want to eat leftovers, ever, but also will not waste food. So he will eat them if he feels he has to eat them.

I believe on teh afadavit of support I864 it states the immigrant is inelligable for student loans that are federal. Scholarships, etc are totally up to those who give them out. So he would be elligable if he meets those requirements.

shoot. I forgot about the AOS:) Well, I don't even consider loans for myself at this point so I would not for him either. I hate interests:(

I hope I answered your question then He is allowed to recieve private aide. The federal part is part of not allowing him to fal on public assistance or be paid for in any way through public funding. So I would assume that also makes him inelligable for pell grants. It's not a big deal. Ammar is saving up enough to pay his won way and if he receives funding like an assistanceship, then great. if not, he's prepared to pay.

[palilover 1]

My husband doesn't want to eat leftovers, ever, but also will not waste food. So he will eat them if he feels he has to eat them.

I believe on teh afadavit of support I864 it states the immigrant is inelligable for student loans that are federal. Scholarships, etc are totally up to those who give them out. So he would be elligable if he meets those requirements.

shoot. I forgot about the AOS:) Well, I don't even consider loans for myself at this point so I would not for him either. I hate interests:(

I hope I answered your question then He is allowed to recieve private aide. The federal part is part of not allowing him to fal on public assistance or be paid for in any way through public funding. So I would assume that also makes him inelligable for pell grants. It's not a big deal. Ammar is saving up enough to pay his won way and if he receives funding like an assistanceship, then great. if not, he's prepared to pay.

that's cool. So basically just dont have him fill out the FAFSA since that is where most fed money comes from I think.

Apart from construction related work (which has taken a hit in the economy and I'm not the most optimistic about), he has expressed interest in being a mechanic. So hopefully technical school won't be "too expensive". And in a worst case scenerio, he can get any old job to help pay for it as well. And who knows....maybe even get an apprenticeship somewhere.

[JeanneVictoria 55]

And one other question. How many of your husbands attended school when they got here? Did they get eligible for any kind of financial aid? how did they deal with the English there?

My husband seemed to be open minded to school today, but we'll see. I'm a bit worried about him because of the crappy economy so I want him to be able to have an opportunity to learn something new to broaden his skill level. And of course he's going to need to get out of the hosue too, esp when I start going back to school. I don't want him to feel left out and alone. He will get sad because he is alone and his wife is not there so i have to do everything to keep him busy. He sparked some interest in wanting to see if there was courses in auto mechanics or something so I said I will look around. Did anyone have luck with getting financial aid though for their husband's to take classes or did you have to pay out of pocket?

Permanent residents are eligible for federal aid, grants and scholarships in an undergraduate program. My husband plans on beginning his Masters program in January 09. He won't be eligible for federal aid, but he will be eligible for private organizational grants. Perhaps your husband could begin at the community college level and take the assement test. They have many vocational training programs. This is a great beginning. He would be eligible for grants and scholarships. Also international students are required to take the TOEFL (Test Of English As A Foreign Language) exam. Good luck!!

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

We had food issues too. He loves all of his food to be fresh and we live in an area where you just can't go every day and get the freshest foods. He has since adjusted and needless to say that he has gained 12 pounds at his doctors visit.

Also to add, my husband had to adjust to being a father to a newborn baby. He had never changed a diaper, made a bottle or fed a baby. He had never cooked either. His mother totally took care of him. He really had adjustments but he's the best dad ever to our son and can change diapers really well now

My husband loves fresh food too unless he gets pizza or something from a restaurant. Fresh food is more expensive though too than canned or frozen food. Anyone else have issues getting their husband's to eat leftovers? I looked forward to having a husband who would help me eat the food so it would not sit in my fridge for a week. I get sick of leftovers. But last time he was here, he would not touch them. He'll eat it fresh, but not anything leftover. (well he did eat leftover pizza though......silly guy why is he like that?

My men friends (who are female) tell me great how I've trained my mena man to be so open minded on various things. But YOU......training him to change diapers? WOW that's awesome! Wait til I tell my mena gf's that, lol Well, if anyone can train a mena man, it'd be an American woman:) lol

Well my husband has been helping me clean the house and organize things but I cant tell anyone he is helping me or he gets upset. Like I told my friend... and he said .."You haha me and I am slave for you?" But if I dont tell anyone he is helping me , he helps all over the house. Except no one can know that he's helping me, ya dig?

My husband was out all hours of the night with his friends alot having fun and doing stuff. If I flipped a gasket everytime he was out , I would stay permanently flipped.Its been a weird hard adjustment, but we are surving..

Um.. I am not used to someone jumping on me all the time ( if you know what I mean) or putting on makeup or cooking for someone else etc. On top of everything, I am working too. CODE WORD... exhausted

[Ban Hammer 13,344]

Um.. I am not used to someone jumping on me all the time ( if you know what I mean) or putting on makeup or cooking for someone else etc. On top of everything, I am working too. CODE WORD... exhausted

[Henia 11]

Hello ... without rading throu all the posts ... just the main topic: I think the 'it sucks here' idea varys couple to couple. Also your time in the US or anywhere else for that matter depends wholly on what you make of it! Most couples, that I know of have troubles ... but who doesn't? We are not in living in Paradise, even if they come to the US! And with the ecomony, this so-called US Paradise will be less and less a Paradise for our incoming SOs! So SOs better have a clear picture of the realities of here in the USA and make due with what there is!

[tammy2688 1]

I agree.

[sarahaziz 0]

it's far from being horrible i love my babe so much ...sadly he's with my dad working so much late "to make me miss him"